Question for the guys in the room - do any of you enjoy anal play on yourselves (solo or with partner) and do any of you enjoy your partner pegging you? If so, what got you to that point?
Asking because my better half has expressed some interest in me playing with his ass, and I’m happy to accommodate, but I would like a male perspective on internal prostate stimulation. What feels good, what doesn’t, etc. …And I, myself, may have an interest in pegging him… but I haven’t really brought that up yet…
Since I’m on masturbation abstinece (at least for a year), I try not to go too far and only do it for exploration purposes, but I can say that it feels reallt weird. It’s not not the same direct pleaseure when I’m masturbating my penis, it’s rather more deep.
Haven’t gone deep enough into it to determine wether or not I like it, but I’ll try it until I lift my one-year abstinence and nobody’s home.
Maybe in the future when I get independent I’ll buy a dildo and see what happens.
Good question!
Just a quick recommendation, since you seem like a voracious reader: Jack Morrin’s “Anal pleasure and health” might be the book for you, it’s great! It covers all things anal and that much more.
Now, to your question: I’m a guy and have always been interested in receiving anal play (though I had to get over some preconceptions before buying my first toy).
For me, it’s a way to experience being filled, an aspect of sexuality/pleasure I was curious about. And it’s not just the prostate that’s being stimulated, the rectum is full of nerve endings. One has to learn to view that stimulation as pleasure, since our society generally teaches us to ignore all we feel around/in our butts.
I haven’t had the pleasure of being pegged yet, but I do a lot of solo play. Stress accumulates in my pelvic floor, and playing with my butt is a great relief for that.
As for the prostate: It’s an acquired taste, especially after taking a break from playing with it for a while. It can feel like you need to pee more than anything. Don’t rush things, stop when it feels too strange, but keep at it in regular intervals. When I’m relaxed, it’s super amazing, like full-body pleasure, especially with a vibrating toy.
Generally, you don’t want to put too much pressure on it. The “best practice” guide is too rub it only as hard as you’d rub your own eye.
Have fun, communicate with your partner and report back in
And I’ll check out the book. That sounds interesting.
I’ll certainly report back! We’ve done a little external anal play on him and he really seemed to enjoy it, and as I recall, we both did a bit of back door fingering while engaged and he enjoyed it, but we were young and didn’t know what we were doing and I think he’s forgotten. I want to make sure he doesn’t forget this and is asking for more.
As a man with a female partner or solo, I say YES to receiving all the possibilities that I can think of and probably some I have not thought of: Pegging, fisting, solo or with-partner toys of all sizes (the bigger and/or longer the better).
I have self-fisted a few times fully in to my wrist, but for my body proportions that is extremely difficult and then I have sore back/side/shoulder/arm muscles, etc., for a few days. One either has to have a shorter torso and/or a longer arm and/or or be more flexible than I am. And one has to do a lot of body stretching and loosening-up to avoid injury to ones shoulder, back, etc. It also takes a lot of experimentation to find the best position and support objects so that the body’s weight can be used to provide the necessary force, without breaking the wrist! Definitely something to work toward over time.
Some details can be found in my introduction post.
For some reason I don’t get more feeling / stimulation from my prostate than any other internal anal parts. I just enjoy the stretching and movement and fullness and deepness and the in & out, etc.
Certainly this is not something for everybody, but a lot of people probably thought they would never like “ordinary” anal sex … until they tried it.
Oh yeah, the anatomy problems. I have a toy I basically never use, it’s just too uncomformtable getting it into me.
As for prostate play, have you tried using a very gentle approach, using a small toy? For many new sensations, the body needs some time to identify and “learn” it, and no offense, I could imagine the prostate stuff getting lost in all that wonderful stretching you do.
My partner rims me and slips a finger up my arse when she’s giving me a head job. I love it! She’s actually lubed up one of her smaller dildos and put it up there too. It was a bit of fun but it was a little uncomfortable so I didn’t cum, or couldn’t, so we finished off with an alternating rimjob and headjob, instant happiness!
