Mrs Canassman and I are one week into a 4 week trial of a “Free Use” relationship.
We have 2 days off per week - although we can still choose to have sex on those days if we feel like it.
On the other days we will be practicing Free Use as long as no teens are home for the days, but evening and nights are completely free use. We’ve worked out a few simple rules and will review and revise as needed.
This appeals to her submissive desires and she says she like not having to assess whether she feels tired, or if there’s time, or any other decisions.
So far it’s worked out well. And even when I’ve woken her up at 3 am she moved right into it immediately. So far our check ins indicate that we both enjoy it and wish it could be all day on weekends, but our teenaged daughter means that’s not possible.
May I pry a smidge and ask if she’s more of a responsive or a spontaneous libido?
Please define “free use” is this anal on demand? That is, any time either you or Mrs Canassman decide you want sex?
I just want to understand the parameters. I want to implement a similar arrangement when the children finall leave home, like an “open all day and night” scheme!
These are terms I’ve not heard of before, so I did a little googling. I’ve got a rough idea now. I have a suspicion abt her orientation, but I want to accurately reflect her perspective as it’s her experience, so I’ve sent her the link I was looking at, I’ll report back later on what I thought, and then what she tells me she relates to more.
Free use is a pre-negotiated agreement where one party has all access to whatever sexual acts they have agreed to. It can run quite a few different ways.
In our case, during the “free use” days in the evenings or in the day if we are guaranteed no one else is home, I can have sex with her at any time, and given our AO lifestyle that’s anal sex, or oral. We have some rules and some codes she can give me if she was genuinely unable to have sex, like a stomache bug.
I am not into painal, or ravishment fantasy, and while she’s into some bdsm kinks, they don’t do much for me, so I’m always going to make sure it’s enjoyable for her as well. I enjoy it when she enjoys our sex and feeling her cum on my cock in her ass is amazing.
We have 2 “off” days where the sex isn’t an automatic “yes”, but either of us can still suggest or initiate sex in those days.
So far she’s expressed a complete commitment in both spirit and action. We’ve had some family matters we’ve had to attend to, so it’s not been an every day thing. But at other times when I’ve attempted to wake her to see if she would be agreeable to see it’s been a hard “no”. I’ve woken her abt 3 am last week and she immediately complied and got right into it,
. She told me she enjoyed just giving herself and the lack of choice was freeing.
So far I’m enjoying it, but not abusing the process either.
This sounds like a great and fun development in your relationship, enjoy it! Both of you 
Yes I have heard of this feeling of liberation. Some like to be controlled and it helps them psychologically and frees them from guilt or shame because it is not their choice, they have no choice and thus are free to enjoy.
It sounds like a pathway to development of shameless enjoyment of whatever it is that is wanted, whether by choice or without choice.
So Mrs Canassman has done a little reading on these libido classifications,man’s feels neither quite captured her experience. She feels her libido has changed over time, particularly from when we were just the two off us, then parents, work and leisure experiences, and now menopause. And that there are situations that impact libido as well. So she’s unsure.
Thank you for asking her and getting back to me!