I’m a natural leader and I probably would be an excelent father, much better than my own father was to me.
The problem is, I’d probably never be able to impregnate a woman.
I think so much of my masculine energy is missing due to the fact that I can’t have pleasure with vaginal, and I really hate that.
This extends to my day to day relations sometimes, equating a certain insecurity which sometimes I let transpire.
Anyone with similar feelings?
Since no one replied, I will.
Yes, it’s true that my masculine energy is not as strong due to being anal only. But also, it’s true that my feminine energy is much higher.
I’m very spiritual, artistic, romantic, compassionate, sensitive and all the things you would associate with the right side of the brain. Also, I have thousands of followers who are very interested in my craft.
Anyone would like to add something?
I can’t reply on your topic because I have grown up kids. My wife and I are pretty sure that I we met sooner, we would have become anal only early in our relationship too, and she wouldn’t had any kids extra with me. Because I didn’t want kids to begin with
So we are both sure that we would have stuck to our anal only lifestyle, childfree.
So my question to you is: do you want kids ?
If yes, only thing necessary is getting your sperm into her pussy. You don’t need to fuck her for that.
I guess I’m not really sure what masculine energy is, or why yours is less because you only enjoy anal?
But I totally sympathize with the desire to procreate, and it would be really hard to not be able to fulfill that desire. Still, I have friends with really great step-dads, I think it’s possible to be a great father without having genetically related kids.
I for one, feel extremely masculine, and my girl, very feminine, during anal and after; there is a lingering effect for both of us. Although I don’t focus on it, I feel it.
We discovered anal later in life after children so my perspective is different.
For years I have wondered how people of the past kept small families (before birth control) and I think I finally know. Although that is for a different thread, there is no sin in having vaginal specifically to have children. Being a parent is life changing and I would not trade it for anything. Some take the “anal only” so literally they feel bad if vaginal is included. I do not subscribe to this.
Neo, either I have misunderstood what you are saying or I have to wonder if you are conflating two different subjects?
Impregnating a woman only requires a source of viable sperm and a delivery mechanism. There are various ways to get that sperm into the woman that don’t require the usual act of vaginal intercourse.
For example, seriously injured / disabled men who are not able to engage in vaginal intercourse, but who still produce viable sperm – for example injured war veterans – can still father children even if they no longer have a penis. The sperm gets collected or extracted one way or another and then implanted in the woman.
If you want to be a father, but you don’t think that vaginal intercourse is a possibility for you (for whatever reason) – and assuming you are with a woman who wants to be a mother – then it is “only” a matter of discussing the situation with a physician who specializes in reproductive matters, etc. I perhaps should not say “only”, but if you have viable sperm, it may really only be a matter of handling the details and paying for the medical costs.
This world seems to be short of GOOD fathers, so if you think you would be a GOOD father, don’t rule it out if you and your female partner want to be parents.
Thank you for all the awesome replies. Yes, the act of anal sex still feels very masculine to me, as it probably feels very feminine for my partner, though I’m single at the moment. And there are other ways to impregnate a woman that don’t require vaginal intercourse. Still, in my mind I feel a little bit insecure towards men who love vaginal because after all they are “normal” and I’m not. It’s not something that I think about all the time, obviously, but in a few ocasions it goes to surface. Maybe it’s due to my upbringing as a child, or my experiences as an adult. Thank you so much for your attention and this is the only place where I can discuss theses kinds of delicate subjects.
Oh man, aren’t we all “normal people” in this community? That’s exactly what I like most in this forum! Each of us has our own private life, different jobs and occupations, hobbies and passions, left- and right- wings, ages and generations, sexual orientations, forms of relationships. We don’t follow a specific pattern that could be identified weird, although we share the same passion for anal sex. Out of home, we are all “normal”. You are normal, believe me.
I think perhaps you’re putting too much stock in masculine vs feminine energy. You are who you are and there really isn’t a need to force aspects of your character into that sort of binary. Who you are is a guy who loves anal, seems to want to be a father, doesn’t like PIV, and has a creative side. You’re not abnormal or lesser because you don’t like vaginal sex.
I’m in the process of changing my thinking. Like you, I have always thought other guys are “normal” as vaginal is what we have all pursued. Being attracted by an ass seems unusual to some people. It used to be me, but after years, I have accepted it. Perhaps I will start a new subject regarding the benefits of sharing. The single biggest thing that helped my mental state, bar none, was reading accounts like this. What a relief to know there are others like me in the world, and to be able to share is fantastic. This is what helped me realize I am normal, or at least, fairly normal.
I am totally not normal and I love that about myself. What’s the fun in being normal anyway ?
You see, we are all such normal people that we even have an abnormal one among us. 