So I’ve recently been dealing with some weird health stuff. I get dizzy at random times, I get headaches, my blood pressure drops. I even passed out on the airplane back from LA, which was super embarrassing. After an fMRI, a tilt table, and a million other tests, they’re still not sure what’s causing it. My PCP finally said it could be a hormonal thing from my IUD. So I have an appointment to get it removed on Thursday. I’m supposed to try a month or two without it and see if things get better.
I’v been lowkey freaking out, since it will be the first time in forever I’m not on some form of birth control. I’m not sure how my hormones will affect me or my sex drive, and I’m definitely not excited to have full blown-periods again.
To stop myself from spiraling, I’ve been trying to see this as an opportunity. A lot of people on here have suggested doing an anal only month as a sort of trial thing. And reading positive comments (especially from other girls) here has made me curious to finally try dipping my toe into the anal only world.
So what do you guys think, should I ask my partner if we should try anal only for the month I’m without my IUD? I’m honestly not sure if I’m looking for advice or just encouragement. (Probably just trying to deal with my nerves, lol) But I’d love to hear what you all think.
Do it. Decades of oral birth control meds killed my wife’s libido. In retrospect, she wishes she started anal earlier as a form of birth control. You can still go front side when you want to get pregnant.
Glad you’re pursuing what’s going on based on your symptoms. IUD’s can also be an issue for well endowed men when they feel a sharp poke during a deep thrust.
Let me know if ANYONE in this group doesn’t strongly suggest to go anal only! Good luck with the testing, follow up, and a month of nothing but anal.
Let me tell you, my wife had a SERIOUS health problem, many many years ago. For six months, we consulted several specialists, each with a different opinion, but none with a precise diagnose. It miraculously resolved it by itself after I had a vasectomy and she stopped birth control.
I’m glad it worked for your wife, I seriously hope it works for me too! They thought it could be POTS, but then didn’t diagnosis it after I failed a tilt table test. So now I don’t know what to think. Argh!
I appreciate the votes of confidence… obviously this decision won’t be a one sided thing, I’ll have to talk to my partner about it. He knows I’ve really been enjoying anal, and I think he has been too, but you never know.
I’m certainly not at a point in my life where I want kids. That’s mostly a personal choice for now, but there are also anti-natalism arguments that have been nagging in the back of my mind, tbh.
You’re young and don’t need to worry about that decision at this point of your life. You have plenty of time to decide but I’ll tell you that as much as I LOVE anal, my wife, the children we created, and the grandchildren who followed are the essence of our being.
You have time but always consider many people who made a decision later regretted it. In my 70 years, I’ve only seen regret in those who decided not to have a child.
Don’t worry about those things or listen to grandpa. Your boyfriend will have a shit eatin grin on his face when yo tell him what you have in mind.
We talked about it last night, though I kinda wimped out. My IUD came out on Thursday and it was honestly a lot easier than I was worried about. Definitely harder going in than coming out.
I saw my partner Saturday night and he had already bought condoms (he’s so sweet!) but there were… complications by Saturday. I don’t want to give you tmi but vaginal wasn’t really an option. So I just said to him how I’ve really been enjoying anal so much, what if we just focused on that while my iud was out?
He said if I was sure that’s what I wanted, then he was fine with it. So I didn’t really use the phrase “anal only”, and I didn’t talk about it being a sort of trial thing. But we did agree not to do piv for this month. So it’s a start, and I know we’ll keep talking about it going forward.
And then we had amazing anal sex, so I’m very pleased with how the night went, despite my body being overly complicated!
I don’t know, it just feels like a big step, you know? I’m scared that it will be a mistake, and if I back out I’ll look stupid. That’s kinda what happened the first time I ever tried anal sex, I got cold feet and stopped and then just felt like an idiot.
But I think I’m just as scared that HE won’t be into it. And then even if we try to go back, he’ll still look at me as the girl who’s weird and wanted to try anal only. That’s just a lot of pressure, especially when I feel like I’m still experimenting.
But I have been really happy so far. It’s been just over a week now and we’ve had anal sex three times, no vaginal whatsoever. It’s been incredible, I’ve been really proud of our stamina and I’ve orgasmed every time. The only road bump was that there was a little bit of an accident Saturday. I was soooo embarrassed, I’ve been terrified of this happening, even though I knew it would probably happen eventually. But he stayed calm when I panicked and quickly cleaned everything up, and then he washed up and we just cuddled for a while. So I guess that’s one more hurdle crossed? We agreed to check in with each other again at the end of this week.
Don’t overthink it. Without saying anything, if you end up always, or mostly, anal when you get together, that should send you a message that he’s just as into it as you are. If not, he’d start with vaginal or bring the subject up. Let things take their natural course before worrying about it.
And as far as the accident is concerned, had he been looking for a reason to push back on anal only, that was the perfect opportunity. There are so many accidents my wife never even knew about when we started anal because I never let her know. A few times she did but it didn’t phase me, as is the case with many men. It’s gunna happen.
So, next time you get together, clean out, plug, and get yourself ready and just see where it goes. My guess is he’s going to go right back to your backdoor, but I’m obviously biased.
What Colt says is what I was going to say. Who says you need to say the words ? Don’t, just let things happen. And if there’s occasionally vaginal, as foreplay for anal, that’s great. Enjoy everything.
Hello Jenna. You both seem to enjoy it a lot so do not put pressure on yourself and let your couple live its best life
Does your boyfriend know about the hitch ? If not, maybe try to wear it and surprise him. That could be a nice sign to see how much he is into anal with his reaction
It sounds like “Don’t overthink it” needs to be my new mantra, everyone keeps telling me that! I’m really trying, but it’s scary. Thanks for the kind words and support.
I have not told him about the hitch, but he knows about my other toys (he bought one of them for me). I haven’t told him about this forum either. Maybe you’re right, I could have it in the next time he comes over to my place. I’m not sure I’m confident enough to wear it over to his yet.
Then wait a bit. You need to feel ready and turned on enough to do it. Again, no pressure ! Your boyfriend seem super nice and understanding. This is a super plus in a relationship. Thanks to that you can be yourself without being judged
The only road bump was that there was a little bit of an accident Saturday. I was soooo embarrassed, I’ve been terrified of this happening, even though I knew it would probably happen eventually. But he stayed calm when I panicked and quickly cleaned everything up, and then he washed up and we just cuddled for a while. So I guess that’s one more hurdle crossed? 