New here just wanted to say hi. Been awhile since I was with someone who was AO, and I do miss that part of a relationship. Besides the endless search to date someone like minded, what are ways to make it more enjoyable for a woman so she’s more open to the idea of AO?
Welcome to the forum. You’re wise to focus more on creating interest in a potential partner than taking a hit or miss approach of finding a woman who loves anal sex. Creating your own anal queen might be the way to go.
First, you need to wait until you get intimate with your partner. You could gently touch or lick her hole during foreplay and oral sex. If she doesn’t reject the small stuff, she may be interested in more. Ask her if she enjoys the sensation. If she does, give her even more.
You may also want to stimulate her clit and sphincter at the same time so she associates the anal sensation with the pleasure she is familiar with when her clit is touched.
Depending on how she responds, you might try penetrating her ass shallowly with your finger. Communicate frequently and ask if she is comfortable with it.
Most importantly, take it slow. Painfully slow for you, but necessary for her to understand there is pleasure associated with that beautiful, puckered hole. I helped my wife discover the pleasures of anal and she never looked back. I was patient, but it paid off. We’ve been anal only for 6+ years.
Full disclosure… my wife never orgasmed from vaginal penetration. She discovered anal orgasms as our play escalated to include penetration with toys. You can’t imagine how empowering it was for me when she experienced a huge anal orgasm the first time I penetrated her ass with my cock.
It would be great if you could find a woman who loves anal but it’s much more likely you can create your own anal queen. It’s also much more satisfying knowing your patience and hard work paid off.
Welcome to our group.
Good day, eh? Welcome to another Canucklehead.
.hard to beat the advice given already. Finding the right partner that matches your life is step one. And then sharing your passion of anal and going slow is essential. We went from a vaginal focussed to sex life to an “anal mostly”, to “anal always” to “anal only” in a few years and have been AO for over a decade. But it’s our bond of love that facilitated that shift.
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Colt is right, you won’t find someone who is already an anal queen, you’re much more likely to make one. But my #1 piece of advice is to prioritize your partner over your desire for anal. Foster an emotional connection, trust, and respect. Make sure she feels secure and safe with you, and that she doesn’t feel pressured.
Share what you enjoy and what you want in a respectful and understanding way, and it’s likely she will want to push herself to satisfy you. If you make her feel like she needs to do it, then she’s likely to be less receptive, because she could feel forced into doing it for you.
My girlfriend knows that she can put her foot down at any time and stop increasing the frequency with which we have anal. And because she knows she can do that and I will be fine, she feels comfortable pushing herself to have as much anal with me as she can.
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