Hello, I’m Vanessa, I’m 23 years old and I’m French. I discovered anal sex when I was 17 and immediately loved it. I then practiced a lot with my different boyfriends and even with one-night stands. I have always felt different in my relationship to anal sex compared to my friends who find it weird while I love it. 
I’ve been with a new boyfriend for 6 months. He’s great and adorable but things were a little complicated at first because he has a really, really big cock and I’m a tiny petite girl 5’ and 105 lbs. He is a little self-conscious about the size of his penis because it has complicated several of his relationships in the past.
We took vaginal sex very slowly at the beginning and anal sex was unthinkable but 2 months ago I wanted to be sodomized by him so badly that I wanted to overcome my fear. I bought bigger and bigger plugs to open my anus and finally we did it! It was incredible! I could never imagine feeling such pleasure. 
Since then I have been completely obsessed with anal sex. I really only want to do that but on the other hand I’m also afraid because as I said I’m tiny and I don’t want to damage my anus with his huge cock. I really hope to find help and answers on this forum.
Hi and welcome. Since the anus is a muscle it can easily be trained to take bigger cocks then your vagina can. If he doensn’t hurt you, you need to worry. You anus will not get loose or get damaged if ypu feel comfortable.
I will also approve you as full member.
Thank you very much for the approval.
And thank you for your reassuring message. I read and hear so many contradictory things that I’m happy to be able to talk to a real person who really practices anal sex.
You are very welcome Vanessa. Your English is excellent. Backdoorlover is right. Training your muscles can help make anal sex easier. It takes a little bit of time but it is worth it. Have you considered using lube? It may help. The anus can stretch a surprising amount!
Thanks for my English Abbi . I think it’s easier for me to write than to speak. 
What training are you talking about? To strengthen my anal muscle? To enlarge my ass hole? or both?
Have I read something about kegel exercises? do you think it would be useful?
I must also say that my recent experience with my boyfriend’s huge cock made me understand that for me the bigger and deeper is in my ass, the more pleasure I get 
. I would really like to manage and explore this as best I can.
For lubricant, yes I use it, especially with my boyfriend, he is so huge for my little anus . I use Durex Perfect Gliss. Do you have any better advice for me?
You can try coconut oil. Since we tried it we love it. It tastes good, it’s natural and it keeps lasting as long as needed.
And you can buy it at the Carrefour 
I ‘ve tried double anal with my wife, using a dildo the size of my cock and my cock on top of it. She said it was a very horny experience to be streched so much while I assfucked her.
So yes, most anal loving girls and woman will like the feeling of having her asshole filled with something big.
Welcome to the forum, Vanessa!
You’ve found the right place for your questions.
I think the best comparison for anal training is yoga. In both cases, you slowly and painlessly expand the range in which your muscles can move. Anal sex can cause damage to your rectum, just like a yoga pose can damage your muscles. Many young women see anal as something to “endure” and think pain is a natural part of it. Hence why there are more and cases of anal fissures and tears reported.
However, if one goes slow, uses lube, is relaxed, goes for a painless experience etc… just like you have done, there is no risk of injury.
As far as lube goes, you have a number of options. I don’t know the specific one you mention, but you’ll often find lubes made specifically for anal. Be careful, some contain numbing agents, you don’t want those. Others are just a little thicker than regular lube. Those are fine.
If you’re using condoms with your boyfriend, go for water or silicone based. Oil damages latex. Many people swear by silicone lube, I’m not a big fan.
If you don’t use condoms, you can try coconut oil, many swear by it. And if you want to go all DIY, you can buy some xanthan gum powder and cook your own lube. It spoils relatively quickly, but you’ll have a completely additive-free, dirt-cheap lube. And by changing the xanthan to water ratio, you can even vary the thickness to your liking.
Thanks for the tip about coconut oil! I’ll go buy some tomorrow to try it.
Two years ago, during my summer vacation, I tried classic double penetration several times with two guys I’d met. It was amazing! 
But now, knowing what I know about my enjoyment of anal sex, I think double anal could be even better when Iwill be ready.
Thank you so much for all this advice on anal lube.
I understand what you’re saying about anal training and its comparison to yoga. It makes sense, especially since I’ve been practicing yoga for years.
Regarding anal training, do you think practicing anal sex is enough, or should I wear bigger and bigger butt plugs all day long? These days, foreplay is long so my boyfriend can take my ass, and I really want to be able to have direct, brutal anal sex without foreplay whenever I want, despite his big cock.
