My girl and I are not into BDSM (I think) but we definitely enjoy some of the exercises, especially spanking. It is about 90% of the time and at the beginning years ago it was a novelty, but today it is a staple. Not sure about others but it is good for us…
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Sorry, not new to spanking, bad headline
Spanking is another super fun way to include the butt during play time 
I guess most people would like spanking, the difference is only how hard. from hand patting to paddle and bruising. what level do you like?
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Spanking is only me to her although we have playfully talked about switching. Recently it has been hand patting but we mostly have done more firm spanking and a paddle here and there. It has become fairly regular and we both enjoy it.
we do it almost every one or two days. not only on ass, it could take some days to recover. thighs, arms, hands, feet, breasts are also good choices, and clit of course.
I have tried giving spanking a few times, to me it’s interesting but not as much as receiving.
Depending on the way and with what you hit someone, breasts, arms, hands and especially feet require a bit of foreknowledge to prevent serious injury. Inform yourselves, people! You’ll find lots of info via the keyword “impact play”.
I think it a personal thing. I sometimes, but rarely, slap her nice ass. But to me, spanking has no relation to pleasure and she never asks for it either.
If I slap her ass, it’s me complimenting her for her nice looking behind. 
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Well, a nice ass deserves applause
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Recently I saw a video of an Australian guy giving classes around the world on
spanking. The classes were 98% female so some women must have interest. He does have good advice including using a loose hand (new to me) and rubbing the ass regularly (something I have done from the beginning). For interested novices, try soft or medium spanks on your lady and see how she likes it.
Spanking should not bring tears in my opinion. That is a different type that we have not yet chosen to explore.
so you like soft spank. tears and bruising are kind of must have in a hard spanking session.
btw, spanking on ass with some ginger in anal is crazy.
Oh yes, this is called figging and goes back to Roman times, where it was supposedly used as a light punishment for female slaves (peeled ginger inserted into the rectum, that is).
I’m pretty risk averse and I don’t like pain… and I know just how spicy fresh peeled ginger can be, but there’s this errant, curious cat little part of my brain where figging now lives rent free and dang it, I almost want to try it!
I know I’ll regret it. I know the Romans were usually pretty good at figuring out punishments that weren’t fun. But I also know ginger has amazing health benefits so the odds of lasting damage or a net negative to my health are exceedingly low and whatever discomfort would be temporary and inquiring minds want to know how bad it is and how long it would last!!!
I’m sure the sensible, boring, risk averse part of my brain will win and I won’t do it, but it’s still going to tempt me.
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The Romans were also good at figuring out how not to damage their possessions. From my experience and from what I’ve read, figging is not a harmful practice. I’ve head the feeling described as a mild, spreading warmth after an initial bit of pain. Others found the pain strong, but those were the exceptions.
You’ve titled your post with “New to spanking”; did you mean to write some about spanking as well? Those who are into caning sometimes use a piece of ginger up the butt of the person being caned to keep them from clenching their buttocks to make the cane strikes less intense 
I mean, that’s about what I figured… Maybe a stinging feeling from the ginger like lemon on a paper cut, which definitely wouldn’t be fun… But now I’m really curious and tempted!
And this isn’t my OP, though it almost could be. We’ve messed around with the odd little spank here and there and I honestly don’t know what I think. Sometimes it’s almost grounding, other times it’s just annoying or neutral. Don’t think I’d go for caning though or spanking with an object.
The same person who liked the warmth from the ginger after a while absolutely disliked lemon juice, that was too intense for her.
Wow this is an angle that is new to me. Figs and ginger. Sounds like nice biscuits with my afternoon coffee. I will mention to the crew this evening, see what they think. BTW I like my ass getting slapped with a metal ruler when it has a cock or 2 in it. It just compliments the sensations nicely.
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Hmm there was quite a bit of scepticism but both items may be organic additional stimulation. This could be an interesting week experimenting!
Dear Abbi, I’m afraid you’ve gotten it wrong. The term “figging” refers to inserting fresh, peeled ginger root (shaped nicely to fit, of course) into a person’s butt. No fruit is involved!
Wikipedia has got us covered in terms of visual aids:
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Lol We were thinking that figs might not be sturdy enough to be inserted into one’s but. Of course I got the ginger connection. There was some interest in that one