Hello everyone, it’s nice to find a forum for like-minded people! I was an anal virgin until two years ago when my new boyfriend introduced me to anal and started what has become a wonderful journey of pleasure and fun!
At the moment probably 95% of our encounters are anal/oral only and I find him ignoring my other hole to be very exciting.
The other day we were talking about how nice it would be if there could be an aesthetic reminder that my other hole isn’t available. We both found the idea very exciting, but there seem to be so many options and I’m not sure which would be best for us! I figured this would be the place to find good advice about the pros and cons of various options! If you have any thoughts please drop them below!
A tattoo is permanent, but you could tattoo the words “NOT HERE” with an arrow pointing to your pussy.
Missionary is our favorite anal position with her at the corner of the bed and me standing. If you had this tattooed below the bikini line, your partner would see it while you’re having anal.
Some may suggest rings in your labia with a chain denoting its closed for business. Haha, maybe you could tattoo “closed for business” with the arrow!
I was thinking about getting a temporary tattoo to experiment with how it looks before committing to an actual tattoo, I think that idea would be really lovely - just to have “anal only” on my pubic area!
I love the idea of a piercing but the ones I’ve seen look a bit brutal with big thick rings - I like a pretty feminine delicate kind of aesthetic!
I also really like the idea of having my clit permanently covered because I can have anal orgasms so, like my partner says, what’s the use of having my clit accessible?
I can’t quite imagine getting my pussy out for a piercer though, I would feel so shy!
Welcome to the forum, so I understand you like to keep your pussy out of sight ?
Non permanent and kind of fun is using bikini microthongs. They are made in so many different pretty designs, the back is only two string going in between your buttcheeks and your asshole is very reachable while you wear it.
If you’re braver another non permanent idea is using skin collored boobtape to glue a strip over your pussy. So it not only will be covered, but also blend in like it’s not even there.
Of course, taking the tape of is not pleasant. Maybe sit in the bathtub to make it come loose.
Taping over the pussy is common, I’ve seen it before. Most do it in a doms/sub situation.
Oh I really love the idea of making my pussy invisible with tape! I suppose our relationship might be on the edge of dommy/subby but it’s more focused on both loving anal and finding it sexy to ignore my pussy/clit as unnecessary to our sex life!
Boobtape is skinfriendly and breathing. I think it’s a much safer and eastatically appealing option over ducttape, which is not skinfriendly and very painfull to remove.
I’m trying to unpack this, and I hope it comes out right. I’m genuinely curious about the phenomenology of why you find your boyfriend ignoring your vagina to be a turn-on. Like, I’m trying to get a sense of your subjective experience of it.
For me, my main reason for being here is pretty much rooted in a positive exploration of what anal offers on its own terms. It’s about the pursuit of a specific kind of pleasure. But the way you’re describing your experience seems to say that the absence of vaginal attention is a core component of what makes it hot, almost as significant as the presence of anal. Does that difference make sense?
I’m guessing the answer is just that it’s a particular kink that you find hot and I don’t yet, which is obviously fine. But I feel like if I could better understand the appeal of what you’re describing—of making the vagina a non-entity in the pursuit of pleasure—it might help make me more open to moving from where I am right now, which is “I want anal every time,” to a place where I could genuinely want to be “anal only.”
A few years ago I’d bought my wife a cheap, lace, body with thong back. Some great night I fucked her ass while she wore it. Her pussy was covered, her asshole was exposed. Her boobs were covered in seethrough material.
Afterwards she told me she got extra horny because her pussy was covered, proving her pussy really didn’t have a function in our sexlife. Cause it was one of our most loving assfucks ever. So much emotion, purely through my cock in her asshole. Looking at eachother the whole time.