I think of myself as an "analsexual"

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As I get older (I’m 40), I find I am interested in a person’s ass and not really their genitals. In that sense I have no preference for women or men… I independently came up with the word “analsexual” but I’ve seen other people use it.

I have never been with a woman because I found it much easier to find gay bottoms. I’ve always had a thing for butts since I was a child. Asses are inherently provocative, forbidden, shapely, sensitive, erogenous, grab-able, and so on. There’s something about how they sort of stare at you when a person’s back is turned, almost silently taking on a personality of their own.

I remember when I learned you could actually fuck an ass, it took the sexual aspect of it from abstract to actionable. I love the idea of a guy in chastity and their sexual pleasure restricted to anal.

I self-identified as “gay” but it felt more like an identity choice than an accurate description; I like the female figure and jerk off to straight anal porn all the time. The one thing that unifies my pornographic preferences is someone has to get fucked in the ass. I don’t really know how to approach a woman and tell her I only want anal, they will probably think I’m weird – and maybe they’re right. There probably aren’t a lot of e.g. dating profiles where women would spell that preference out because it probably attracts weirdos? idk. I honestly don’t know a lot about girls! Regardless, I think I could be very happy in a relationship with an anal-oriented woman, it’s just not something I deliberately pursue. I briefly had a partner (man) who would have orgasms from getting fucked in the ass, I still miss that.

Not sure if there are other guys like me who just like ass regardless of sex, or women who don’t think a person like me is creepy/gross. Just wanted to share my brief bio and how my ass-obsessed mind works.

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WELCOME!

“I resemble that remark.” While I am a straight man and don’t feel attraction to other men in preference, and I have never been with a man, when I watch porn it does not really matter to me who (what gender) is getting fucked… as long as they are getting fucked in the ass.

Absolutely there are other men who feel as you do. I feel that way even though I have never been with a man. And absolutely there are women to don’t think a person (of any gender) with those feelings is “creepy/gross”.

I have wondered what I would do if my wife died (or if she dumped me for a better looking man) in regard to dating and seeking future relationships. It is not a big concern for me, but as we all know, bad s–t happens sometimes. Though I know I am attracted to women, knowing what I know now about myself, I really don’t think I would bother trying to seek or have a relationship with a women unless I knew she was anal-oriented herself. (But others on this forum have expressed their opinion that it is extremely hard to find such women.)

Likebutts… I am glad you have joined the forum. Please feel free to share your experiences and perspectives.

P.S. I have a hint for you: 40 is NOT “getting older”. IMHO… In 25 years you can begin to talk about “getting older”. Right now, at 40, you (generically speaking; I don’t know YOU of course) are just rounding the corner to a life less-hindered by all the crap that came with growing up and figuring out who you are. At least that’s my perspective after having another 25+ years on you. It just keeps getting better from 40 (until your body starts falling apart, but that’s a long time off).