Update. I went to the doctor. I wanted to get advice to make sure I wasn’t doing it too much. To make sure it wasn’t doing any damage or going to give myself any future complications. Some times it is once a week, but some weeks it is several times a day every day. I just wanted to be sure it was not a mistake.
I told the receptionist I wanted to see a female doctor, just told her I needed a checkup. The doctor was really nice, she was an Indian lady, maybe 10 years older than me. She talked through everything with me. She asked how often, she asked about protection, about lube. She asked if my BF was gentle, and if he asked for my consent. I had to tell her I liked it, that I asked him for it. I was a bit embarrassed but she was lovely about it. She said that as a feminist she was proud of me, she supported me to do what I wanted with my body.
Then she said she needed to do an exam, I was hoping she would say that it wasn’t necessary, but then she said it was. She put on latex gloves and I lay back on the table naked from the waist down. It felt like she took ages looking at me and then ages more touching me, then she slid her fingers in to check inside. It felt weird, her fingers were the first thing in my pussy in months. Then she moved to my ass. I had to remind myself that it was a medical checkup and that it wasn’t cheating on my BF. It still felt weird to know that more than one person had been in my ass now. That was pretty embarrassing. Afterwards she said that I had no problems and nothing to worry about.
Then, when she asked if I had any more questions, I built up the courage to tell her I was considering AO as a long term lifestyle option. Again she asked if I was under pressure from my BF. I told her he didn’t even know about it yet, I was just thinking about it. She looked kinda impressed. She said that it is not guaranteed as a birth control method as some sperm can get spilled or whatever, I said I already knew that and that birth control wasn’t the main reason. She said there was no problem with not using my pussy for several months or years I could always go back later if I wanted. (She didn’t say pussy, she used medically correct terminology!). She also said there was no problem using my ass as much as I felt comfortable with and just to listen to my body and slow down if there was any problems.
What do you think? Was I stupid to put myself through all that? She was really nice to me. But maybe it was unnecessary.
Not at all! You were a brave woman who stepped forward, taking all the risks by exposing your most intimate secrets. You might think it was unnecessary, but it’s one thing to ask Google, AI, the internet or these bunch of anal lovers; another thing is to ask a professional doctor about your own health.
We know from experience: don’t worry, you can do it. Now you have the doctor’s approval: go ahead!
I never thought about asking AI about AOL – I just asked Chat GPT a few questions now and the answers were very vanilla. Obviously an AI doesn’t know what it is like to be fucked in the ass. Not really. How could it.
That makes me realise I should have asked the doctor if she has ever received a dick our way! Her advice is no better informed than Chat GPT if she hasn’t. Right? I think Indian women do anal a lot. I bet she has done it. What do you think?
I think if you asked her based on her own personal experience, the weight of her opinion would be the same as ours. If she likes it, she will recommend you; if she doesn’t like it, she won’t. In the end, your visit and your confession would be the same as talking to a personal friend. But you didn’t go there to talk to a friend; you went there to talk to someone who studied medicine for years and has been practicing clinical medicine for a long time. Her opinion has a different weight because it’s not biased by her personal tastes, but rather by what is scientifically healthy and what is truly harmful to the human body. She understood your situation, performed the health exams on you, found nothing wrong, so scientifically, you are doing everything right.
Speaking of AI, I’ve realized that ChatGPT has a more “vanilla” way of dealing with sexuality; not “conservative” but rather more “cautious”. On the other hand, Gemini is more open to kinkies and more respectful on the nuances of sexuality and relationships. I think you should try it to compare the results. But keep in mind that an AI doesn’t have a “human” behind the information; you even saw how many times the doctor asked you if you were being pressured by your boyfriend. Human beings are empathic; machines pretend to be that way.
I think this was a cool idea. It took away your doubt and gave you needed answers.
There are couples doing anal only for more then a decade. No issues. My wife and I are anal only for over 4 years. She still didn’t miss pussysex even once. My wife told me she had more problems, down there, when she still did vaginal sex. Stopping vaginal penetration seemed to solve that problem all at once.
What you did – asking the doctor – was, in my opinion, both very wise and very brave. Since there was some amount of concern or questioning in your mind, getting a qualified opinion and a proper examination was sounds like exactly what you needed to do.
And thank you for sharing your experience here. IMHO your post should be pinned for all new members to read.
I also agree 100% with what others have said, especially that a doctor’s opinions and advice on this subject tends to be colored by their own experiences or lack thereof. A bit of Internet searching will find all sorts of “medical opinions from doctors” about how terrible anal sex is. (Too bad that they don’t know what they are missing out on!) I am glad that you found a good doctor who asked you all the correct questions and actually listened to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I find the thought of talking to my doctor about this mortifying, you’re an inspiration!
It’s never crossed my mind to think about cheating when I’m at the OB, but I do think it means something that it didn’t cross your mind until the rectal exam began. That sounds like someone in an AO mindset to me!
The part where the doctor assumed you were pressured by your boyfriend when you mentioned that you practice anal only as an alternative birth control, ticks me off. Sorry if I sound extremely sensitive… a lot of people assumed that women who are anal-obsessed do it for their partner since the stigma about anal is still prevalent and lots of challenges and misconceptions about anal, when these women actually discover the benefits of anal pleasure and preferred anal on their own terms and choices. Idc what anyone says, I’ll always be vocal about being anal only enthusiast and it’s important to highlight the focus on women. I’m an anal only woman btw
This topic brings me back to when my ex had after birth hemoroids and was seeing a colon specialist for it.
Some day she simply asked him if having anal sex, when having hemoroids, was a bad thing. He smiled at her and reasured her hemoroids would not get worse because of anal sex. I respected that respons back then.
Had my wife known what damage decades of birth control meds would do, she would have converted to anal only earlier in her life.
It is true that many women reject anal because inexperienced partners ruined the experience for them. It puzzles me why so many men don’t understand this.
I applaud you for asking your doc these questions. Too many people don’t ask questions concerning their health and regret it later. The worst question is the one that is never asked.
Fortunately, there are many of us in this group who can testify to the safety of an anal only lifestyle when practiced responsibly.
I’m an anal only woman btw 