My wife’s libido is the same as when we were vaginal only. She is not sexually driven, she is more romantic and likes the intimacy of the moment, the sharing of bodies, the “love’s dream” so to speak. So, when we included anal in our routine, the main difference was that she put aside all the objections she had to practice penetrative sex, such as discomfort, pain, dryness. She couldn’t receive my entire length without pain, and in cowgirl position for example, she couldn’t just sit back and relax. Additionally, when she reached orgasm, she felt blocked from squirt if I was in her vagina and often reported that the orgasms were not so strong as when she squirted.
As you can imagine, our anal-only sex life is now more active not because of increased libido or we feel more pleasure, but simply because it’s worry-free.