Nice to join this community. I was at the old forum and was increasingly disillusioned by the comments and chat. It seemed to me that incels and misogynist were taking over and reducing most conversations to a discussion of male needs and female submission. I really hope that doesn’t happen here.
Fingers crossed
Alicia
I have similar hopes as well. I’m all for consenting adults who engage in power exchange play, but misogyny is inappropriate and upsetting,
Welcome
I actually saw you, @notnice66 randomly attacking people’s preferences because you didn’t agree.
So I hope in this forum you will be more diplomatic in your replies, cause your opinion is not the only correct opinion.
Disagree with respect. It’s not up to you to tell people a submissive woman is a bad thing.
Well said! Here’s to hoping!
I don’t remember the incident you describe, but I do recall a lot of comments about women having to learn their place and such. I think it’s important to look at the difference Canassman just mentioned. Does someone say “My preference is for my partner to be x” or does someone say “All women are x”. The latter is problematic and not a preference, I think, and can rightly be called out, wouldn’t you say?
Sure. But fact is many women choose to be submissive in their sexlife. Nothing wrong with that.
Just like there’s nothing wrong with men saying they prefer their woman submissive.
@notnice66 is just a bit too fast with the popular word misogynistic.
If I see a guy coming here and load posts with pics of his “slaves”, I will be the first mod to remove the pics and tell him this is not the place to bragg with his throphy’s. I feel no need to be greeted with porn pics on all categories of this forum. Fetlife is created for that purpose.
I feel like you’re confusing the issue now. If anyone posts pics of his or her slaves, that would be against the rules.
Having consenting slaves isn’t the issue either, I would say. Since, as you say, many women like to submit sexually. And many men like to dominate women.
My point of contention is this: If a man says “I prefer submissive partners”, that’s fine. If someone says (man or woman) “All women should be nothing more than sexual playthings for men”, then that’s misogyny and problematic.
Yes but I don’t like it if people jump to conclusions whenever they see something that doesn’t resonate with their personal way of thinking. 
Welcome. 
I’ve given up on the old forum too. By the nature of the lifestyle it attracts overwhelmingly porn sick men into any space and they eventually come to dominate and ruin it.
It was the spam that finally made me quit, I actually made the mistake of going through one of the links and it led to Child Sexual Abuse Imagery and that was the final straw.
I personally hope it goes under.
Yet they should still be allowed and able to voice their dissent in a respectful and thought-out manner 
Some aspects of the old forum made me uncomfortable as well, as a cis guy. So yeah, either the owner cleans house or it deserves to die.
I have to say, LindyMc, it’s a bit off-topic, but your profile pic is quite mesmerizing. Something about those colour gradients I think. Very pretty!
The owner has checked out, despite their protestations. They disappear for lengthy stretches and spend more time posting porn on BDSMLR than looking after the blog and forum.
Thank you for the compliment. 
I don’t understand why been submissive is somehow “wrong”. that’s who I am and what I enjoy most.
You read that wrong. There is nothing wrong with being submissive. Assuming that women who love anal should automatically be submissive is wrong.
As a woman you can be strong willed and fierce, yet love to have a cock up your ass. Loving anal has little to do with being submissive.
There’s nothing wrong with being submissive, men or woman. I (and some others, see above) just don’t like people telling everyone (whether they asked or not) that ALL women should be submissive playthings to men.
thanks guys. I love being submissive, it’s like the purpose of me.
I do know that people tend to look down on subs, since we may show as weak and depends on others. people care us may also think that we should “grow up”. but I want want to change, I don’t people offering help just because I may have some bruising, I’m super happy with current situation. I want my husband to control everything, it really reliefs me.