Hello everyone, it’s nice to find a forum for like-minded people! I was an anal virgin until two years ago when my new boyfriend introduced me to anal and started what has become a wonderful journey of pleasure and fun!
At the moment probably 95% of our encounters are anal/oral only and I find him ignoring my other hole to be very exciting.
The other day we were talking about how nice it would be if there could be an aesthetic reminder that my other hole isn’t available. We both found the idea very exciting, but there seem to be so many options and I’m not sure which would be best for us! I figured this would be the place to find good advice about the pros and cons of various options! If you have any thoughts please drop them below!
A tattoo is permanent, but you could tattoo the words “NOT HERE” with an arrow pointing to your pussy.
Missionary is our favorite anal position with her at the corner of the bed and me standing. If you had this tattooed below the bikini line, your partner would see it while you’re having anal.
Some may suggest rings in your labia with a chain denoting its closed for business. Haha, maybe you could tattoo “closed for business” with the arrow!
I was thinking about getting a temporary tattoo to experiment with how it looks before committing to an actual tattoo, I think that idea would be really lovely - just to have “anal only” on my pubic area!
I love the idea of a piercing but the ones I’ve seen look a bit brutal with big thick rings - I like a pretty feminine delicate kind of aesthetic!
I also really like the idea of having my clit permanently covered because I can have anal orgasms so, like my partner says, what’s the use of having my clit accessible?
I can’t quite imagine getting my pussy out for a piercer though, I would feel so shy!
Welcome to the forum, so I understand you like to keep your pussy out of sight ?
Non permanent and kind of fun is using bikini microthongs. They are made in so many different pretty designs, the back is only two string going in between your buttcheeks and your asshole is very reachable while you wear it.
If you’re braver another non permanent idea is using skin collored boobtape to glue a strip over your pussy. So it not only will be covered, but also blend in like it’s not even there.
Of course, taking the tape of is not pleasant. Maybe sit in the bathtub to make it come loose.
Taping over the pussy is common, I’ve seen it before. Most do it in a doms/sub situation.
Oh I really love the idea of making my pussy invisible with tape! I suppose our relationship might be on the edge of dommy/subby but it’s more focused on both loving anal and finding it sexy to ignore my pussy/clit as unnecessary to our sex life!
Boobtape is skinfriendly and breathing. I think it’s a much safer and eastatically appealing option over ducttape, which is not skinfriendly and very painfull to remove.
I’m trying to unpack this, and I hope it comes out right. I’m genuinely curious about the phenomenology of why you find your boyfriend ignoring your vagina to be a turn-on. Like, I’m trying to get a sense of your subjective experience of it.
For me, my main reason for being here is pretty much rooted in a positive exploration of what anal offers on its own terms. It’s about the pursuit of a specific kind of pleasure. But the way you’re describing your experience seems to say that the absence of vaginal attention is a core component of what makes it hot, almost as significant as the presence of anal. Does that difference make sense?
I’m guessing the answer is just that it’s a particular kink that you find hot and I don’t yet, which is obviously fine. But I feel like if I could better understand the appeal of what you’re describing—of making the vagina a non-entity in the pursuit of pleasure—it might help make me more open to moving from where I am right now, which is “I want anal every time,” to a place where I could genuinely want to be “anal only.”
A few years ago I’d bought my wife a cheap, lace, body with thong back. Some great night I fucked her ass while she wore it. Her pussy was covered, her asshole was exposed. Her boobs were covered in seethrough material.
Afterwards she told me she got extra horny because her pussy was covered, proving her pussy really didn’t have a function in our sexlife. Cause it was one of our most loving assfucks ever. So much emotion, purely through my cock in her asshole. Looking at eachother the whole time.
To be honest a huge one is contraception - we’re monogamous and trust each other, and I don’t get on with birth control so it’s a huge relief to not have to worry and just be anal only.
Also I have really intense orgasms when my pussy is empty - instead of squeezing around my boyfriend is squeezing around nothing which seems to make everything squeeze harder and feel nicer, if that makes sense.
