To lube or not to lube, a guide from personal experience

Hello people. If you’re new into anal sex you’ll find all kinds of advice online about using plenty of lube. And it’s solid advise.

But - much to my surprise - my girlfriend told me quite early that she could be assfucked dry if she was horny enough. So at some point we’ve tried it, but at that time it didn’t feel good on my circumsized cock. The friction was uncomfortable to me.

Now some personal experience:

I started off with vaseline when I first assfucked a woman. It worked, but barely. It’s sticky and frankly doesn’t even slide that well.

So I bough water based lube in a sexshop (it was 1998) and that worked much better. Penetrating her went a lot better and the lubrication held for the duration of the assfuck. Which was very short those days.

With my next woman, who also became an ex, I bought Pjur waterbased lube and that stuff felt amazing to assfuck. It kept it’s lubricating features for as long as the assfuck was going. Which meanwhile was longer.

My current girlfriend introduced coconut oil into our anal sexlife because a friend of hers pointed out some benefits:
100% natural
Amazing lubrication
You buy it in the grocarystore
Smells nice
Naturally antiseptic
Naturally healing qualities

Then we discovered the advantages when used for anal sex:
Tastes good for ass to mouth sex
Keeps going, even if you assfuck her for an hour.
Leaves no residue

So for the majority of out anal only life, we’ve been using coconut oil and still think it’s the best.

Even so, at some point we just flipped to dry entry. I don’t remember why and how it happened. Only that some day I shoved my cock up her dry asshole and after some stimulation she started feel all buttery in her asshole. When she did ass to mouth it tasted good to her too so we kinda almost stopped using coconut oil. Of every 10 assfucks coconut oil is still used on 1 the most. Generally because she used it to plug her ass and it’s still there.

We can now perfectly do an anal quicky, without a drop of lube, and it feels amazing. I just need to go slow for a few minutes till her asshole gets this buttery feeling, and from that point I can go as hard as I like and pound away. And I notice that it makes her very horny that I can enter her asshole totally dry.

So I think this means almost everybody can develop to dry assfucking, but some conditions need to be met:

She must trust you 100%
She must be really relaxed
She must really want to feel your cock up her asshole
You must be gently and cautious
You must give her time.

There we go, I hope this info can be a guideline for some couples.

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When I first had anal sex I insisted on using lube but after a while I got used to it without lube because it can restrict spontaneous fun! Nowadays I don’t use lube at all although I tend to make a mix or precum and my saliva, plus my vaginal juices. I don’t need it but it works and is fun.

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If my sweety sucks me before anal, there’s also a lit of saliva on my cock which makes sliding into her asshole just as smooth as with any lube. She doesn’t have much pussyjuice anymore, due to her menopauze.

We switched to anal only at the right moment of her life. Although every now and then her pussy still gets dripping wet while her asshole gets the cock. I love it. :heart_eyes:

We no longer use any lube at all most of the time. I produce a steady supply of precum most of the time and after many years of anal, my wife’s ass is very accepting of my cock. A drop of precum and I am quickly in her snug passage.
If using a toy of some kind we apply some regular water based lube.
We’ve also discovered that once past the anus - which doesn’t get wet - that her inner passages often get wet with anal play. This may be the natural process that normally takes place to assist stool to exit, but appears to be a result of physical use of the insides and so we characterize it as an arousal response.

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I must add that to do double anal, being dildo and my cock, coconut oil was essential to get my cock in her ass, on top of the dildo that was already in.

So the dry entry only works for my cock. Like the silicone dildo doesn’t get in dry. Too much friction from the rubber.