Hello, my name is Calebe, I’m from north of Brazil (the most anal-centered region of the country). I probably know and have being reading the AOL lifestyle forum since I was 16 (22 now), and it was a few months after my first girlfriend said that she loves anal sex (at that time we never happened to engange in penetrative sex at all because of my religion believes), because of what she said I started to became more and more addicted to anal porn and after that I almost only watched anal porn (I’ve tried to stop this addiction forcing me to watch vaginal porn though I couldn’t). Last year I met that ex-girlfriend again and, unfortunatly we engaged in vaginal sex (I still have my religious beliefs but I could not resist her lewd attitude) and lost my virginity. We had it 2 times, and both seemed to last forever, mainly for her that got very sore after the almost 1h30min session of sex. The reason that lasted so long was the fact I could not cum at all, even my cock would not be decently erect after a while inside her vagina. It would get harder when she did blowjob on me. I tried to do anal putting 2 fingers in the entry of her butthole, but after a few second she said “not in my lil’ asshole”, I didn’t know if after 6 years we were apart she doesn’t like anal anymore, or it was because of lack of preparation, but it doesn’t matter because the other day she started ghosting me and I don’t want anything with her anymore. The fact is, after that night I discovered I cannot have a traditional sexual relationship with a woman, I must have a anal only or almost anal only relationship if I want to be sexually satisfied. When I penetrated her pussy it felt so loose and roomy, that I could hardly tell if it was inside after putting it on, and when I was inside I could only think how would it be if I was inside her asshole. So pussy sex for me doesn’t have the physical and psychological appeal.
THE GREAT PROBLEM IS: I’m a traditional christian, that believes in sex only after Wedding, and decent girls that share my beliefs unfortunatly are unlikely to accept this lifestyle. I would have to be very convincing that it’s nothing wrong and it’s more pleasurable but would also to have a tremendous Lucky to find a woman that will accept it. The only thing in my favor is that where I live there are a larger proportion of woman that likes anal.
If anyone is curious about how I conciliate a analsexual sexual orientation with a serious traditional christian life I am happy to explain.
Welcome to the group. Catholics in some countries practice anal sex to remain vaginal virgins until marriage. I’m not Catholic but I am a believer. In my way of thinking, no merciful god would punish two consenting adults for acting on urges that god gave them.
I can’t help with or predict your success in seeking an anal only relationship. If I were younger but knowing what I do now, I think I could convince a woman to give it a try. It might involve more than one night if she’s never experienced anal, but lick, rub, and tease her hole with a finger along with clit stimulation and she may be willing to try a little more. I think most here will recommend you go slow and be patient. If you’re lucky, you’ll find a woman who loves anal.
We look forward to your participation in the group.
Despite the fact I suspect we’re different denominations, I’m what one could term a traditional Christian and very devout and I’m all in on anal. I’m also married and my husband likes it too. So you are certainly not alone.
Hello Calebe. I’m on the same boat as you. Brazilian, christian and anal only. I can relate to your story as it is in much likeness my story. Vaginas do opress me, and sometimes it’s hard to comunicate that to a woman to whom I’m flirting.
A few things: If your first time was with your now ex-girlfriend and you were in conflict whether or not you wanted sex with her, that might have been a factor in your lack of enjoyment as well, I would think. Secondly, you mention a porn addiction. Excessive masturbation can lead to problems to achieve orgasm when having sex; a bit like excessive use of a vibrator on a clitoris can numb the nerves temporarily and make it hard or impossible to cum without a vibrator, so, too can a lot “high energy” masturbation of a penis make it somewhat desensitized (people also call it a death grip, if you want to look further into that). A little abstinence from porn/masturbation can fix that easily, though.
As you’ve already heard, you’ll find a lot of anal lovers among believers as well; they just might not advertise it as much as some others do. And also: You’re not all that experienced yet, from what you’ve told us. Most people’s first time is terrible for a variety of reasons. Find a partner, have a mutually satisfactory sex life within the bounds of what you’re comfortable with that’s based on trust and open communication, and see where things go. That would be my advice.
Welcome to our group. I was 16 when I first discovered anal pleasure and 17 when I first had anal sex. I was the one who instigated anal sex with my boyfriend. There are many women who are the ones who suggest anal sex as part of their sexual journey. Enjoy your time with us and if you have aby questions there will always be one of us who has experienced similar joys, sensations and concerns.
Thanks for the comment. One part of being a “serious christians” is to try to follow the law. So I cannot “try” with different woman. Neither do it before wedding, so if I choose wrong I’m almost damned. So I must know with certain confidence that she likes anal or has very interest before.
That puts a smile of hope on my face. What you would consider a traditional christian? Wasn’t you in a context that anal sex was treated as a sin? If yes how did you talk confortably about it with your husband? I live in a context that we’re traditional protestants, and the majority of people has conservative mentality. So imagine if I’m liking a girl of the church and we enter a relationship and I talk of my interest in anal sex. She can say she doesn’t like it and doesn’t want to try it and we end by there, but she can also get disgusted just for the question ^-^ and also has some probably of talk about me to other girls in the church and bring me to infamy. So it’s quite risky to say the least. But I like to take a chance
Hello. Thanks for the warning. So yes, I did thought a lot about how a young man like me who would get constant uncomfortable erections in the middle of class in high school or even college, who gets turned on so easily and seems to have a sexual desire that never goes away may have had erection problems when he first met the real thing. And I don’t blame the visual porn, because I can have a great time just reading erotic stories, or even just with my own thoughts, furthermore, when I saw her naked it got very excited, I liked all I saw, the contact and etc. So I think the problem is more physical. I probably got used to very frenetic masturbation during my life, and this made my phallus get used to something faster and a very firm grip. I would try to goon the most since young, because I didn’t want be the guy that cums fast, so I would try to resist the most before having a orgasm and now it seams that it turned against me
