Asking the receivers. How much is too much, both in girth and/or length?
It’s a fact that you can fit much bigger things in the ass than in the pussy, but at some point you can no longer be prepared or trained for it, you still need to go slow until you fully adapt.
Average size is said to be 13.8cm (5.45in), and 11.9cm (4.69in) in circumference (which would be about 3.8cm (1.5in) in diameter, so width), and that would probably be no problem for anyone loving anal.
Can any of you give a real example of what you took but it was problematic, had to adapt to it, slowly.?!
Also, does it more often produce an issue when the tool is much longer or when it’s much thicker?
(I am a man, married. I certainly prefer “giving” anal than vaginal, but sometimes I have to take whats available.)
However, I also very much enjoy receiving (toys, fist) anal, either from my wife or solo.
Regarding your question, I don’t know if you are interest in the perspectives of men who enjoy receiving. If so, I will be happy to comment. You might also look at my posting history where I have discussed this fairly extensively.
I don’t have a whole lot of experience, but when my partner and I do vaginal he hits my cervix pretty easily. In the butt, we haven’t had a problem. He’s probably around 5 inches. So length hasn’t been a problem for us for anal yet.
Girth has been a different story. While I haven’t hit a limit yet, I did a lot of work (and thanks to folks here) to stretch myself in preparation for our first time. So at this point, I would say width is my limiting factor, though I haven’t hit “the curve” yet, so my answer might change as I keep pushing.
I’m thick at 7” in girth. It’s a long story but my wife went from swearing I’d never penetrate her ass to anal only for the last 7 years. HRT restored her libido and I helped her discover anal pleasure and intense anal orgasms. Vaginal was and is still uncomfortable for her, and she never orgasmed during PIV.
My wife isn’t on the forum so she can’t say. But we bought a dildo with exactly the same thickness as my cock. Is only 3 cms longer.
I’ve never measured my circumvence but my diameter seems about 3,5 cms to me. So the dildo is the same.
A few time I assfucked her with the dildo already in her asshole. So double anal. She loved it ! It felt incredible to have her asshole stretched like that. So I would say she could easily take a 6 cms thick cock or toy in her asshole. Her thickest plug is 5 cms diameter and she takes it easily. No prep needed, some coconutoil and it slides in like it’s nothing.
Lengthwise I think that’s less important to her. As long as her inner spincter is penetrated she’s totally happy. Sometimes it seems her joy begins when I’m 3/4th in her asshole. She loves being assfucked balls deep, but the length of my cock seems enough for her, cause the 3 cms longer dildo doesn’t provide more pleasure. Just the same.
Another thing here is the way I felth, and now feel, about the size of my cock.
It’s somewhere between 15 - 16 cms if I measure, so I considered myself small. I’m what called a ”grower”. Really limp it’s like 2 cms. The grower part makes it very hard when erect. Impossible to bent even. It hurts if I try. So some positions are even impossible for me to do.
Anyway. Since I am with my wife, and most certainly since we went anal only, she keeps telling me my cock feels big in her asshole. Much bigger then her exes’. Also with blowjobs I see her mouth streched around my cock and often think it didn’t look this thick in the past. While assfucking her I love to look at my cock sliding in her asshole. And even then I look at it, look at how her ashole is streched around my cock, and again I think it wasn’t this big in the past.
Going anal only with her, really made me appreciate my cock a lot more. I never feel like it’s small anymore and my wife says it beautiful and she loves my cock very much. Nothing feels better than hearing her say she really loves my cock. I sometimes feel like she worships it. It feels amazing.