First anal-only experience Relationship

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I started an anal-only relationship five weeks ago, and I’m already feeling a transformation. We met online because I was specifically looking for someone interested in anal sex.

It turns out we’re also on the same page about other things, which has allowed me to approach this anal-only relationship with greater peace of mind.

Before we had sex for the first time, we agreed that I wouldn’t have a clitoral orgasm. I’d never done that before, and even though I’d always had a deep desire for anal sex, this clit denial made me super horny and obsessed.

To be honest, vaginal sex has never really done it for me, and I’ve always preferred the sensations of anal sex.

During those 5 days of clit denial, I used a plug every day, and during a long-distance conversation, I dildoed myself under his guidance. I love this kind of intimate exchange, and it turns me on even more. So far he’s never used my pussy, and I find that so romantic. I don’t know yet if that will always be what I want, but I love the idea. I find that it adds something exciting and intimate and strengthens our connection.

We’re not just anal-only—we’re true ass fetishists. I especially love feeling open and filled, and even more so, exposing my ass to him so he can work it with his tongue, fingers, plugs, dildos, and his cock, of course :slight_smile:

I wonder if not having had a clitoral orgasm has changed my relationship with anal pleasure, but I really feel like my ass is just like a pussy when he fucks me. I was afraid I wouldn’t feel anything anymore because of it, but actually, I realize it’s increased my pleasure even more.

I have a very strong big-cock fetish, by the way, and his cock is satisfying even though I’ve had bigger ones. Maybe my fear stemmed from that fetish, too. Right now, we’re not completely in clit denial because I can still come that way when he fucks me, and when I’m alone, I can only come from my clit if my ass is filled.

I think it’s important to mention that I like being sexually dominated and that I particularly enjoy rough sex (dirty talk, BDSM, rough sex), and I consider myself more of a slut than a submissive.

Even though I’ve always been open about my desires, I have to admit that this shift toward anal sex raises some questions: Why am I so obsessed with sex? Why does it turn me on almost all the time? Is it sustainable in the long run? Why does it make me feel even sluttier?
How do I handle the hygiene aspect? How often can you do an enema? If I don’t do an enema before every sexual encounter, will I still be clean?

These hygiene and health issues are very important to me. I’ve read that you shouldn’t do more than one enema a week. I’ve been doing a few more, and now I feel like I’m naturally getting cleaner and cleaner. Can people in my situation please shed some light on this for me?

I also feel like my enemas are taking less and less time, and so far I haven’t had any accidents, but the relationship is still relatively new.

I also noticed that I was getting wetter. And I could actually see it in the photos, since we both happen to enjoy that. I noticed that my discharge was thicker and creamier; I thought it was the lube, but it wasn’t. For those of you with vaginas, have you experienced the same thing?

I have to say it adds to the excitement of anal-only, and I loved seeing my pussy writhing with desire while being completely ignored.

I’d never felt this subversive side of anal before because I’ve always been open about my desire for it. But no doubt AO has led me to other feelings and reflections. I feel even freer and more in tune with myself. That’s where the subversive aspect comes in: as a feminist and a queer person, I’ve deeply questioned norms—including sexual norms.

The politics of sex are fascinating and reveal just how conditioned and controlled we can be in our desires. In that sense, I feel joy and pride in being able to choose which hole gives me the most pleasure. Maybe that’s why I feel more like a slut, and I feel like it allows me to get to know myself better.

Thank you for this forum because, beyond being a place to exchange ideas, it’s also a treasure trove of important information and an opportunity to expand our knowledge through the diversity of our experiences.

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When you say enaema, do you really go into your colon ? My wife only rinces her rectum with small amounts of water. At some point she has been doing this daily for over 2 years. Without anything bad happening.

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I use a bulb syringe( poire de lavement in French) and yes, I’m talking about the rectum, not the colon. Once, by mistake, I went all the way into the colon, and it wasn’t pleasant.
I was wondering if washing the rectum daily could irritate the gut flora. Because I’m pretty sensitive in that area.

So far, I’ve only seen benefits and I feel better. I’m not doing it daily yet, but it’s good to know—thanks :slight_smile:

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About the clit denail thing.

