Update. I told my BF that if he wants more anal then I want to have an assgasm. He just said OK, he was never going to say no, now was he?
After a bit he asked what he had to do. I didn’t tell him about this forum. Just told him I had been reading about ways of rewiring and retraining my body. I told him we needed to stop all vaginal penetration and stimulation and retrain my body so that my system expects all stimulation to build up to to anal. I told him I read that it can take 2 months or longer. He looked like all his Christmases and birthdays had come at once.
So I’m STILL not officially doing AO but my BF is fully on board with not touching my pussy for 2 or 3 months. Lets see how it goes!
Have you been having orgasms during anal with clitoral or vaginal stimulation? I think having orgasms while being anally penetrated is the first step. Once that is firmly established then you are ready to stop any vaginal stimulation and let your mind take over.
That’s a great suggestion. If clit stimulation helps achieve anal orgasm, that should be the first step.
When we discovered anal 6 years ago, she had anal orgasms with little to no clit stimulation. After six months or so, she used a vibrator and had even more intense anal orgasms.
Purists will say anal orgasm must be experienced with zero clit stimulation, but I question anyone who tells others exactly how they must experience pleasure.
Before I met my boyfriend, to have an orgasm during anal penetration, I had to add clitoral stimulation, G-spot stimulation, or possibly vaginal penetration.
The fact remains that even then, the orgasm was always much stronger and more intense than a simple vaginal or clitoral orgasm.
But with my current boyfriend, I don’t even need these additional stimulations anymore. Anal penetration does everything, and I come harder than ever, often with multiple orgasms.
I don’t really understand the reason or the process, but I suspect the enormous size of his penis plays a role.
My wife experienced anal orgasms without any clit stimulation when we started our anal only journey more than 6 years ago. In fact, her anal orgasms are the reason both of us want an anal only sex life.
It was about a year into anal only that she tried a vibrator on her clit during anal. The additional stimulation enhances her experience and adds to her anal orgasms.
There are purists who insist the clit must be excluded to qualify as “anal only”. Enjoy anal in the way that pleasures you the most. That includes anal with and without clit stimulation.
During a hike in the mountains yesterday, my wife mentioned the “butterfly” vibrator she used to use before discovering anal. It rotated causing stimulation of the G-spot and the “ears” of the rabbit stimulated her clit. She asked me to find this vibrator so she can use it while I penetrate her ass. This will be the first time she’s tried double penetration. Prior to that, the only “double penetration” she’s experienced is when I’d stick my thumb in her ass while fucking her pussy.
Our two “go to” positions for anal are doggy style and missionary with me at the corner of the bed. Wondering if doggy with her holding the rabbit vibrator in her pussy and me in her ass is best/easiest for double penetration?
Even though I was able to experiment with double penetration many times over the summer with two guys, I’ve strangely never tried it with a guy and a dildo.
I’ve tried quite a few positions with two guys, but for me, the best position for DP is cowgirl.
With a guy and a dildo, I’d say it depends on who’s holding the dildo. If it’s the guy, I think doggy or missionary might make it harder for him to access my pussy. I might be more inclined to try a cowgirl position, leaning back to give him the best access to my pussy. If I’m holding the dildo, I suppose doggy or missionary would be fine.
I have only ever tried double anal penetration once with a dildo and my boyfriend. It was actually that experience that ignited my desire for double anal and have found that there is no substitute for the ‘real thing’! I prefer missionary position with my legs as far back as possible and on that occasion he controlled the dildo as well as himself.
