My girlfriend and I are primarily anal (about 85% anal) and both loving it. She’s been on board with being trained to accept anal as the default form of sex (with oral of course), and I have been gently encouraging her further down the path, and I wanted to discuss different ideas to continue to solidify anal as the default.
Currently, we have been doing the following:
Referring to her pussy just as “the front hole” as a manner of deprioritizing it. We don’t call it useless or anything degrading though, just taking away the focus.
Sex is assumed to be anal unless otherwise specified. We do use the front sometimes, but she must explicitly request it as a deviation from the norm.
During foreplay, I specifically avoid touching her pussy at all, playing only with her ass while kissing her, so as to associate those sensations with arousal.
During sex, I encourage her to say degrading things about her ass. My thought is that in the moments when she is the most horny and pleasured, she is more receptive to such ideas, and will form positive associations with what she’s saying.
Do you have any thoughts on how else to subtly encourage further focus on anal sex. Yes,
But I like grooming it, like shaving her smooth. I think her pussy is the most beautiful pussy I’ve ever seen and I do tell her this. I also explain that the beauty of her pussy lies in the fact it doesn’t get used. It’s always resting and peacefully being pretty.
I would never want her to say degrading things about her pleasurehole. Her asshole is adored and brings me nothing but joy. I want it healthy and in good condition, so it’s always able to take my cock.
To clarify, when I say “degrading” I don’t mean “negative”. I mean that I make her say things about her ass being used for sex. For example, telling me how much better it feels to have her ass fucked than her pussy, that her ass’s primary function is as a hole for pleasure, that what she wants is for me to fuck her ass and not her pussy. The goal is to emphasize the pleasure associated with anal to train her to want it more.
I also think her pussy is beautiful; my favorite part about it is it being empty and untouched. That’s why I refer to it more neutrally as the “front hole” in terms of penetration, rather than something negative like a “useless hole”. I do refer to it as her pussy specifically when emphasizing how much I love it being empty, and how wet she gets when I fuck her ass. That’s part of the subtle encouragement. It’s “using the front hole” when talking about sex, but when it’s staying untouched, it’s “her pussy and the pleasure/enjoyment of it being unused.”
Just act as if it doesn’t exist. That’s what my BF does and I’m fine with it.
I have a friend that jokingly refers to her birthday as the day her mom’s vagina became a ‘birth canal’, so I guess if you need to talk about it you could go with that. But better to just act as if it doesn’t exist.
When we have sex I guide him into my ass, block the way to the other. But, lets face it, he isn’t going to make any mistakes. We’ve both put months of effort into rewiring, or conditioning as you call it, so he is not stupid enough to accidentally wake up my pussy and undo all our progress.