Too much lube?

I’ve always heard that, for anal sex, there’s no such thing as “too much lube”. So, during all these years, we’ve never run out of lube here. We have a personal preference for silicone-based lube because they last long enough for us to sleep all night with me sticked inside her.

But lately I’ve noticed that the same amount of lube results in too much slipperiness at the morning, which gives me some difficulties to cum. I need to feel her tightness, I need more grip, so I’m consciously reducing the quantity of lube little by little. It looks like her ass has been accumulating a bit of lube over all these years. Maybe in a few years we’ll reach the skill level of some couples here, who can do it using only saliva.

My wife produces a thick, anal mucous. This is the natural function of the digestive system. It’s thick, white, and opaque in appearance.

She cleans out 95% of the time before an anal session but the anal mucous remains in her rectum. I think the water or saline from her pre-anal enema helps regenerate her anal mucous. The mucous is an excellent lubricant.

I’ve accidentally injested a large glob of her anal mucous when it slipped out into my mouth while I was toying her ass in 69 during anal foreplay. There is no taste to it and it didn’t kill me. Early in our anal journey, she gushed so much in my mouth while sticking a dildo in her ass in 69 that I’ve choked. That doesn’t happen as much anymore.

When I remove plugs from her ass, it’s covered in this mucous I spread it on her ass to help reinsert it. When I’m ready to take her, I only need a little saliva to wet the area around her sphincter to penetrate her. As I inch my way into her ass, it picks up the mucous and lubricates my cock. Subsequent thrusts pick up more mucous as I penetrate to full depth.

We NEVER need to use lube, even for longer sessions. Occasionally, we’ll have sessions where she wants a second anal orgasm after I’ve cum in her ass. We have large silicone and glsss anal dildos I use to help her achieve another anal orgasm. I’m usually able to insert the glass dildo without lube or saliva, but I need a little lube or saliva to insert the more flaccid silicone piece.

Our anal journey started 7 years ago when she started HRT and her libido was restored. I’m 7” in girth when erect, and this was the reason my wife said she’d never be able to take my cock in her ass. That’s ancient history now, and for a woman who declared she’d never be able to take me anally, she does so now with aplomb and doesn’t even need lube.

During our last session, she was so “wet” in her ass she had to feel where my cock was, mistakenly believing I slipped into her pussy. She also believes anal foreplay (and wearing plugs) contributes to the amount of mucous she produces.

I’m sure others produce the mucous. When you do, you might be able to minimize the amount of lube you use, at least for initial penetration. Both of us enjoy the “dance” of initial penetration when I carefully and deliberately penetrate her ass until I’m balls deep. This started several years ago when she requested we do it without lube.

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What Colt calls muccous, my wife and I call “butter in her ass”. Sometimes I penetrate her dry. Slowly and carefully. After I’m totally in, and assfucking her at full dept, the “butter” starts lubing us from the inside. It’s great.

We normally use coconut oil, the foodgrade kind. I too reduced the use of lube a lot, because I need to feel her spincter squeezing around my cock and she want to feel me fucking her asshole. Too much lube lowers our pleasure.

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Reading these anecdotes was kind of hot. I love the idea of doing it safely but all natural.

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I think I’m in the “the more lube the better” camp. I mostly use a water-based lube and reapplying constantly. It’s actually really sexy to me when he adds more lube when we’re getting dry. Maybe when I’m more experienced we’ll use less (it would be nice for my bank account!), but decreasing rn just sounds like a recipe for discomfort and bleeding, and I don’t want any part of that!

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For me, the less lube the better. Just use a little (preferably silicone) lube on a dildo or plug to warm and open up, and thats it. To much lube is less feel and friction and so is less enjoyable for both.

We went from a big jar of coconut oil a year to 3 years with that same jar cause nowadys a fingertip is plenty. Her asshole can take me dry too, if I’m loo lazy to get the lube.

Diffence is in penetration style:

With lube, balls deep in her asshole in one trust

No lube, gentle entry and waiting untill she takes me in deeper.

Both are very erotic experiences. So with lube is when I just need to pound her ass and we are horny or I am impatient. Without lube is usually a concious choice, because it’s so erotic that I can assfuck her dry.

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Since you are using a water-based lube, but budget is a concern, you might want to look into using “J Lube”. I think I may have mentioned J Lube in a different thread. It is incredibly slippery and, in my experience, it does not dry as quickly as many other water-based lubes. The net cost, for an equal volume, will probably be only 10% of the cost those silly tiny containers sold as water-based lube.

(I would be curious about what TikTok has to say about J Lube.)

J Lube is a veterinarian product – that’s what some (many) vets use when they have to “go in and grab” a difficult birth, etc., or for general inspections, etc. The manufacturer does NOT sell it as a human product. Furthermore, they do not knowingly allow their sellers to sell it as a human product. For this reason, I am willing to privately share the contact info of my source (a small company that sells human and vet medical products and devices), so let me know if you would like that info and we can PM to share the info.

However, because this is not a human product, I strongly recommend reading up on it before considering a purchase. What you read may be “concerning” to you, but that is how safety information works, when a product has not been submitted for testing for human use. For this purpose, I suggest an Internet search for “what are the safety concerns of using J Lube for humans”. By default, all such information is naturally negative.

My own personal experience, after several years of use (either alone or with coconut oil used at the same time – they have different characteristics), is ZERO problems. Before trying it, I read all about it and then experimented slowly initially. I am accustomed to reading product safety information and thus I recognized the theoretical risks, but also that, since the manufacturer does not want to go through all the work/cost for testing for the human market, they actively try to discourage human use. They can make a lot more money selling to vets than trying to get into the human lube market (which would cost them many millions for that process).

