Hello everyone. Just making my introductory post here. My wife of many years blew my mind last year when she suggested anal sex. She knew that I was into the idea and we had a very pleasant, gentle experience that I hope to talk about with you here later. Thanks for reading.
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Welcome, we look forward to hearing about your experience, and any topics you want to discuss.
Yeah, so let’s hear it. We’re always in for a nice chat about our alternative sexlife’s.
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Thank you. My wife enjoys a little anal play - always in spoons and just a small amount of insertion. She says this is a gift for me, but she offers it regularly and I think it makes her feel naughty in a good way. I’d like to take the next step and have full anal sex, and am willing to take time to work with and prepare her, but the idea of preparation seems to trigger some shame and she refuses fingers, toys or lube from a bottle.
I need to decide how to work through this with her, without pressuring her of course.
When you say regulary, it that like monthly, weekly or more ?
Every time we have sex, which is a few times a month (work, kids and other stresses get in the way of anything more regular, unfortunately).
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I know all about it. The first 2 years we assfucked every day. Then we started a business together and often are too beat to even think about sex, so it reduced to like 3-4 times a week if we’re lucky, once a week if we aren’t.
We really love having having daily fucks, but sometimes the mind stops the heart from wanting.
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Welcome aboard, fellow! I think you two are going very well, you just need to keep doing it regularly, without pressure or urgency, at your usual pace. Sometimes pleasure comes with practice, and your regularity helps with that.
Your main goal should be to naturalize the act, so that she doesn’t feel ashamed or inhibited from speaking openly about it. I would recommend that you say a kind word or give a compliment from time to time, praising her butt or reminding her how good was last night, or simply saying that that dress makes her butt so beautiful, you know, but without insisting. Don’t worry if she doesn’t reply or changes the subject, the objective is just to leave the subject in the air.
In my case, for example, I like to caress my wife’s butt cheeks in bed every night, even on nights when we don’t do anything. That’s enough to remind her how much I like her body and our intimate moments.
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I love this advice. Naturalizing anal and getting used to talking about it is something I’m still working on. I have a tendency to go for very “clinical” terms, but saying “I’d like you to put your penis into my anus” doesn’t always sound very sexy!
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You both can give nice, personal names to body parts, toys, positions and actions. Some couples may prefer a more direct vocabulary, others a naughty one, but my wife and I prefer cute words, so that we can talk in public without being understood.
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For us, this is also a great way to “keep the subject in the air”. For example, when I’m driving to the supermarket and she asks me, “Are you going to park in the front or the back entrance?”, and then I reply, “I love the back entrance”, or “This morning I’ll go in through the front, but tonight… mmmm delicious!”.
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My wife and I have been using “plugging in” as a non clinical way to say we want to assfuck. It’s simple and sweet “hey, feel like plugging in for a while ?”
Or “tonight I want you to plugin with me”
This one is nice too: “we don’t need to fuck, we can just pluggin and enjoy the feeling”
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