You’ve explained how you’re wired, so I mean it as a simple notion.
Many men dream about a very sexually active woman, but once they have her, it often tuns out to be hard to keep up with her needs. The average woman recovers faster than the average man, making it harder for men to go multiple rounds.
I, for example, am mostly drained after one orgasm. It’s possible for me to manage a second fuck, hours later. But not something like start over, only half an hour later.
But on the other hand, we never really tried to do that. Maybe I can surprise us.
I had about a dozen sexual partners before meeting my wife. I had anal sex with just two of those women before meeting my wife.
It was a different time. Many women took oral birth control meds (turns out that’s not always a good thing) and there wasn’t the risk of deadly STI’s as there is today. I personally was treated twice for STI’s through injection of simple penicillin.
We also “hooked up” the old fashioned way by meeting in bars, parties, and class. Now, with Tinder and other apps, sex is literally at one’s fingertips.
I’m in 2 minds about this advice because utlimately for complete trust there should be no secrets. It is not like there has to be a specific quantification but there needs to honesty about yourself.
I’d also say, if someone, whether you tell them the specific number of 61 or just say there were many, and that alters their view negatively (most likely they are judgemental) then they are not right for you. Nobody is perfect but we can be perfect for someone.
Obviously, it is not the first thing you lead with, or maybe it is, if that’s your style, but hiding it or denying it, is like apologising for who you are. So in time I think it’s something you must be honest about if it becomes relevant, and if it is your “one” then it should not matter. Besides, it is the past and nothing can change that.It’s the future together that matters.
The number for me before meeting my gorgeous wife is 17. I had anal sex with 2 of them. A few were one night stands but there was always a connection but for one and it was just a feeling of shame afterwards. I didn’t enjoy that very much and it seemed to be because I was encouraged by others and so it was a valuable lesson about peer group pressure and how these kinds of decisions had to be my own.
Believe me. If a man is the type that never did one night stands and only had sex with a few women because he loved them, the info that his current girlfriend han 61 sexual partners will alter the way he sees her.
If that man had 50 sexual partners himself, he probably will not even ask her about it, so he doesn’t 5 have to share.
We are kindred spirits. Like you, I love double penetration, double anal in particular, I’ve been with 13 guys but only 2 before meeting Dale and becoming AO. We had a few couples join and leave our AO group at the beginning but we’ve had consistent people for the past 18 months with the addition of a new couple 2 months ago. We have regular STI checks and any new members have a comprehensive screening, as we all did, before joining in.
I can relate to everything you have said. During the week when my boyfriend and I have sex, I know how to stop him cuming but he can still pleasure me. We have an agreement that ejaculation during the week is prohibited but I pleasure him by bringing him close and at the weekend he has nice full balls when we all get together at the weekend.
