How I got here to being a budding anal slut… Well, it started with some fingering after I got engaged and enjoyed it but then forgot about it. Then about a year, year and a half ago I came out the other side of dealing with some past sexual trauma from before I got married and realized I really didn’t know what I liked sexually, so I decided to put absolutely everything a monogamous, exclusive couple could do on the table and start sorting through what turned me on and what didn’t. And amongst the things that have proven to be turn ons is anal stuff. I started with fingering and playing and then decided I wanted to at least attempt anal sex, so I started researching and carefully working my way that direction and here I am!
I have, in fact, managed to have anal sex a few times now and I’m finding I rather enjoy it! I’m working on stretching out just a little more and I’m going to attempt plugging for hours at a time so I can plug before sex and be loose and opened right off.
If you’re like most in this group, you’ll learn to enjoy it even more, perhaps to the extent you become anal only. That’s what halpened to me and my wife.
Having an understanding partner is an advantage when exploring anal pleasure. Using my boyfriend’s cock was a lot more pleasurable when training my ass. It also allowed me to learn about other derivations of anal sex. There were times it was tedious as I found pleasure with pain however my boyfriend stuck with me and helped me find the best positions. Your direction looks very effective and I hope it will lead you to enjoy anal sex even more.
Congrats. Knowing what we like, and having the people to enjoy it together, it’s important but not easy. We often hear a stories about how people are not satisfied in other places, but here we get good stories, and we could all share the happiness.
Since this is my story thread… I’m finding anal sex to be addicting and we’re not even good at it yet. For the first time ever I want sex like everyday. I used to want it barely twice a month. We’ve only been doing anal sex about two months, but it’s just so damn good feeling! And that’s even with me still getting used to how him thrusting feels and training to take him longer. But it’s great actually feeling every exquisite inch of him going in and out or even just still inside me. Not that my vagina is numb, but him barely in or balls deep felt basically the same there. Anal though, I feel him all.
In a strange way, it almost feels like I just started having sex for the first time at all vs years and years and years into a marriage.
Mr. Firefly still likes my pussy, and I find it convenient for lube, and I still love oral, so I won’t ever be a hardcore AO, but I really don’t ever need him to cum there again. I’ll be happier if he doesn’t. He hasn’t cum in my ass yet because I can’t quite take him long enough, but I think I’m getting close and I cannot wait to find out what that’s like! In the meantime, I’m proud of myself because I’ve taken him twice now with no more warm up than a quick finger in my ass to help guide him in. I’ve been plugging and/or anal masturbating a few days a week for at least a month now and it’s paying off.
This is the absolute best our sex life has ever been and I know it’s only going to better as we get more practice in (and I start letting on about other kinks and fantasies I have).
That’s great news. Our experience is similar to yours. Anal changed our sex life forever in a most positive way. Neither of us have any desire for PIV sex. As you point out, it takes some time to get used to it. Your husband will be thrilled once he can cum deep in your ass. Glad to hear you’re enjoying your anal journey.
You are finding what works for you and that is key. You and Mr Firefly are working together and communicating. That is excellent. I hope you enjoy the first time your ass gets filled. I’ve only had cum in my ass once. Its been in my mouth ever since.
Your plan to build up stamina is a good one. Before long you will be craving getting your ass fucked for an hour every night!
Agree with those who commented before me, anal sex has changed our lives in the most positive way and I wish I learned this earlier in my life.
All of us humans experience adversity, stress, trauma, drama, injustice and the like, but this is part of life. Anal has so positively impacted my life, it is difficult to describe.
Life itself is a journey. The challenge each of us face is to meet the challenge and try, however difficult it may be, to focus on the positive. As we age we accumulate experience, perspective, and wisdom. When I’m feeling like things are stacked against me, I simply watch the news and quickly realize my issues pale in comparison to others. I also believe the bad experiences help us better understand what is good as we have something to compare.
Both of us came from chaotic, dysfunctional, and at times abusive families. Fortunately, we have a wonderful relationship, two great kids, and grandchildren. Anal has allowed us to enjoy each other at an entirely different level. Sorry for the soliloquy, but @fairlynormal comments triggered my emotionally and philosophically driven response!
Since you still seem to do vaginal, try this: let him fuck your pussy till he’s ready to burst and then make him switch to your ass to cum. It will only take a minute for him to finish from that point.
We’ve been thinking either that or me sucking him off until he’s ready to burst then in. Regardless, we’ll get it all sorted out sooner or later. Since I started doing plugging and anal play, my libido has gone from nearly dead to pretty high. So we’ve been having a time trying to figure out what we like and don’t and just sort of exploring and enjoying ourselves.
Sounds like a good plan and it seems to be working!. I prefer having my ass fucked then sucking until they finish in my mouth. I just never liked the sensation of cum in my ass!
If its something you want to try then try to take the cum at the back of your mouth so it doesn’t touch your tongue. There will probably be a little bit of cum oozing out afterwards. Lick that so you can have a little taste then decide if you like it but not too intrusive. Maybe try to encourage precum and try that also. Have fun x
If you let him unload in your troat, there are no tastebuds there and it will not have any taste. But you need to be able to do deeptroat to have him cum in your troat.
I might be addicted to precum…