raising children, I think there’s no need to hide anything. with internet and friends sharing, they would already know everything.
in my own experience, I first watched porn at about 7 or 8. and started to get the interest in about 12/13 or something. in few years, I think I have watched most kinds of them, including very kinky ones. and they helped me found my quirks. I started sexless D/s relationship with my husband before 16, then he took my anal virginity at my 17 birthday.
so I believe hiding is useless, and we should be open to them and teach them the right way to do it and teach them to protect themself.
We can help newbies on this forum. I guess if someone asked me what I thought about anal, I might talk about it, depending on the situation and person.
I knew I desired anal when I was young and enjoyed it with two women before I met my wife. In my case, I lacked the skills when I was younger to help her appreciate it more, and her libido was stunted from so many years of hormone killing birth control medication.
On the other hand, you and your wife and me and my wife discovered it later in life. My wife has regrets but I see it as something really good discovered at a time we’d least expect it. Also, more time to perfect it with kids grown and out of the house.
Children should receive lots of information on sexual health, I agree on that, but if I were a parent, I wouldn’t try to influence them in any way. That is, to have safe sex, yes, to only have the kind of sex they want to have, but not what kind of acts they should or shouldn’t try. And what I do with others wouldn’t be discussed either, I think it’s very important they get to discover what their bodies have to offer on their own, with no pressure from parents to do it this way or another.
no need to make a lot influence, they’ll find what they like. I say “the right way” just mean to protect them from injures infections pregnancy, and maybe also some techniques to make pleasure. if I have children (I probably wont), I’d love it if they want to talk about it.
Anecdotally from my work as a teacher, sex educator and guidance councillor they don’t need much influence, they’re doing it all themselves.
Half of straight teens have experienced anal sex, about a third do it regularly and a small number do it exclusively (mostly for cultural reasons and to avoid pregnancy).
Over my career those numbers have slowly crept up year by year.
They’re more open to receiving anal play and rimming from women but otherwise little change.
It’s just in a questionnaire I asked them to fill out anonymously in their own time and slip under my office door so I can get a sense of what is going on. That way I can provide better advice and tools, all I want for my students is for them to be empowered, be safe and actually enjoy the sex they are having.
That’s the way a teacher should act, if you ask me! Keep up the good work! I’ve spent some time in a teacher-like position, and really didn’t like the kind of colleagues that expected the kids to treat them like royalty. You’re working with young people who you want to grow up into responsible adults, they’re not a source for reverence or a captive audience.
My girlfriend says that she never really understood people’s love for sex. To her sex was just something which went with a relationship, she had to go through.
She never orgasmed while having her pussy fucked. She always needed to rub her clit to orgasm. Sex had so little apeal for her, that she started to think she was asexual by nature.
Then her ex suggested anal and she wanted to try it. Right away she noticed how much better it felt when her asshole was penetrated. Much easier to orgasm too. But she also needed to imagine things to enjoy the sex, cause there was no healty connection with that ex. This made the idea of her being asexual linger in her mind.
Then she got together with me at age 49, and for the first tile ever she experienced a true need for sex. Trobbing pussy while working, fantasizing about my cock uo her ass or down her troat, while Inwas working. The whole idea of being asexual disapeared. She now is very sexual and prefably needs it daily. I know her as the most sexual woman I’ve been with.
So then there’s my daughter. From age 16 she confided in me that she didn’t like sex at all and didn’t get the guy’s fascination for it. She talked to me about this often. And concluded she had to be asexual. Even while I was havibg daily anal sex with my girlfriend, we both knew that maybe my daughter gad the same issue and should try anal. But untill date we never talked to her about trying anal, cause we believe it’s something she should discover with the right guy.
I have noticed in a number of young people I’ve talked to, and some of them identifying as asexual, that they view sex in a strangely action-oriented way. One girl told me she tried it with women and with men, and it didn’t work, so she must be asexual. It seems she completely skipped the part about mutual attraction. I think our society overvalues sexual skills when it comes to sex education and doesn’t say enough about the hard to describe interpersonal things.
In other words, maybe your daughter tried the mechanical side of sex and didn’t like it, as most of us would, because the interpersonal connection was missing.
I’m just spitballing here, naturally. I don’t know your daughter, her sex ed classes, or what you and your partners have taught her. But I really think not talking about the squishy social aspects of sex isn’t doing us as a society any favors.
You’re spot on. Meanwhile she’s together with a guy 13 years older. He is easy going, never pushy and chill. They are not overly sexually active, but if they have sex she enjoys it.
She says his patience was key. That was the thing which made all the difference.
There’s a lot of variance in libido between people. Maybe because you had a high libido and a strong interest in sex, you consumed that much pornography?
Also, most societies look down on even a healthy interest in sexuality. So maybe you are only looking for ways why you are the way you are because some people would look down upon the way you live your life?
I know exactly what I am, and I’m happy with it. I super enjoy my body, my relationship with my husband and all the things we do.
you are right, my interests drive me to watch a lot porn at the time, then they also intensified my interests. and I did learn a lot of fun activities from porns. before my husband first met me in person, he once thought I was an experienced slave because I knew too much.
I am quite open on this forum because it seems a safe place to share ideas, experiences and learn from each other. With my friends in our anal group I can be open and sometimes ‘brutally’ honest. I don’t generally discuss my butt fun around the dinner table on Christmas Day with my parents or Dale’s although this year…
I don’t generally talk about it with anyone outside my anal ring although it was a chance discussion with my buddy Tiff that opened my mind (and ass) to the potential advantages of anal fun. Not forgetting the discussions with my boyfriend before we started anal together.
I too am on this forum because I cannot share the intimate and wonderful parts of my life with those closest to me. There are many of us I am sure.
I’m much older than those here and for a variety of things I will just say please, do not waste your life and do not engage in anal with casual partners. It is wonderful and intimate more than you know so if you are in love, yes, experience the depth…
In the everyday world, I think people see age related to sexdrive. So I’m 54 and she’s 53. In general we will be considered not being overly sexually active. Simply because we’re ”old”
Anal sex is to my generation what oral sex was to our parents. My mum is born before WW2 and her generation never admitted that they sucked cock. Cause it wasn’t supposed to go in the mouth. Sex had purpose: to make kids.
Anything sexual for the main reason of pleasure, was unspoken of. Nowadays, anal is pretty common, yet it’s rarely admitted. Throughout the years I learned that some couples do engage in regular anal sex. And even then, one of them denies it when the subject comes up. Even gets annoyed if the topic stays on the table.
The taboo over anal is still very much alive. It isn’t normalized at all. But I know for sure younger people are much more willing to add anal sex to their sexlife. Or at least try it.
