I was making a rhetorical statement. We consider ourselves “anal only” despite the fact we started with vaginal penetration on Sunday for the first time in over a year. I was just trying to make the point that you can “practically” consider yourself anal only even if you decide to penetrate a hole other than the ass.
Unlike most, and maybe all of the men in this group, I don’t have much interest in receiving oral sex. One could argue including oral in one’s anal repertoire means one is not “anal only”. I disagree with such an assertion. I believe “anal only” is more a state of mind than technical definition. My two cents, for what it’s worth.
At the start of our anal only adventure, we discovered ass to pussy since she was cleaning herself anyway. So we made de switch back to “anal only mostly” for a few years. Last time I did ass to pussy was in july 2024 when I proposed to her while my cock was up her ass.
To make it even more a moment to savor, I did ass to pussy when she said yes. That was the last time my cock has been in her pussy cause that day we decided to really stop any form of penetration involving my cock and her pussy.
So while I consider us being anal only for almost 4 years, one can discuss that it’s only been 14 months of pure anal only.
I simply don’t consider those few times going from ass to pussy as not being anal only.
Just to reinforce your opinion, guys. I am on the other side of this table: we consider ourselves “mostly anal only” because we still do vaginal to achieve pleasure. Although it’s not as pleasurable as anal, we do it just for the sake of variety, and we enjoy certain positions that we haven’t converted yet to anal. (I’m working on this.)
I think I fall into the category that “anal only” is a state of mind. That said, the budding philosopher in me wants to think more carefully about the concept of “anal only”, not necessarily to land on a single definition, but to maybe reveal to myself what I think about anal only. And to be clear, I definitely don’t consider myself anal only, but the more time I spend on this forum the more I could see myself sliding in that direction. So with that in mind…
It seems to me using tampons isn’t what prevents me from being anal only, so purposely sticking something in my vagina isn’t what prevents me from being anal only. And it seems like if I was having anal sex with my partner and he missed and accidentally put it in my vagina, that accident wouldn’t prevent me from being anal only. So it seems mere vaginal penetration with a penis doesn’t disqualify me from being anal only. And then (God forbid), if someone were to penetrate me vaginally without my permission, I don’t think that the rape would prevent me from being anal only, since it wasn’t my choice.
So I think that what my beliefs in these cases suggest is that what is central for me to being anal only is the intentional adopting of a general rule of engaging in anal play as the default form of sexual activity. And, as the saying goes, it’s the exception that proves the rule. The fact that vaginal intercourse in order to procreate would be a rare exception is evidence that the general rule is to engage in anal only. And this approach also allows secondary sexual practices, such as oral. So I guess that’s how I’ve been thinking about it.
….and I probably won’t be telling my professors that I’ve been trying to do conceptual analysis on the anal only lifestyle.
I really like this breakdown, that’s a very thoughtful and philosophical approach to the idea of being anal only, and I think that aligns quite closely to the way I view it as well!
On the subject of oral, I tend to subscribe to the idea of anal only meaning “no vaginal” or “replacing vaginal with anal”. So if I were to do 50% oral and 50% anal, that would still be anal only in my mind. I think that the term anal only is just a very simple and sexy way to describe the lifestyle, even if it isn’t technically accurate. That’s just my opinion though.
Oral sex has it’s own place. It isn’t tied to anything else. I even did an oral only week while we were already anal only.
After a week of exclusively oral sex, adding anal to our sexlife again was like a little rediscovery. And that was only one week, but in the period we had anal every day. Now we’re down to 3-4 times a week. Which is still great IMO.
So using your logic with oral sex, would you call a couple like us “anal only” or “anal mostly” considering vaginal penetration occurs no more than one time a year?
Not that it matters, or that I care, but I’m interested if you believe vaginal penetration one time per year for non-procreation purposes qualified as anal only or anal mostly.
I don’t know honestly! That’s why I’m asking here, to see what other people’s opinions are on the matter
In my personal opinion, what matters is how you personally perceive it. From my perspective, I would still consider that to be anal only, despite not being “strictly” anal only.
I think this is still anal only in my view. If I cheat on my gluten free diet by having a slice of bread once on the weekend, it doesn’t mean I’m no longer on a gluten free diet. It just means I had a cheat day!
That’s a really good question. I’m close to my 3rd year of AO. I’m 20 years old and I want to have children in my mid 20s. That’s mainly because I my chosen career path. I need to have at least 1 year under my belt before becoming pregnant. Fingers crossed I will be with Lufthansa, who are a very family friendly airline but I still want to get as many hours in while progressing. Returning to vaginal sex may be a little nerve wracking but if it serves its purpose it will be worth it.
When it comes time to make a baby, don’t forget that you can always do anal sex for most of the month and just do vaginal sex during the days when there is the greatest chance of conception. I wish you the best of success when you are ready for it.
From my perspective, if it were me, the “nerve wracking” time period would be after the baby is born and my life is turned upside down doing parent stuff (like getting no sleep) – and thus having trouble making enough quality time for quality sex.
As a concept anal only is delicious. There are all kinds of slutty horny peverted ideas that are stimulated by it.
As a matter of practicality it might mean having some anal only sessions a week and some others where the pussy is included. I mean I don’t think it matters one bit. The last thing, we want ironically, is to get puritanical about anal but I do love the idea of the pussy for display purposes only!
You nailed it. An anal relationship is what one or both partners find works best for them. We needn’t define the terms it is ironic to think anal enthusiasts could be puritanical when it comes to how we practice it
For us, it’s anal only 99.9% of the time, and 100% of our sessions finish with anal. We discovered anal later in our relationship, so we’re packing in as much anal as possible (pun intended) to make up for lost time.
A wise man once told me that stopping vaginal often increases anal pleasure. I was very sceptical however Dale and I decided to give it a go. Lets just say that I was pleased with the results! Yes it took a little time to find what worked but then BINGO! AO also gave me more confidence to experiment and ultimately join with other anal fans / friends to push boundaries and pleasure.
Please don’t take this the wrong way but you and Mrs Colt are an inspiration. My parents gave up on sex in their mid 40s! Your knowledge and enthusiasm incredible.
Thank you Abbi! I take it as a gracious and generous compliment. Sex between long-term couples is a way of caring for each other in a most intimate way. Sex doesn’t define love, it enhances it.
I’ve said this before, but life is short and passes by faster than the air speed of a 747-8. On the other hand, if you believe in Einstein’s space-time continuum, you might extend your life just a little bit flying jet aircraft.
Your drive and ambition to become an airline pilot inspires me as well. When I was your age, I was skating by in college while taking hallucinogenic drugs, drinking heavily, and hooking up with every available woman. I met Mrs Colt my last year in college. I believe she saved my life and my soul.
I wish the best for everyone in this group, but especially the young members who are now in the process of discovering life. Thanks again for the kind words Abbi.
but I do love the idea of the pussy for display purposes only!