Do anal only relationships have a better chance on longlivety?

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Lately I see memes passing about the subject like:

“If she takes it up the backdoor, he won’t cheat on her”

or

“Men don’t divorce a woman who do anal sex”

So I wonder if there is any truth in this. Cause I’ve been married two times before and they both also did anal. Not comparable in any way with my wife now. She loves anal sex and admitted very soon she preffered it over vaginal. So I do feel, now in this stage in my life, that purely that fact I have an anal only wife will make me accept more shit from her. I can’t imagine ever to encounter another woman who would choose the anal only lifestyle, but I also can’t handle the idea another man would enjoy her asshole.

I never had that with the other two. It’s the anal only part of our life now, which causes this feeling.

Thinking about it, she seems to have “asspower” over me instead of the more known “pussypower” :rofl:

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I can’t say anything about others, only about myself. I have a beautiful ex-girlfriend who is crazy to have an extramarital relationship with me, but she has said several times that any play in her backdoor is out of question. She has her personal history, her fears pains and reasons, so I don’t blame her. Her home, her rules. But honestly… why would I accept a risky relationship to have a pussy just once a while, if I have a stable relationship that gives me the certainty of having the best ass in the world regularly?

Surely, my wife has this “asspower” over me.

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I’m not sure, but it’s certainly an interesting question. I think anal already requires trust and intimacy, so anal couples might already be in a better position to last. But it also requires a lot of experimentation and trial and error, so I could see it being more likely to fail. Or at least be as likely to fail as an average relationship.

Honestly, though, it sounds more to me like these quotes are implying something like “give it up for your man or he’ll look elsewhere”, which is an attitude I’m not a huge fan of. Sounds too much like gaslighting girls to try something they might not otherwise try by threatening the relationship. But maybe I’m reading to much into it.

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I’m divorced after being Anal Only for years, so no there’s no connection.

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We are all unique and all relationships are unique. Men typically have a natural instinct for variety in women and it has been so with me. Us men did not ask for this so please don’t judge. That is, until anal. It has been life changing for both of us and we both hope it continues until circumstances prevent it.

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My guess is that people in anal-only relationships have at least a slight advantage of having longer-term and higher-quality relationships.

Of course (IMHO) there is not a direct connection between anal-only and relationship success. If only there were!

However, my observation is that the higher level of communication and trust required from both partners – and the resulting higher level of intimacy so many people report from anal-only activity – means that the partners are more likely to have greater communication skills and more likely to have an understanding of and greater appreciation for the needs and desires of the other partner.

I did say “slight” advantage. It is similar to any other type of statistical analysis involving humans. One can be the an extremely careful and skilled driver, but can still get killed by a drunk driver. Both members of a couple can thoroughly enjoy anal-only, but one or both of them can still be complete jerks in other areas of their life and relationship. However, if I were a betting person, I would put a little bit of my money on the success of anal-only relationships.

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It has made our connection deeper. Why wouldn’t I want that to continue…

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I think yes there’s a positive correlation, which doesn’t mean all AO couple are faithful.

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Married for 36 years here. We did anal from the start and later shifted to anal only. Our longevity is due to our relationship strength. Also our anal only shift was also due to the strength of our relationship. Maybe the question is, do people in good relationships with high levels of communication, empathy and a desire for mutual satisfaction have a higher chance of moving to anal only relationships?

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On this forum we see people who got to know anal only through a (often dominant) ex partner.

And all if them come here to explain that after the breakup, they long for a new anal only relationship. Sometimes even without knowing about any long term benefits. So I think it’s not your way of thinking, @Canassman

I know plenty of people in long lasting relationship who never even tried anal sex, nor talked about it

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My ex gf was someone who I first experienced AO with. We kinda discovered the preference together.

She honestly sucked though. Admittedly we both loved the sex as it was mindblowing and it was basically fair game even when we hated eachother. The shared kink definitely kept us together longer but at the end of the day you can’t lie to yourself forever. Learned a lesson back then to be more picky lol (not in an “im better” way of course.)

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There’s research out there that women who enjoy anal sex report more orgasms in general. I think it’s not because anal in inherently more pleasurable / orgasm inducing for everyone, but because enjoying anal requires more communication, more experimentation.

I agree with you that by that same token, couples with more anal-centric sex lives could have a more experimental / playful mind set when it comes to sex, and thus are less prone to have dead bed rooms, and more / better communication overall. And that is good for any relationship.