J Lube is a powder that is mixed with water. I suggest mixing with HEATED distilled water. But heating the WATER (NOT the mixure!!!) should be in a microwave, preferably in the GLASS container you are going to store it in. But be careful about thermal shock of the glass. Don’t set the glass container on a cold surface. Heat ONLY to WARM, NOT to HOT. The HEATING tremendously helps the mixing. Stir with a clean utensil; I use a plastic-wrapped fast-food spoon or knife (after removing the plastic of course). And then I shake it for a couple minutes (be sure to leave “shake room” in the bottle). Still, it probably needs to sit for a day and then be stirred and shaken further. A little power goes a LOONNG way. Test perhaps a tablespoon (NOT more) of powder for a soda-can-size volume of water. Until you determine your preferred ratio, you can always add more distilled water (or powder) to the existing mix. I suggest DISTILLED water because that avoids the additives that ARE IN “city water” and it avoids the possible contamination that MIGHT be in “country well water”.

Hygiene of the mixed material must be maintained. J Lube does NOT contain any preservatives or anti-microbial compounds. Thus it is an excellent growing medium for “buggies”. Do NOT put anything (fingers, syringes, whatever) into you primary J Lube bottle. Instead pour a VERY LITTLE BIT out of the bottle.

The generic Internet advice is to store the bottle in the fridge. BUT, be careful about labeling or re-using a labeled food/drink container – you don’t want somebody to accidentally drink it!!! The reason for refrigeration is that J Lube is a prime “growing medium” for unwanted microbes. However, I wanted to see how long it could stay usable WITHOUT refrigeration – it has been perfectly fine for WEEKS when kept at room temperature (and hygiene carefully maintained). But your mileage may differ.

When I was reading about J Lube, I ran into many complicated methods of preparing, etc. However, I have no idea why people think all that is necessary. What I described above is extremely simple and I have had ZERO problems either with the lube or with contamination.

For my own primary use with large anal toys, I use a syringe (NO needle of course!) to load some lube into me. (Start with just a LITTLE until you have determined that you do not have any sensitivities to the lube.) Then I use additional lube on the toy. Such syringes are available from pharmacies (to give liquid medicine to children) or pet supply stores (for administering pet medicines). AGAIN, for actual use, first pour some lube from your primary bottle, into a spill-resistant container and then fill the syringe from that container – never put the syringe into the primary lube bottle.

Since J Lube is probably (?) a U.S.-only product, people in other countries can probably find the same compound. Here is the product safety sheet stating what it made of:
https://www.jorvet.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/J109.pdf

My favorite factoid from the safety sheet is “slippery when wet”. DUH!!! I should hope so! (If you spill powder on the floor, to NOT try to clean it up with anything wet/moist.)

Keep on slipping and sliding!

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Since the asshole does not lubricate, I agree with what @Jennanymph said. Using generous amount of lube is very essential for anal masturbation and anal sex. I’m the type of anal only woman who uses lube all the time every time I have to prepare myself mentally for anal masturbation.

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As @Colt1911 and I stated, the asshole does self lubricate at occasions. It doesn’t happen every time, but I hava done many dry entries and then we softly fuck untill we feel her asshole “butter up” itself as some point. From that moment on I can fuck her ass as long and hard as we like. It lubes itself and it’s a highly erotic experience.

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I have noticed that the more experienced couples seem to need less lube over time. It has been somewhat that way for me and mine, but we do not only use saliva or nothing. We have gone from coconut oil to fractionated coconut oil which is not nearly as thick and luxurious, but we find perfect. It stays around and rarely needs reapplication, and it does not make things too slippery. Plus it is really good for the skin and we both prefer something simple from nature.

I’ve also read about and seen the rectal mucous others describe. It does not show up regularly with us but it is wonderful when it happens.

I still kinda disagree. Everyone’s body is different when it comes to needing lube for anal. There are women who produce mucus from their ass and use it as a lube. There are women like me who need generous amount of lube for anal masturbation/anal sex. It still does not change the fact that I need the enough amount of lube for anal masturbation since my asshole does not get wet like ignored/birthmakimg area. Whether I intend to go slow or rough during masturbation, a generous amount of anal lube is essential for my body.

Thanks for this, I might look into it when I’m back at school next month. I don’t think my mom would appreciate a labeled bottle of lube in her fridge!

Try coconut oil, we are using it since our second assfuck and it’s the best lube available.

I comes off the shelf in a grocarystore

It tastes good

It smells good

It is used to fry meat, so it doesn’t make alarms go off
It’s cheaper then any fabricated lube

It’s all natural

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This has been mentioned before. I mostly use water -based because it’s what works with my silicone toys so I already have it around. I guess I could have coconut oil for my partner and water-based for my toys, but do you know if coconut oil works with silicon toys? (sorry if I’ve asked this question before!)

We only use coconut oil, so obviously also for the plugs and dildo.

Jenna,

The simple answer is that high-quality silicone toys are FINE with oil based lubes EXCEPT for silicone oil lubes.

The trickier answer is yes, IF they are made with high-quality “pure” silicone and not some mix with other plastics.

As long as you focus on getting your items from the actual makers or at least through one of the major toy companies that stock branded product, where you can be absolutely sure of the brand you are getting (i.e. NOT through one of the Chinese sources or the look-alike Chinese stuff on Amazon, etc.), then read what the toy maker says and if you have questions, ask them.

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