It also definitely started with a kink aspect of me being naturally submissive and loving doing anal only because of the focus on his pleasure - although eventually I found that I liked it more that way anyway.
I totally agree with what you’re saying though, the absence of my pussy/clit is as important as the assfucking in terms of what turns me on. Does that help make sense of it a bit?
For me, I ignore my vagina/clit, making my mindset anal only, focusing on my asshole only, which helps me receive authentic pleasure and I cum easier and better from anal only. If you want to cover your vagina shut, make sure to use the boob/breast tape that does not cause irritation and discomfort when you remove the tape. Duct tape on your vagina is a big no because pulling the duct tape off your vagina causes discomfort and pain. Let me know how it goes!
This does help, thank you! For myself, I find it really easy to get in my own head during sex, and that often kills the vibe. I get all worried about how I look, or if I’m doing it right, or if he’s enjoying himself… and then I’m not in the moment anymore. So while I don’t think of myself as necessarily submissive, the idea of not having to worry and just letting him do the driving does sound appealing at times. But then I feel the orgasm coming and I get greedy and just take over. I guess I just have no chill!
I’ve always fantasied about chastity piercings and clit hoods. I’ve seen a lot of different images. You are right, many of them are large and seem like they are not practical for daily use. I have seen a couple that were barbells that go from one lip to the other. 3 or 4 of those, even very small and thin ones, would make the vaginal hole inaccessible. And if thin enough it can be worn under bathing suit without being obvious.
I know my wife would never even consider such a thing, but I’ve always thought the idea is so sexy. To fuck a girl in the ass or throat with her pussy locked up.
Well I took the plunge and got a VCH piercing! It did hurt but only very briefly and it’s healing extremely well and isn’t uncomfortable in daily life - it does pull a bit during missionary though, although that might be because it’s still healing!
I’m going to wait a while for it to fully settle in before I start to think about adding to it for chastity purposes I was a bit worried that it might look very obvious or slutty but it actually looks reasonably delicate, and hopefully more so when I am fully healed and can choose a piercing myself!
I am going to experiment more with body tape, I think I’ll have to cover the piercing first though with gauze or a plaster to protect it - removing tape from there sounds unpleasant while it’s healing!
OMG yay, I’m so glad that it has been good for you!
I’ve heard a bunch of different stuff about sensitivity after a VCH. Some girls say they’re way more sensitive, and others say they’re less. I just feel like everyone’s body is so different. What was it like for you? Did you notice any change at all? I’m so curious!
Well the lower ball is pushed right up against your clitoris, but I don’t think I notice that during daily activities - it’s not like when you sit down you’re sitting directly on that area! I have noticed it sometimes when walking but I think that’s probably a fluke if you’ve got a bit of a wedgie going on or something.
But during sex. Wow! If either ball moves even slightly I’m gasping, it feels far more sensitive than before!
Is it something you’re considering doing? I’m still in the healing stages but I think I’d definitely recommend it! I’m not sure it’s going to help with its original purpose of encouraging chastity though
I have a lot of genital piercings, including the VCH. You don’t really notice it in everyday life, but when it’s specifically stimulated, it definitely has an effect.
I have a few rings in my labia, so I could easily close my pussy with a couple of chains. But I don’t want to do that at all; I like it when it stays open, and then I tell myself that I’ll never use that hole again.
That way, I can renew my promise every day to be anal-only. I could have vaginal penetration anytime, but I never do.
Couldn’t a commitment like that be a way for you to seal your pussy, too? Not in a visible way, but in an emotional one.
Thank you for sharing. To borrow some language from philosophy, I think there’s a very far away possible world where I would get a VCH. I find the idea intriguing and sexy, but it sounds like a big step for me that I’m not ready to take yet, so it will probably stay just in my fantasies for now.
I was a bit worried that it might look very obvious or slutty but it actually looks reasonably delicate, and hopefully more so when I am fully healed and can choose a piercing myself!