I notice this is the main question, asked by new comers. Most already have anal sex but need to know how to convince the partner to go fully anal only.
I think the best possible way to get there is doing an anal only month. And if that feels intimidating to the reluctant partner, there are more possibilities:
Anal Only vacation
Anal only weekend
Anal only period week
On vacation people always tend to be more sexual than at home. So why not agree beforehand, to only have anal sex that vacation ? Tip: donât forget the lube !
Or maybe a weekend away is an easy way to get started, with beforehand the agreement to only have anal sex. Again, lube is key. Take it with you.
Period week is traditionally a âno sexâ week for some women. Why not make a deal of making every âperiod weekâ an âanal weekâ. You can perfectly assfuck a woman who has a tampon in her vagina. This way her periods become something to look forward to.
All these methods have one goal in mind: convince the reluctant partner that giving up vaginal sex is possible without loss of intimacy. Best way to get there is making them experience it in real time. Succes
I donât really know, having never tried anal only. But I could see frustration at it being hard to achieve orgasm, or becoming self-conscious about the choice to be anal only, or insecurity, or just getting cold feet.
A lot of people talk about ârewiringâ pleasure centers in switching to an anal lifestyle. What happens if that shift feels like itâs going too slow, so you give up, but if youâd just held on a little longer it all would have clicked?
Itâs foremost a mindset to go anal only. A vagina oriented woman will logically have problems giving up pussy penetration. And that ârewireâ talk, if only it were that simple.
My wife was wired for anal naturally, no rewire neseccary. My ex wife was totally non wired for anal. She tried but her body kept rejecting it.
So I wouldnât know how to turn a woman, who isnât wired for anal, into someone wired for anal. She has to feel persistent to be anal only to begin with.
To your point, there are men and women who donât enjoy anal sex. For 37 years, my wife never had an orgasm from vaginal penetration. Now, she experiences multiple anal orgasms. Other women have crazy orgasms during vaginal penetration and canât cum during anal. It makes sense they prefer vaginal penetration in the same way my wife prefers anal because of her anal orgasms.
lol, yes Iâm an overthinker, Iâm a philosophy major!
I know I love anal. And I hang out here and hear about these older couples that seem very happy enjoying anal-only, and I get a bit of FOMO. But then I think about giving it a try and my overthinking brain kicks in.
At age 27 I wanted to have anal sex. But I wasnât aware how good anal sex could actually be. My experience was very limited and not exactly mindblowing.
My then wife did anal on occasion. But it almost never worked well for us. She felt discomfort and told me to hurry. It kills the mood and stops the effort.
The kind of anal sex I have with my wife now, is the kids I was convinced didnât exist. We assfuck like in the more realistic porn clips. Balls deep, hard, soft, fast, slow, switching positions, having 30 min fucks. All things I was sure wasnât possible in real life.
So just try to let go of the overthinking and convert it into overfeeling. If you need to rub your clit to cum, do it ! Just concentrate on the cock or plug in your asshole. Be aware there is something stretching your spincter. Better even, only orgasm with something in your asshole. But donât make clit denial the norm.
My experience as regards ârewiringâ is that you have to go cold turkey on putting anything in or near your pussy.
This method works good if you can cum from his tongue on your clit.
Double down on him giving oral to your ass first and then your clit. Make sure he has his fingers or toy stretching your ass when you cum. For starters this will increase your orgasm count, will give him the motivation to get next level with his oral skills. Then when he is actually in your ass make sure he paces it so that he doesnât finish before you. Use your fingers or a vibrator on your clit as he slowly fucks you.
This way you cum twice as often as he does. (Thatâs luxury for starters, google âorgasm gapâ). Your body gets used to experiencing orgasm while he is fucking your ass and importantly he is still fucking and finishing in you while you are experiencing the after effects.
My experience is that as time goes by you need less and less clit stimulation to get there. A month is good as a trial period, but you really need six months to do the rewiring.
Good advice for those headed down the anal only path. My wifeâs rewiring happened instantly after her first anal orgasm. In the beginning, she had anal orgasms without clit play. Now, she rubs her clit or uses a wand because it enhances her experience. Itâs all about her anal orgasms for us.