I just noticed the post asking the many members who remain silent to speak up and create a topic. Sounds great to me. The sluggishness in forum activity has me not logging in much.
I would love to have stories that give me bragging rights to post, but my life has become introspective, being as I live it with an asexual spouse.
Yet, I would like to know if there is a wider interest than it seems, amongst men who enjoy receiving anal.
Thanks for responding to the call. I sometimes get worried that I post too much and people will get annoyed with me!
I’ve thought about asking my partner if he would be interested in playing with his butt, but haven’t yet. I’ll report back his views.
I also know that a lot of the influencers I followed to learn about anal are actually gay men, like Alex Hall.
And it feels like many of the new members in the last month are men, trans men, and trans women interested in bottoming. So I think the anal only life is really for everyone and every orientation. But that’s just me.
I am a man who is interested in anal both ways, giving and receiving.
I am a straight man married to a woman. We had tried, for a several months, her receiving anal but she had a variety of problems with it and suspended that at least for the time being. Its harder for some people than others and she is not naturally motivated in this way.
However, I have also been interested in receiving anal toys and fists for 40+ years. I have never been with a man. I am not attracted to men, but the idea of being penetrated by a man (especially one very well endowed – which would still be nowhere near as large as my toys) is always in the background, but I am not motivated to do anything about it. Toys are a lot less complicated than people – I have no interest in life being any more complicated than it already is. Furthermore, while my wife accepts my use of toys and semi-willingly will supply a fist, I can’t imagine her considering anything involving a third person (of any gender).
AnalLover, you seem a kindred spirit. I could have spoken every word you said (apart from my wife any longer supplying a fist).
Being introspective, I have for years (50+) pondered the apparent contradiction of wanting to receive (as well as give) anal, yet only finding women sexually attractive.
Virtually none of what is written about transgender, gender dysphoria, bisexuality, homosexuality, crossdressing, sissy ideation, forced feminization, cuckolding, etc. resonates with my inclinations. Though I don’t really need to find a category to fit myself into, autogynephilia really seems the best fit. It is, however, astonishing to me that any discussion regarding AGP has engendered such heated overly intellectual arguments everywhere I look, as if it simply cannot exist as a natural form of experiencing one’s own physicality and sexuality. I do wonder if AOL might be host to many others having such a viewpoint.
To me the forum is meant for anyone living an anal onlylife.
We have a woman who never had a cock in her ass, but she’s anal only for years because she doesn’t masturbate her pussy.
We have a man in a sexless marriage masturbating anally all the time. He lives an anal only life.
We have a man who want to be feminized and become an anal only bottom for his spouse.
We had a girl who had an anal only groupsex dynamic going on weekly. 4 couples in which all girls were anal only with all the guys, even double anal.
We had a femboy here who wanted to become an anal only bottom and let his cock render useless over time. He tamked about transisioning to become a permanent she. I think he/she still reads but doesn’t know in which topics to react.
Cause the overall dymanic on this forum Is indeed hetero sexual couples who chose an anal exclusive sexlife for themselves. But this isn’t a limit. At all.
I’ve seen a gay man as a member on the old forum. And although you can say gay men have no other option besides anal only, that is not correct. There are gay men who don’t do anal, only hands and oral. This means that even gay men have to choose the anal only lifestyle.
I’d like to hear more from such a variety of people. It would be great if they would post more.
Seeing as I’m in the closet, pretty much even with my wife, a discussion group like this is very therapeutic. Since I have no status to lose here, and apparent anonymity, I will take my own advice and share:
Apart from an anomaly 6 years ago when my wife actually twice had sex with me, I have been anal only for 19 years… as the recipient. It has been entirely solo, with an ever increasing range of lengths and girths of realistic dildos. Yet, as mentioned, what floats my boat as much as the penetration is actively imagining myself as a female. I can only conclude that my fixation arises from the need to have a female partner, who lacking, I instead become. A life-long hangup of jealousy and possessiveness has transformed into me subconsciously fantasizing about being my wife, when she had sex with other guys in her youth. It somehow neutralizes my internal strife. I figure it is an odd, but harmless, psychological adaptation to things which I cannot change. Thus, I change myself. The psychological changes have even produced very interesting and welcome physical changes.
In my first marriage there was anal, but absolutely not in line with my desire. She was just okay with doing anal every once in a while but it never worked because she wasn’t open to it.
So over the years I’ve started an imaginairy life in which my then wife was a willing anal and ass to mouth slut. Giving me almost exclusively anal and ass to mouth sex. This created the chainreaction that masturbating to that imaginairy wife became important to me. I needed it to cope with life, to find reasons to go on.
The downside was that the real sex with her, vaginal and oral, often wasn’t very satifactory. I was very aware during sex, but not in a healthy way. It felt like a mental escape. My orgasms weren’t as intense as when I masturbated thinking about my imaginairy ass to mouth slut of a wife. This made me a compulsive masturbator. Almost daily, a lot of times in my worktruck with the curtains closed. I wasn’t aware how much I missed out. I was relatively happy.
Untill I met a woman who is very anal minded and told me since the first anal fuck I could probably assfuck her every day. She told me I could look upon her asshole as my always free to use fuckhole. She told me she would never refuse me if I wanted to assfuck her. And till date she did all that. My imaginairy wife became a real wife. My decades long fantasy became reality. My compulsive tendency to masturbate is entitely gone. Because having real ass to mouth sex with my wife is the most intense form of sex I’ve ever experienced. No fantasy can top this.
This is the reason why I can’t stop glorifying her. She is litterally the woman I’ve been dreaming about. But with a better body and prettier face. I upgraded big time and now live life to the fullest. Like every day is my last. No regrets.
Gives new meaning to “living the dream.”