@Jennanymph This may not apply to you or your situation, but regardless of anal or vaginal activity, my experience has been that clit stimulation is best if done sparingly and mostly in the later stages.
This may be a bit fanciful, but I would equate it as pushing the button in a street-racing car to inject “nitrous” [“NO” or nitrous oxide] into the air-fuel mixture – when you want that car to leap ahead, to push you so far back in the seat that you think the seat might break.
In other words, it sure has its place, but not all the time.
However, I am sure that my experience is quite limited and that others will have quite different experiences and opinions, including not touching the clit at all.
My rule #1: Do what feels best for you.
My rule #2: Make sure to train any partner to understand and do what feels best for you.
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I sometimes feel a little bad asking my partner to ease up, since he seems to like playing with my clit so much. But when he goes too much too early, it gets weirdly achy and too much for me. And the orgasms end up not being as good either. He likes cars, so maybe the nitrous analogy will help.
I’m realizing as I’m typing this that I’m now planning to voluntarily ask my partner to touch my clit less during anal. Is this how you guys turn all the girls anal only? 
My wife often stops clit stimulation herself. It’s like it’s all about timing.
The main pleasure for her is simply having her asshole fucked. At some point, clit play helps her to cum, but doing it too soon won’t.
Also licking her clit will give her joy, but no orgasm.
Licking her clit while I finger her asshole, or fuck it with the dildo, will make her orgasm. She needs something in her ass to cum. And of course I love that.