Girlfriend's Anal Only Orgasms are "Hollow"

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I think I’ve figured out how to make my girlfriend orgasm consistently with only stimulation from the ass, which we both think is incredible. And she’s also well trained enough now that her brain considers anal sex as normal as vaginal sex. Suffice to say, things are going pretty well.

However, she told me that anal only orgasms feel “hollow”, in that the stimulation from penetration that causes orgasm is from pressing against the right spot in her pussy through the anal wall, causing a similar orgasm to regular vaginal intercourse, except because her pussy is empty, it contracts around nothing, hence the “hollow” sensation.

On one hand, I’m a sadist and I love pussy denial, and the idea that she feels good and orgasms, and that makes her pussy long for more, only to not get touched turns me on (she knows this). On the other hand, it means that for now, she’s made it clear she wants to continue having vaginal penetration from time to time.

At this point, I’m pretty ok with whatever compromise we come to, because I’m pretty sure that it will involve a large majority of our sex being anal/oral, but I wanted to know if anyone else has any experience with feelings like this.

As for where we go from here, we are still anal only until New Years for previously mentioned health reasons due to condom concerns, and during that time, I plan to give her the most pleasurable experiences I can as well consistent orgasms from anal if possible. And once we try vaginal again, we’ll see how it compares for her.

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Before her menopauze, my wife’s pussy would get dripping wet while I assfucked her. I loved it ! Nothing looks like a dripping pussy that gets refused the cock, while the asshole gets the cock daily.

Back then, she sometimes told me she wanted a dildo in her pussy to be filled up better. And sometimes we did that. Dildo in her pussy and my cock up her ass. It increased her pleasure. Having both fuckholes filled. Come to think of it, it’s been way to long since last time she had her two holes filled. And I ‘d also love to do double anal on her again. Hearing her moan so hard with my cock, and the dildo in her asshole, is devine.

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The fact that you can make her cum from just anal huge. That’s something I have always wanted but have yet to achieve with any women. At least in regards to anal penetration without any vaginal contact. And I totally understand the turn on of leaving her pussy hungry. With time she may come more around to the abandonment of her pussy. Maybe you can try getting her to go longer and longer without vaginal until one day you reach a point where you just don’t go there anymore.

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NoVagAnal, you said… “The fact that you can make her cum …” and “… something I have always wanted but have yet to achieve with any women.”

When I read that, I infer that you (NoVagAnal) are implying that it is the man who is able to or not able to make the woman have an anal orgasm. Maybe that’s not what you meant. But that’s what I got from it. Please excuse me if I misunderstood.

But, regardless of what you meant, my impression (as a man myself) is that a lot of men think along that line: that the man has a significant ability to “make”. With vaginal sex, it seems to me that a man may have a greater role (stamina, technique, foreplay, etc., etc.) in a woman’s vaginal/clitoral orgasm.

However, that may not be as true with a woman’s anal orgasm.

Yes, the man certainly “has something to do with it”. And without both people involved and wanting it to happen, there is no possibility for it to happen, assuming the capability exists. However, unless the woman both wants to and is capable of doing so – that is the most important part – there is not going to be an anal orgasm.

I am NOT AT ALL suggesting, if the woman does not have an anal orgasm, that the woman did not “want” to have an anal orgasm.

What I am saying is that it is a lot harder. It takes two. It takes the right physical ability on the part of the woman. It takes the right chemistry between the couple. For most women, IF an anal orgasm is going to happen, for many/most women, it probably takes a lot of “practice” and working up to it. It takes tremendous sensitivity and patience on the part of the man.

IMHO, in the vast majority of cases, the man can’t just “make” an anal orgasm happen.

IMHO, a man just thinking that he (or any man) can “make” a woman have an anal orgasm may create “bad chemistry” and may actually result in less possibility for a woman to have an anal orgasm.

In the end, based only on anecdotal accounts, it may just be that some women can and do; but many/most woman can’t. If that is true, then a man spending any brain cycles thinking about trying to “make” a woman have an anal orgasm would be as useless as a man worrying about his own penis size (not very productive and just makes a many slowly go crazy).

The way I think about it for my actions is: I should act with love, caring, sensitivity, enthusiasm. I should pay close attention, and modify my actions as needed, to what my partner says, and does, and what works vs what does not work. I should be available and vulnerable. While I should ask for what I want/need (if it is not already happening), I should focus more on her – and as a result I will benefit even more. This extends well beyond what happens in the bedroom – loving and sensual activities throughout the normal day can have a lot more impact on a woman’s libido than any specific actions a man can do in the bedroom.

That’s my way of thinking about it. Your “mileage” may certainly differ.

I feel lucky if she is interested in anal at all!

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Don’t get me wrong. I wasn’t suggesting that I “make” her do it. I was just saying that it has always been my goal to have a women who cums from only anal penetration without vaginal stimulation. And that’s not something I have had yet.

My wife is very orgasmic. She can come extremely easily if I touch her. But we are into the denial thing. We keep her pussy hungry and empty and that turns both of us on. We just haven’t gotten to the point of her cumming from anal only. Maybe we will never get there, but I always love hearing those stories.

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I believe some women are wired for anal orgasm. I got lucky. She has her first anal orgasm within the first 5 or 10 minutes of penetration. She usually has a second anal orgasm before I cum in her ass. If she didn’t have the second orgasm, I use a large silicone or glass dildo to help her have a second anal orgasm.

She has clitoral orgasms but never experienced orgasm during PIV. She wises she had discovered this earlier in our marriage as our anal only journey started in our early 60’s seven years ago.

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Pretty amazing she can do that. I know you guys got stated a little later in life, but at least your living it now.

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My wife has regrets but I’m thrilled this happened at this point in our lives.

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This is actually well said. As a man you can help a woman achieve an orgasm. But you can’t make her cum. The woman’s orgasm happens 80% in her brain (hence the guy that writes his wife culs from his cock in her mouth).

My wife doesn’t cum often. But she takes a lot of pleasure from the sex itself. She’s the “it’s the journey, not the destination” kind of woman.

And I have never been able to “make” her cum. She cums if her body tells her it’s ready.

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You and me both. My wife had orgasms pretty much every time we had vaginal sex. The first time I began to penetrate her ass, the head of my cock “popped” past her sphinchter and we both had explosive orgasms. That was about 34 years ago and it’s just gotten better from there. This year we will celebrate 20 years of anal only in July.

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We stay active and healthy so we can celebrate many more analversaries.

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