I’ve been thinking about this and I know this topic has been discussed on broader social media platforms. What is so controversial and problematic about women enjoying anal? It’s always the women like me who always have to justify and prove our reasons since women’s preferences get instigated, if a woman happen to enjoy this and that, it’s because of her man. I discovered anal and I love it!!! By myself! Not because of a man! Do people get it? I doubt it. Just because I love anal and I’m anal only does NOT make me inferior. And I never ever projected it onto any woman because I know not all women share the similar sentimental feelings like me, when it comes to anal. So instead, I surrounded myself with women who preferred anal just like me on this forum.
Since I’m Asian, I might as well add this for a new perspective. Many Asian cultures are traditional and conservative, which means that marrying for true love, women enjoying revealing their skin and dressing in a sexy manner, and women having pleasures and fantasies, is seen as socially immoral and unacceptable. However, JAV (I don’t watch them tbh and I have never watch porn before in my entire life ), maid cosplays, and gravure are common in Japan, where sexuality is normalized despite the stigma toward women who enjoys having fantasies.
Sorry I’m just frustrated because I’m infuriated at how progressives started recycling the puritan rhetoric like right wing fundamentalists, hatred toward women who are horny and wants to have pleasure and fantasies. Progressives said that only men are horny, hence enjoying dressing yourself in sexy way and having naughty thoughts makes you immoral and sinful. It’s 2026 and I see lots of women expressing their lewd fantasies and flashing their titties and enjoying what they like, so let women be horny and have pleasures and fantasies just like men.
I don’t know which Asian country you are from, but here in the West I see the exact opposite: progressives are the first to defend women’s (and also LGBT) rights.
My two cents on this is: continue being the fabulous woman you are, and you’ll be contributing to change the world in the most positive way possible. Don’t give a shit about what others think; they can try to change other people’s opinions, but not yours.
I think you get so aggitated because you care. Caring is good.
And yes, a woman who discovered her love for anal, without even having anal sex with a man, isn’t very common. More glory to you, because this makes you an exception.
I grew up in a very progressive community with a very prominent Womens’ Rights movement, etc., etc.
However, I witnessed a lot of what I will call “attempted shaming” of women who enjoyed sex and sexuality for their own personal reasons – whether or not there were any men (or other women) involved.
There seemed to be an attitude of “If you are being so sexual, you must be trying to please a man.”
Maybe that was true sometimes, but I also knew women who simply enjoyed sex (whatever flavor they enjoyed) because they enjoyed sex! They do not “need” a man (or another woman) to be sexy for or with. They are self-contained sexual beings… and they always seem to be more “real” and “realized” people (nothing to do with sex, but just in life in general).
I wish there were more such people around where I live now (again nothing to do with sex per se, but just people to know).
Oh well there’s prejudice against anal only men…. People say “are you gay?” and stuff like that. In the case of a woman, I suppose it gets more complicated, because it seems even more unnatural. Let me add, I’m a catholic but I admit I’m not a huge fan of the figure of the Virgin Mary, because it sets unrealistic standards for women.
Let me try and explain how I see it. Most men actually prefer vaginal, and see anal just as a thing to change up the sex or they see it as a domination action. That’s what I gathered from all the men I talked to. Out of all the men I know, besides me, I know only one other that prefers anal, most others do it but wouldn’t give up the pussy.
So when you say you are anal only, most men can’t put themselves into that story, so that disqualifies you as a potential partner to them. So their reaction is to say you are weird, but that is just a defense mechanism from the men.
I am not so sure that I accept your premise that “most men actually prefer vaginal…”.
It could be that the men “prefer” what is actually available and possible within the confines of their existing relationship(s) or from their potential pool of women with which they might be able to get involved. If all that is available is “vanilla ice cream”, guess what? I like “vanilla ice cream” because my choice may be either that or nothing.
My opinion is that “many” (I am not qualified to know about “most”) men “prefer” … whatever they can get away with!
When I brought up the subject of a man seeking an anal-preferring or anal-only female partner (just as a thought experiment; I am happily married), the members of this group who responded to that thread (mostly or all men, as best I recall – you can find it in my posting history) indicated strongly that, in their opinion, it is almost impossible to find such a woman by searching for such a woman – that instead the man must find a (any) woman and then, over time, try to interest her in anal activity. (If I had to live my life all over again, I don’t think I would be interested in the decades of effort and time required to try to interest women in anal – I would rather just find the right woman to start with, as hard as that may be.)
Maybe someday, probably long after my time, our society will find it more acceptable to be open about one’s anal preferences. I don’t have any personal experience with dating apps, but I have recently read that there are now some dating apps that allow much more filtering by more categories of preferences (for example, political affiliation). Maybe someday “types of sexual activity” will be a ‘checkbox’ on dating app sign-up forms.
I guess I didn’t clear this up so just to clarify, I find it hypocritical of how leftists and femcels would encourage sex positivity while recycling Victorian prudish rhetoric, bashing women for being sexually attracted to men and enjoying sexual preferences that are considered problematic, including anal, just like how right wing fundamentalists like to shame women, both groups have different ways of expressing their hatred toward women for being sexually attracted to men and enjoying sexual preferences and kinks on their own choices and terms.
I don’t get why women like me loving and preferring anal only is so controversial to so many people who learn misinformation about anal sex and even not caring to listen to pov from women who are anal enthusiasts and are experienced with anal. I hope this makes sense. I’m just feeling under the weather lately and I’m known to be sensitive…
I came of age during the sexual revolution of the 60’s and 70’s. The only objections at the time came from the ultra-religious right. Catholics talked a good game, but many Catholic women and men enjoyed a guilt free sex life back then.
Today, the far left insists that men are simply along for the ride. Get hard, just lay there, and let the woman drive.
I was recently criticized in an anal subreddit for suggesting that men can help a woman experience anal pleasure in a methodical and sensitive way. She accused me of being an old, white, straight male who has no business commenting on how to please a woman. I participate anonymously, and she has no idea who I am but felt compelled to insult me and ask moderators to kick me out of the subreddit!
These women want men for their slaves. They want passive, weak men with a low sex drive. That way, they can complain about their lack of sexual satisfaction with other miserable mates at cocktail parties (no cocks allowed).
Does anyone remember a time when people were actually allowed to have a sexual attraction to another person? Those truly were the “good ole days”! Hope you feel better soon.
), maid cosplays, and gravure are common in Japan, where sexuality is normalized despite the stigma toward women who enjoys having fantasies.