Wow! A community that celebrates all things ‘butt stuff’! I’m a straight man, who started at the age of 13, fantasising about women’s beautiful asses. After years of it being a fantasy, when I was 21 my girlfriend let me try anal sex for the first time, in doggy position. Let me just say that from that moment I was hooked for life! Although I will say that I like all parts of a woman’s body and I love to please her sexually, I’ve never found a woman who truly embraces anal play/sex for her own pleasure. If I could find such a woman, my life would feel truly complete
Welcome to the group. Women who love anal exist. My advice to men looking to fulfill their anal fantasies is to learn how to introduce women to anal pleasure.
This process takes time because anal is a marathon and not a sprint. Creating your own anal queen is also immensely more satisfying than trying to find someone who already enjoys it.
it’s quite empowering introducing a woman to anal, and helping them achieve anal orgasm. It took quite a few years, but I created my anal queen 7 years ago and she was hooked after her first powerful anal orgasm.
Looking forward to your participation. Welcome!
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Thanks for your advice Colt1911. As I have learned over the many years of practicing anal sex with previous female partners, it is as you said, a learned skill that takes time to master and enjoy (for most participants). My ex of 6 years had previous regular experience with anal and was very open to it. It even became obvious to us both that when we did anal combined with clitoral stimulation, her orgasms would come on faster and more intensely! But sadly, she didn’t want to accept this physical truth. She said that she doesn’t enjoy it, due to feeling shame and embarrassment, even though I was always very encouraging and gave genuine aftercare.
It’s a shame that she felt shame, despite your loving and caring effort.
The challenge many men face is helping a woman get past a horrible anal experience they may have had with a previous partner.
Those of us responsible anal lovers have to help them overcome these previous bad experiences.
Gentle anal touches and penetrations with fingers or small toys while licking or stimulating her clit help associate anal pleasure with pleasure a woman is familiar with. That helped my wife.
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Yes. Good advice. I did try all these things with her, but in her case, anal sex made her feel disrespected as a woman, even though I was always respectful, caring, loving, grateful and guided by her consent. I guess beliefs are strong and some women can’t or don’t want to challenge their own limiting beliefs. I had to accept and respect that. It’s a shame though, because they were very intimate experiences and her body responded in obvious and positive ways.
My wife used to suffer from “Catholic guilt”. If It feels good, it must be wrong. Too bad.
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It really takes a special kind of woman to fully adept anal sex as pure joy without any doubt.
My wife, for example, simply told her friends she loves anal sex and wants it all the time. She talked about assfucking like it was the treat of the day, while almost none of her friends did it or even understood why she loves it.
I remember my ex telling me I could never tell my friends I sometimes assfucked her. It was private, between us and not to be talked about. My wife now would even back me up if I would tell my friends I assfuck her.
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