Female Sexuality + Anal Desire

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I’ve been thinking, there has been a lot of women who are vocal and unashamed about loving anal on social media all thanks to actual information about anal and stories from anal-obsessed women who are experienced with anal. Anal is still the most controversial topic to this day. From taboo, stigma, to misinformation and myths about anal sex. There has been a lot of femcels/radfems who still push the women don’t enjoy anal sentiments, thus demonizing female sexuality since only men like filthy sex stuffs. This leads to repression of female sexuality as the gender essentialist myths is still unfortunately alive in society. I do not support pressuring women to perform anal stuffs at all. Unfortunately, there are still a lot of people who make conclusions that women who prefer anal are provoking men who enjoy it in a sexual way, in which both feminists and religious fundamentalists bash women for. Another factor is that women are incapable of having choices on their own terms, aka infantilizing women.

Male sexuality has been demonized as there are femcels and religious fundamentalists who have been preventing men from having sexual preferences and miserable about seeing men having fun and and having vastly different sexual preferences, whether kinky or vanilla. Wokescolds and religious fundamentalists bash and demonize male sexuality and female sexuality in different but equally harmful ways.

I think the fact that I have to clarify that I discover anal and loved it with lots of proper hygiene, safety practices and genuine care, so that people stop making assumptions that I’m doing it for male gaze (male gaze is a rebranded version of slutshaming and intrasexual competition among women who are threatened by other women who are deemed attractive among men) is frustrating as a lot of anal-obsessed women like me have to combat misconceptions and stigma against anal sex. The notion that anal is associated with pain, is what leads to bitter femcels and fandom people recycling pegging jokes on their favorite male celebrities and fictional male characters online, since a lot of the fandoms are mainly dominated by women, including women who are obsessed with shipping male characters together. Femcels and fandom people should never inflict pain on other people just because you have bad experiences with anal or misconceptions about anal sex.

It’s ok to be scared, curious and obsessed with anal. Be openminded, learn and read correct information about anal sex and listen to experiences from anal-obsessed women, with differing views, treat anal sex as passionate and sensual journey (not a competition or trend), practice safe hygiene and have a super healthy fiber-rich diet. And an important reminder, anal-obsessed women and men’s bodies are different and that’s okay, take time to learn and observe what type of lube is best for your ass and slowly gradually increase butt plugs and anal dildos. Loving anal in 21st century and onwards should never be controversial and shameful. Not everyone is made for anal and that’s okay. It’s normal and healthy to love anal. What matters the most is being vocal about your unfiltered love for anal and spread anal positivity.

Sorry for the long ass message, I have been gathering my thoughts deep thinking and this topic has been on my mind since last night.

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Well said. It bothers me that anyone worries about the sexual proclivities of consenting adults. I’m an evangelist for many of the things I believe strongly in, which includes the incredible pleasures of anal sex.

it’s difficult for some of us to advocate for anal without doing so anonymously. I’m 70, so my discomfort is likely generational. I’m a huge supporter of anal online.

Suggesting women refrain from anal sex is denying many women from enjoying the unique pleasure of anal orgasm. Why would one woman deny another such pleasure?

Do you engage in social media or conversations with others about anal? Social media is such a sewer, I wouldn’t be surprised by the things people say. Good rant!

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I use social media often, I’m an early gen-z woman, and I have seen all the discussions about anal-related topics, but I choose not to engage for the sake of my sanity. I frequently catch up with anal-obsessed female content creators and anal-obsessed adult film stars like Lola Grant (her username is backdoorgf) who is unapologetic about loving anything related to anal. People think being vocal and outspoken about a sexual activity is weird and boisterous and thinks I’m shoving stuffs down their throat, but I think being vocal, unashamed, confident and passionate about anal really helps the conversation about the topic that society has been trying to suppress and dwindle, and hopefully make anal-obsessed women feel like they’re not alone. Which is why I was in awed at anal-obsessed goth girls because they are unfiltered and unapologetic about their own sexual agency, including their obsession with anal and giving 0 fucks about what people think.

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My wife expressed her love for anal sex to her girlfriends, early in our anal relationship. Mostly in a joking way like “damn I’ve got my periods” Girlfriend says “ooh so no fucking” and she replied “Sure we will have sex, I have another hole” and everytime she would get replies like “I would never do that” “that hole is not for sex” “if my man dares to come near it it’s game over”

So she stopped expressing her anal desires.

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That’s depressing tbh. There will always be people who are judgemental toward anal since anal is considered controversial and has a lot of stigma. I think the fact that there are women who doesn’t want to do anything with anal because anal might provoke men since a lot of men love anal, also known as performing certain sexual activity that are common and loved by most men, is another way of suppressing female sexuality. Because there are still gender essentialist ideas perpetuated by mostly women, women who happen to enjoy something sexy stuffs will try to rationalize why they are horny, and try to implicate that their horniness is superior to men when both male sexual desire and female sexual desire are equally healthy and neutral. I love anal because I find it hot and I cum better from anal only, not because I’m doing it for male validation. Anal is the only sexual activity that increases my sex drive, libido and makes me feel like a woman.

Loving and embracing anal is a natural part of human sexuality. Women expressing their love for anal is not controversial and problematic.

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