I wish I didn’t have to make so much effort to have these absolutely magical anal orgasms.
I love double anal although it took me some time to work up to that. I was lucky to have another couple who are also friends who shared our passion for anal sex. It was that safe space that allowed me to explore double anal sex and to stretch myself gradually. It took patience but now my ass will accept 2 cocks (sometimes 3). It is important to listen to your body and respond carefully to pain. DA is an acquired taste literally!
Plugging, especially before anal, can absolutely help. If you want direct, brutal anal sex without foreplay, knowing how to relax your hole actively is probably more important, though. Luckily, plugging your hole or generally playing with it regularly will help with that as well.
I’d also recommend kegel exercises in general, and ones focused on your butt, so that you learn to better control your pelvic muscles. If you can, get yourself a copy of Dr. Jack Morin’s “Anal Pleasure and Health”, it’s an excellent book with so much information and a lot of exercises.
I’d focus on foreplay. Get a nice stainless steel or glass plug. I use my wife’s plug to tease her ass before anal. If your boyfriend is into anal, it’s very erotic playing with a woman’s ass and watching it swallow a plug. Pulling it back out and watching that hole stretch and then wink back in place is hot. Your boyfriend should spend some time entertaining and stretching your ass before he takes it.
The more anal you have, the easier it gets as you learn how to stretch. My wife can take impromptu anal but the anal play adds a lot to the experience. Practice makes perfect and who doesn’t like to “practice” anal sex.
It’s true that for someone like me who loves anal sex and has just discovered that the deeper and thicker the penetration, the more pleasure they get, the thought of being penetrated by two cocks at the same time in the ass is very, very exciting. I think it’s going to be one of my goals as soon as I can enlarge my asshole.
Abbi, since when and how often have you been practicing double anal?
A question for you, @Vanessa , how did you find this forum?
I just found Dr. Jack Morin’s “Anal Pleasure and Health” online and ordered it. Thanks for the advice.
I’m going to use a butt plug every night; it should really help. This summer, to earn money for my studies, I’m working as a waitress at a bar. I’m also going to try wearing it when I work.
I’m going to try using large plugs, just enough to be a little uncomfortable at first, but not so big that it hurts. Then I’ll increase the size little by little.
Yes, I’m going to start doing Kegel training; it’ll be a good thing, I’m sure.
I actually never thought about asking my boyfriend to play with the plug. Usually, I keep the plug in even while he fucks my pussy. Then, before moving on to anal sex, I remove the plug so he can fist my ass with one, two, then three fingers before fucking me.
I’m going to suggest he play with the plug and maybe even other, bigger plugs before fucking me in the ass.
Do you think fisting my ass is also a good workout?
I was looking for information and advice on anal sex, and specifically a forum where I could talk and ask questions.
Google quickly suggested “Only Anal Life,” and it seemed like exactly what I was looking for.
Fisting is at a completely different level than anal with a large cock or even double anal.
My wife’s limit is 2” (about 51mm) in a glass or stainless plug or dildo. I’m average length but thick, and the larger diameter toys helped her learn how to take me anally.
Unlike a human penis, stainless and glass toys have no “give”. A fist doesn’t have much “give” either because of bones in the hand.
If you decide to try fisting, proceed with extreme caution and patience. I recommend you experiment first with large plugs and dildos. My wife squirts when stretched by the 2” diameter plug.
Happy to provide advice as you explore, and enjoy, your anal journey.
Two things: I think you’re mistranslating something here, @Vanessa: In English, “fisting” always means inserting a whole hand into an orifice. If your boyfriend only uses one, two or three fingers, it’d be called “fingering”.
As for extended plugging, especially at work: I would advise against it, and against a plug that is slightly uncomfortable as well. I say that for two reasons: One, you’ll move around a lot and what’s uncomfortable when inserted can quickly become painful when you make a wrong movement. At work, you might not always have the luxury of fixing it right away.
And secondly: Lube. The reason many people like silicone lube is that it’s long lasting. But it’s very thin and can destroy some silicone toys. If you use water or oil based lube, you’ll run into problems two or three hours in: Your skin will absorb the water/oil and suddenly you have a big plug up your butt with no lubrication. It’ll be very uncomfortable. Ask me how I know 