In our relationship her clitorgasms first were a part of our anal only dynamic. I loved it if she orgasmed with my cock up her ass. Then one day I’ve mentioned clit denial and the possible benefits it could have to her path in acheiving real anal orgasms.

It made her curious and she had a huge period of absolute clit denial. I can’t say for sure if that did it, but at some point she reached a true anal orgasm. And later a second one. But… after the second she wierldy had burst veins in her eyeballs, spreading blood all through the white part. She convinced herself this was caused by the pressure she put on her body while having a true anal orgasm, and since then decided that risk is too high. We have a public job, we serve customers. You can imagine the comments: “did your hubby smack you ?” “Did you ran up to a door ?”

So now she rarely orgasms, cause often I see her go for her clit, rubbing it and truly enjoying herself. And then almost always she pulls away her hand and simply enjoys me assfucking her. Like she denies herself the orgasm. Meanwhile doing her best to make me cum as hard as possible. I’ve talked to her about it a few times, and she says that if she wants to cum, she will see to it. But frankly I love this about her. I love that for her sex is about the deed itself and making me cum as hard as possible. She moans from the second I enter her asshole, she even moans while sucking my cock. Seriously moaning. I feel the vibrations of her “hmmm, hmmm” while my cock shoves down her troat.

Sometimes I feel selfish and like a jerk. Then I pull out the dildo to assfuck her with it while I pleasure het clit with my mouth. Afterwards she even thanks me for the orgasm. She’s really special. Never met a woman who approached sex like she does. She’s willing, eager and always in for a blowjob, an assfuck or ass to mouth. Depends on her prepping level. This gives me an ease of mind I’ve only experienced since I am with her.

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The gut flora lives in the colon. That’s why real enaemas are not meant to do too often. It also rinces out the good bacteria, causing bowel problems.

My wife also uses that peer shaped douche. But only if I ask for ass to mouth or she feels ass to mouth will be naturally happening or she plans on surprising me with the sentence “I want to suck it now” while I’m busy assfucking her.

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Oh my God! I get why that’s holding her back from trying again. I wonder if it’s due to poor blood circulation? I have poor blood circulation, so I take a herbal supplement every day.

I totally get that lack of need for an orgasm. I had the same experience yesterday—he’d been inside me for quite a while, and he asked if I wanted my clit vibrator, but I didn’t want it.

Actually, I’ve always felt pressure to have a vaginal orgasm or to feel enough pleasure over time. And I’ve gotten used to reaching orgasm through my clit.

And I realize that my anal pleasure is so satisfying that I don’t feel the need for a systematic orgasm. Maybe also because once I orgasm, my ass is less the climax of my pleasure.

I dream of reaching an anal orgasm :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

I think what turns me on the most is the idea that my anus is the center of desire and pleasure. It goes hand in hand with my pleasure in being dominated and my kinks, I think. There’s something liberating about feeling “used” like a fuck toy (and I’m talking about a desire on my part, within a consensual framework, without him even suggesting it).

I think the anal sensation is so powerful and intimate that it allows for this kind of play and desire when you feel confident and safe with the other person.

And then there’s this huge pressure to have orgasms, which makes the sexual act feel more valid.

I feel like this approach is very vagina-centric. And it reinforces the idea that we’re not doing something right. I understand that you might feel that guilt, and I think it stems from this orgasm standard.

And when you think about it, we don’t have enough perspective on the anus, but I don’t think I’m talking nonsense when I say it has so many more nerve endings than the vagina or even the clitoris. So it makes sense to me that I don’t need a systematic orgasm because my anal pleasure and arousal are enough for me.

Well, I’m just at the very beginning, and I don’t know how this relationship or my desire will evolve, but I know this is what I’ve always wanted: to be able to experience this kind of relationship and explore anal fantasies with passion.

So maybe that also enhances my pleasure. But generally speaking, I’d say that anal has always turned me on more, and I imagine that AO amplifies the whole chain of pleasure.

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Thanks so much for this open and honest post! I find myself constantly asking questions too, it’s nice to know someone else is asking them also. I sometimes find my discharge is thicker and creamier, but for me I think it has more to do with where I am in my cycle rather than what sexual activity I’m engaged in. But I’ll let you know if I notice a pattern!