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But it’s not the act of sticking things up asses per se that leads to better relationships, if it does at all.

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No I think you’re right. Kinkier relationships in general require a lot more communication and trust between partners. On top of that, judgement basically goes out the door. We’re both being dirty and primal, we both love it, and we both know it.

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Now to answer my own question here.

I am in an anal only relationship now, and m absolutely loving it. But my wife - as so many women - can also be a serious pain in the ass. So us being anal only is not a freepass from fights, arguements and silent periods.

Usually we will always get out of these periods, but I know for a fact I would never give up my integrity purely for good sex. Even if it’s anal and ass to mouth sex. I know for a fact I would rather be single then again in a relationship which feels more like a constant battle of minds. I’ve had that and I’m not willing to so this anymore.

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I’ve only been with Dale a few years. We are approaching our 2nd full year of anal only. Our relationship has its issues like any relationship however communication is an important part of anal sex. It can be even more difficult when more than one person is involved! I feel that my communication skills with Dale has improved and our levels of trust with each other has also improved. There is an intimacy with anal sex that is unlike any other. We both feel a lot closer to each other and I still feel gooey when I’m with Dale! The ass is more powerful than the snatch!!

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I am in an anal only relationship now, and m absolutely loving it. But my wife - as so many women - can also be a serious pain in the ass. … I know for a fact I would rather be single then again in a relationship which feels more like a constant battle of minds.

I understand the sentiment. However, as a man and as I have gotten older and looked back upon my relationship problems in the long-ago past, I now recognize that I was often the one who was the “serious pain in the ass” and that my own limitations were just as often the cause of the “constant battle of minds.”

I am just speaking only of my own experience and maturing process. Everybody else’s experience will, of course, be different. And some – but not all – of the bad experiences I had were indeed mostly my then-partners fault, however even then, it was my fault for not sooner recognizing that some situations are just not right for me and/or them.

So, I agree with your sentiment, but only after I have done a thorough examination of my behavior and my responsibilities in the particular situation. Just as it “takes two to tango”, it also “takes two to fight”.

More broadly, in my limited life experience (I have been around for a long time, but I suspect that I have had far fewer experiences with people in general, and intimate partners in particular, than most people), I have found that MEN are usually tremendously greater “pains in the ass” than women. And that most of the “pains” that women carry as their baggage are because of things that MEN did to them (sometimes quite horrible).

So, rather than talking about women-this and men-that, I prefer to talk about this stuff in terms of PEOPLE and to leave the gender out of it.

Whether it be a man or a woman (or somewhere in between), I choose to spend time with people based on how much I enjoy being around them. And I also try to work at behaving – whether anybody happens to be watching or not – in such a way that people enjoy being around me.

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I only speak from my personal poit of view. And that POV is that in the past relationships I tried very hard, even too hard, to make her happy.

It took a divorce for me to realize there’s no way to “make” someone happy. You’re either a happy person or your not. But from the moment one takes it upon him/herself to make a partner happy, it’s the start of an endless sacrafice which eventually will never safe the relationship, nor feel satisfactory.

It’s not my job to make my wife happy, neither is it hers to make me happy. We should just be happy for ourselfs and take that into our relationship. I see it the other way around now. If I am happy, it rubs off on my wife and she gets happy. Vise versa same thing. We react to our spouse, so someone who is constantly telling you he/she is unhappy, will actually pull you down too.

Anal and ass to mouth sex makes me happy. It helps a lot. And I see her feeling happy too while I assfuck her. So being anal only does make things easier. Just not trouble free.

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I know there are people who are throw off by the fact that if you beg your man to pound your asshole only, he’ll stay more faithful, loyal and loving to you.

However, I’m one of those women who doesn’t shy away from my obsession with anal only. I always wear a duct tape covering my vagina shut. I will use my cute and adorable appearance to lure and entice men, and crave for heavenly and sensual anal pounding session. I would love it if my potential man roams his hands around my body and spread my asscheeks wide, pounding my tight little asshole and hits the sweet spot, making my toes curl and beg for more like a needy anal only slut I am. And of course emotional intimacy, trust and communications are a must. :winking_face_with_tongue: :face_blowing_a_kiss:

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I would advice against ducttape and use boobtape instead. Covering your pussy shouldn’t result in irritation or pain with removal.

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