I’ve been super sick for the pass two weeks or so and haven’t been feeling up to anal play at all. Now that I’m better, I’m super horny and have blocked out some alone time later today (though I have to survive this boring ass philosophy of language class first!) I’m a little worried, though. Thanks to the advice from some of the members on this forum, I had made some great progress stretching to four fingers pretty comfortably. Should I expect a regression in my stretch after two weeks off?
More generally, how quickly do anal “gains” go away if not maintained?
We don’t engage in extreme stretching, but my wife is able to easily adapt to anal play and penetration after several weeks of no activity. I think your sphincter’s “muscle memory” will quickly return to accepting four fingers or a large toy. I believe the sphincter, for its tiny size, is the strongest muscle in the human body. I’m my wife’s personal sphincter “trainer”. Best job I’ve ever had.
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Glad to hear you’re doing your duty!
It was definitely a little tighter tonight, but after some effort I got close to four fingers again. And it took a little longer than usual. But god, after two weeks it felt really good!
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That’s generally the way it is with any kind of training, anal training is no exception. After time off there is a loss of “anal fitness” but like any training the neuromuscular pattern is already there so the response to training is faster. As you found it doesn’t take long to get back to where you were. The added benefit though is you get to experience all those pleasures of stretching past those “anal milestones” again.
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i hadn’t thought of it that way… it’s like I had two weeks of anal denial. Not worth the sickness, but maybe this is something I’ll have to experiment with!
While not an answer to your question, here’s my perspective. It depends on what you enjoy about anal, what I enjoy is how tight it is and how pleasurable it feels for me, and how intensely stimulating it is for my partner.
On one hand, having a well trained and consistently stretched ass is amazing. It makes more frequent and rougher sex easier, and is also serves as an indicator that the recipient enjoys and expects to regularly receive anal penetration. I think that’s very hot.
On the other hand, one of the greatest joys in sex for me is having my partner’s ass be too tight for penetration, and taking the time to personally stretch it out. It’s an immensely pleasurable and intimate experience for us both, and then we we do have sex, it’s still tighter and more intense than “normal”.
As such, even if I were living with my partner and regularly having sex, I would still on occasion leave her ass untouched for periods of time to allow her to tighten up a bit just to continue to share that experience.
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Completely agree with you. There are two aspects of anal we both enjoy. The first is what I call the “dance”. This is where I initially penetrate her with as little lube or saliva as possible. She also loves the initial penetration and this is when she is most verbal. It takes several minutes of shallow thrusts before I’m balls deep and lubricated by her anal mucous.
The second most erotic aspect is when each of us climax. Yesterday, she had a very powerful anal orgasm. When that happens, it’s my turn and I also had a mind blowing orgasm deep in her ass.
To your point, the tightness and “struggle” to initially penetrate is very, very erotic.
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Hey Jennanymph !
I hope you are feeling way better now !
It is indeed normal to be a bit let loose after a period without anal but you recover fast. Have you done daily anal training since then ? Where are you with your anal stretching journey ?
See you !
I’m back on the horse and trying to do daily stretching again. My butt plug is too small, so I’ve started using my dildo now. It’s longer and wider, so I feel like I’m making progress. Plus it has a thrusting feature, so I’m getting my ass ready for when my partner is finally ready to move on from just fingers and finally have anal sex with me. I’m trying to be patient with him, but it’s a distance relationship right now so we don’t get to see each other as regularly as I would like.
I’d like to, respectfully, say this on behalf of your boyfriend: As we all know here, it’s great to be into anal, but it’s not to be taken for granted. Not from your female partner, and not from your male one, either.
I wish you the best and hope you’ll be able to explore anal together, but if there are reservations, fear or whatever the case may be, they’re just as valid when the penetrating partner has them.
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I appreciate that. We’re taking it slow and communicating well, I think I’m just very excited.
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