@Jennanymph This may not apply to you or your situation, but regardless of anal or vaginal activity, my experience has been that clit stimulation is best if done sparingly and mostly in the later stages.
This may be a bit fanciful, but I would equate it as pushing the button in a street-racing car to inject “nitrous” [“NO” or nitrous oxide] into the air-fuel mixture – when you want that car to leap ahead, to push you so far back in the seat that you think the seat might break.
In other words, it sure has its place, but not all the time.
However, I am sure that my experience is quite limited and that others will have quite different experiences and opinions, including not touching the clit at all.
My rule #1: Do what feels best for you.
My rule #2: Make sure to train any partner to understand and do what feels best for you.
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I sometimes feel a little bad asking my partner to ease up, since he seems to like playing with my clit so much. But when he goes too much too early, it gets weirdly achy and too much for me. And the orgasms end up not being as good either. He likes cars, so maybe the nitrous analogy will help.
I’m realizing as I’m typing this that I’m now planning to voluntarily ask my partner to touch my clit less during anal. Is this how you guys turn all the girls anal only? 
My wife often stops clit stimulation herself. It’s like it’s all about timing.
The main pleasure for her is simply having her asshole fucked. At some point, clit play helps her to cum, but doing it too soon won’t.
Also licking her clit will give her joy, but no orgasm.
Licking her clit while I finger her asshole, or fuck it with the dildo, will make her orgasm. She needs something in her ass to cum. And of course I love that.
Hey Jenna !
It has been a while. Sorry for not replying earlier.
I am so happy and proud for the 5 fingers and even more for you having anal sex with your boyfriend. It seems that you liked it pretty much ! How many times did you have anal with him so for ? I know it is ling distance relationship.
Do you still wanna play with the doc johnson plug of 2 inches ?
What are the news. Are you still fingering yourself under the shower ?
See you !
We’ve only been able to do it the three times so far. I’m hoping he’s onto be able to visit me over Valentine’s Weekend, so fingers crossed!
I haven’t been able to get a Doc Johnson yet, but my partner gave me a Tracy’s Dog thrusting dildo for Christmas. I’m not sure of the exact dimensions, but it’s much bigger than the plug I had been using. Good thing I’ve been stretching…. We’ve tried using it for FaceTime sex, but we’re still trying to work out the… uh… mechanics. Good thing we can laugh about it.
I continue to finger myself in the shower. This month I’m trying to wear my butt plug at least once everyday. I’ve started putting it in when I start my morning routine, playing with it while I shower, and then taking it out right before I head to class. I’m on a six day streak so far!
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This was such a nice read. It was like you were losing your virginity to your man. This will help make a connection with him that you can keep with you throughout the relationship. I hope your anal journey can take you to the far ends of anal only pleasure.
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