Partner trying to convert an anal loving person into vaginal

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It just occurred me to talk about this little episode of my life.

Once upon a time, a woman called me on a dating app, she was older than me, she had no picture of herself. Ok, I thought, maybe she’s attractive anyway and I would not like to miss this oportunity. We started talking and I sense she’s conservative and “vanilla”, religious and very scared at anything considered different from the norm.

Anyways. Once we created a certain bond, I thought well let me tell her about my sexuality just in case she’s open to it, or else we’ll part ways like it’s more probable. Then I told her I was very into anal, she said she’s never done it and never would, and I thought, ok, this is it, case closed. But then she was all atentious and saying we could go out or something and I thought well maybe she’s into anal but too shy to admit it, who knows? Why else would she bother to be friends with me?

So we went out, I went to a place next to where she lives which is in the opposite part of the city, but I was willing to give it a try. She’s fairly atractive for her age (she was 46 at the time, and I was 37). She was very interested in me, we went out 3 more times. In one of these encounters, she said again “ok you’re very interesting but you said you prefer anal and that’s not my thing”. In other ocasion she said anal was too normalized in porn and she hated that. And I thought to myself well this isn’t a good sign.

At the fourth encounter, we went to a motel and I brought with me a glass of lube, I thought well at least some anal activity with fingers or something she will certainly be willing to try. When she saw the lube, she kind of panicked in horror and said in no way you’re going to use this with me. I felt myself betrayed because since the very beginning I told her I was into anal. Anyways, I did oral with her, I fucked her vaginally, but had no pleasure at all. For her it was very nice, she climaxed twice and we left and I paid the bill of the place even if she had pleasure and I had none.

Afterwards, I thought, well enough of this, I told her I wouldn’t meet her anymore because we were not compatible with each other. That’s when she got angry and acted like I was a toxic male or something, and thinking afterwards I thought how this person manipulated me, when I was so transparent with her since the first moment. If anyone was a victim, it was me.

So, what’s the problem with people like her? Is it because they think other people’s anal preference is some kind disease that they have to cure?

I also have other anedoctes to tell about vaginal women not being able to deal with my preferences, but this was the case that most sticked into my head. Anyone has a similar story?

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Hey @Neo , are you from Brazil? As a native Portuguese speaker, I understand the word “motel” as a hotel for adults, where couples go to have sex and the specially decorated rooms are paid for by the hour. But I think most people around the world would take it as a simple roadside hotel.

About your story, as you well know, some people are not ready to leave the Matrix. And many of them are so inured and so hopelessly dependent on vaginal sex that they will fight to protect it.

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Yes, that’s it, roadside hotel, thank you. It’s a hotel for sex lol

I think this person should have not wasted my time and energy if she knew from the start that what I wanted she could not give. But for some reason she thought I would suddenly start to love vaginal just because it’s supposedly the correct and normal way to have sex.

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I consider myself incredibly lucky that my partner has been open to exploring anal play with me in this past year, even though I kept that side of me hidden when we first starting dating. I’m sorry you found yourself in that frustrating situation @Neo.

Not to condone her actions, but just to suggest a potential way of thinking that might have contributed to her reaction. The vagina is a symbol of women, and to reject that symbol could be construed as rejecting women more generally. I feel like I’ve seen other people post here a similar sentiment, that people think women who enjoy anal must be ashamed of what makes them a woman. I’d be lying if I said the thought hasn’t crossed my mind personally. Personally, I find it helpful to remember that I’m so much more than just my vagina, and that exploring my sexuality in whatever way I want is my right as a woman. But that means I also need to respect the women who choose not to explore anal. Hopefully they respect me too!

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I see, when I was young I also had this terrible guilty feeling of not loving a woman for her “womanness”, ie, her vagina. It’s complicated and we have to walk on eggshells. In the case of this person I mentioned, I was saying it because I thought we were not so similar so let me drop the bombs and if she’ll have to give up she’ll give up already. But instead she insisted, but I wasn’t counting with the fact that she was actually thinking I could be happy without anal. It’s like people like her think anal is bad so let’s do our part to live in a world without anal. Lol

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Maybe you just happened to date a woman who wanted to see if she could convert an anal only man into preferring PIV. You both wanted different things. That’s normal and happens all the time. You’ll either find your anal queen, or you will help another woman discover, enjoy, and appreciate the anal experience.

Anal only now for 7 years, my wife occasionally (once or twice a year) asks me to start with vaginal penetration. She’s curious if she experiences pleasure during PIV. It isn’t long before she pulls forward and relocates my cock where she really wants it.

As far as the sexual equipment she was born with, I spend plenty of time worshipping, caressing, licking, and sucking her pussy. The only difference is where I prefer to put the sexual equipment I was born with. Extensive oral anal and vaginal foreplay accentuate the main course of anal penetration.

If I knew then what I know now, I think I could have done a better job helping my wife enjoy anal play and penetration. If you find an open minded woman, your chances of success should increase.

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Yes, sure. I think vaginas are beautiful and very interesting to play with…. I just don’t want to insert my penis there. It’s not that hard to understand for a good willing partner.

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