My husband and I had had two children, after our first I was already overweight and pretty exhausted being a mother, with the second I became morbidly obese, had zero libido and would never orgasm. We end up with a dead bedroom.
I was chatting, more complaining really, with a woman online I was friendly with while on maternity leave about my lack of orgasms and she suggested I try anal play. Now I’d always been a strictly “exit only” woman and never once entertained the idea of anything anal but she planted a seed and one day I just went for it, picked up some lube while shopping and when I had some quiet time at home with the baby asleep I fingered my ass. I’ll admit I rather enjoyed it, it wasn’t super explosive or intense more just soothing, it was a bit like getting a massage. That was enough to tell me that there was something there. I then moved up to toys, starting with a butt plug, and found I could orgasm again provided something was in my ass. When I used my dildo for the first time that was when it got really good, I just had these waves of pleasure and relaxation just wash over me. I was orgasming again very regularly and consistently.
Eventually I had the confidence to speak to my husband, who had never once pestered me for anything anal, about having sex again and explain what I’d be doing and how I’d had a positive experience. He was just keen to have sex with me again so we agreed we’d try. We started with including anal play as part of the foreplay and I’d wear a butt plug and use a vibrator during vaginal penetration.
Once we had a regular sex life again I asked about trying anal sex, we’d already done a lot of anal play and rimming as part of our sex life so it was just a normal continuation of what we’d been doing. Our normal routine was to start with vaginal sex and then transition into anal and he’d finish inside. I came to prefer anal sex to vaginal sex. We didn’t intentionally make a decision to become Anal Only, it just sort of happened where we had less vaginal sex and more anal to then completely never having vaginal sex because I just found it dull and boring I much preferred having anal sex.
That’s how we became Anal Only, and probably like a lot of people didn’t even know there was a lifestyle and community based around that which we discovered years later.