Hello,
I was a registered user of the previous forum and I’m late to move to this new one.
I’m from France, I’m 65, I’m into BDSM relationship and my slave (she is 55) is AO for a little bit more than 10 years.
After all these years It became a normal way of penetrating her, her vagina hasn’t been penetrated for more than 10 years so.
She was reluctant and frustrated at first, but now this is normal for her and she likes it very much (so do I).
In our duo/couple AO is not something special or original or out of the ordinary, it’s just the noral, usual way she is fucked.
I seem to remember you put pictures of your slave all over the old forum. Please don’t do that here. Keep pictures in the porn category, cause I will remove any picture of her you put in other categories.
We want to keep this forum information based and not another fetlife.
So I will now approve you, but follow our rules that you should have read already.
I’m afraid to are mixing me with someone else.
I had the same “Polyphonie” name in the old forum (it’s my Fetlife name).
As far as I remember I never put any picture in the old forum
I really liked this post of yours from two years ago on the old forum. What attracts me most to the anal-only lifestyle is not so much the physical aspect of replacing the vagina with the butt (different sensations), but rather the psychological changes in consciousness and attitude towards anal sex. So that when the word “sex” comes to mind, thoughts of anal sex arise, so that the butt is perceived as a natural sexual opening by default. In everyday life, most couples mean vaginal sex by the word “sex”, and if they discuss anal sex, then clarification is always required - adding the word “anal” to the word “sex”. In my relationship with my wife, we are gradually coming to the opposite situation: when the word “sex” simply means anal sex, and if we suddenly want to discuss PIV, then we always have to add the word “vaginal”, because this type of sex has not been used in our intimate sphere for a long time.
Since going anal only we were at that point in an instant:
Fucking meant anal sex. Always without any doubt.
Sex meant oral and anal sex, ass to mouth is even considered a normal way to have sex.
She was the one who wanted to do the switch to anal only and was eager to stop pussy penetration altogether.
If, for any reason, her asshole is not available for sex, there’s only oral left, cause we will never do pussy sex again.
Now that we’re married I feel the mindset of being anal only for life, got even stronger. Knowing I married a woman whom I will never fuck in her pussy again, is a very strong connection like nothing I felth before.
I agree with both of you.
The ultimate goal is for the word “anal” to disappear from “anal sex,” for “anal sex” to just be sex, normal sex.
What interested me most was the long road to get there, the long road required to transform her.
This meant [using mechanical/electrical terms] disconnecting her natural way of thinking and feeling (if during sex there must be penetration, my orifice to be penetrated is my vagina) to rewire it differently so that she thinks/feels (if during sex there must be penetration, my orifice to be penetrated is my anus).
After years, we’ve now reached the point: “the orifice to be penetrated that gives me pleasure is my anus.”
My partner hasn’t been penetrated vaginally for about 10 years. I think that today, if I (or someone else) were to penetrate her vagina, it would feel strange, out of place, and not very pleasant… just like someone who’s never had anal sex would feel about having their anus penetrated.
It’s been fascinating and demanding process (including a lot of mindfuck work), long-term work (in our case, it took years), and very rewarding.
Yes, this is exactly the kind of intimate relationship I would like to come to over time (for now we are halfway there. Thank you, you very clearly captured what I wanted to say.
The conversion to anal only was less difficult for us. Prior to anal, my wife was unable to orgasm during vaginal penetration. Long story, but birth control meds for decades stunted her libido. She only experienced clitoral orgasm from oral or manual stimulation.
When she stopped taking birth control meds and started hormone replacement therapy, her libido returned and she discovered the pleasure of anal stimulation. She experienced anal orgasm during anal play with led to anal penetration. She experienced anal orgasm the first time I penetrated her ass.
Her ability to experience orgasm during anal penetration made our anal only decision easy. It did take some time to train her ass with increasingly larger toys, but anal orgasm is what caused her to prefer anal only. I would think a woman who experiences anal orgasm, especially a woman who has difficulty experiencing orgasm during vaginal penetration, has an easier time converting to an anal only lifestyle.
In our case, things were a little unusual because our relationship is part of a BDSM framework, and my partner had a very active sex life before me, much too active (she did anything with anyone). Short story, the transition to Anal Only was both a pure order to establish my authority and a form of punishment for the years of debauchery that preceded it.
So she feel she had to do it, it was part of her submissive status (and the guilt from her previous life helped somehow).
Since this is not how my relationship inside a BDSM-framework work, I’m wondering. I can’t yet see the appeal for her, unless she had a very strong desire to submit, or to be anal only herself.