Hi all,
I came across anal in porn when I was 16. I’ve pretty muched only watched anal porn since then (I’m 35 now). I’ve only had anal sex once. It was with my current girlfriend of 7 years. I couldn’t believe it was happening while we were doing it and absolutely loved it. I don’t have much hope that she will grow to love anal. I’ve thought about seeking a partner who specifically likes it in her butt. In the meantime I do use my fingers on my girlfriend’s butt, trying to find ways that she likes. I ask her about what I’ve done occassionally and she generally reports that fingers back there felt alright but that’s about it.
Hi, Welcome to our forum. There are a lot of people here with diverse experiences and provide lots of advice. It looks like you and your girlfriend are in the contemplative phase and that can be the first steps. I was the one in our relationship who wanted to explore anal. This forum encouraged me to experiment more. One person told me that the anal orgasm was incredible. I was sceptical at first and it felt like we were looking for the Holy Grail, then one evening my boyfriend nailed it. Do you speak about your desire to explore anal sex? For a lot of people it is unnerving so your girlfriend is not on her own.
I wish you every joy on your anal journey and hope you find what you are looking for. Join in, share and learn.
Yes, she knows that I am interested in it, turned on by it, and regularly seek it out in porn. We don’t have a particularly sexual relationship in general, though. I am regularly interested in having sex, she much less often. I think if we had sex more often then there’d be more interest in exploring and trying new things. But since we have sex something like once per week or less, we stick to a handful of basic moves.
Because you have 7 years invested in this relationship, I recommend you have a serious discussion with your girlfriend about your strong desire for anal sex. Let her know how important it is to you as well as finding ways to please her in bed. Try licking her ass in addition to teasing her hole with fingers and toys. Many here, including myself, are happy to help guide you in your anal quest.
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I will echo Colt’s advice. As a girl, I love nothing more than having my ass stroked gently and a little bit of digital pressure on my ring! Then, suggest licking her ass, using your tongue to apply a little more pleasure. Hopefully she will guide your cock in slowly. Of course this will follow the frank and open discussion about your desires
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We have talked about it a few times but maybe I’ll bring it up again sometime soon. She did ask me to lick her asshole the other night and she seemed to like that. I’ll try that again.
Help her learn the pleasure associated with anal play. Even though we’ve been anal only for years, I will lick and play with her ass until she begs me to fuck it. If you can help her achieve anal orgasm, you will be well on your way to enjoying anal sex. You can rub her clit, or encourage her to rub it, during anal play. My wife’s anal orgasms are incredible which make mine that much better as well. Be patient. It’s a journey that takes some time but with a handsome reward.
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