No I think from my own personal observation that 50% of women in my group and age group are into at some level, anal is much much more accepted in the younger crowd so I think it’s higher for women that get it at some level on a regular basis, iy just doesn’t have the stigma it used to have.
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I’d like to add about the religious side of things that most of you have brought up, and feel so strongly about it.
For most of Cate and my life, we have been deeply religious. All that “religious” stuff we were involved with came to a point where something needed to be done; otherwise it was disintegrate.
It was when we hit our 20th wedding anniversary, that I thought “I don’t want to spend another 20 years of marriage like we have just experienced”. We were ready to divorce. I instinctively knew that marriage counselling was utter BS. It needed thinking outside the box. And I did. I as a Male I took the initiative here.
Cut a long story short, I paid for a 3.5 hour appointment with a lady Somatic Sexologist. Then 3 months after that appointment, Cate and I attended a couples only Tantric Sex Retreat that ran for a week. Last October of last year, it was our 2nd attendance to the Retreat.
Just seeing the Somatic Sexologist & doing the Tantric Sex Retreat was absolutely life changing, learnt a heck of a lot that blew our minds out. Now we are more in love than when we first married.
One of the biggest things that was holding and doing damage to our marriage, our sexual lives, was the religious BS that we were consuming. Cate and I saw the damage that religious teaching had done to our marriage. So we do not have anything to do with any religious organisation on this earth now.
Religious form of any kind on this earth is totally BS, designed on purpose, and with intention, to hamper, to hold back, to shame, to attack you at your core - sexual biological function of us as a human species. Religion, Monism, and whatever you want to tag on, is used as a tool of CONTROL. A tool to keep you from engaging, enjoying, what is your God given right.
Now Cate and I operate on a higher level to do with our marriage and sex lives. We are blessed & trust all of you AOL community members are too.
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Makes me glad that I’m a devout atheist so never had any of those hang ups
I’m a devout christian. If I wasn’t gonna die, ok, I would need no religion. Someone told me once I was obsessed with the afterlife. Yes I agree, maybe it has to do with the fact that when I was a 2 year old baby I had a NDE. Kind of off topic, but I mean, religion is not supposed to tell you how you’re supposed to have sex. Religion is for you to deal with the fact that you and everyone else you know are inevitably gonna die.
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A christian friend said to me that she has nothing really to lose about being a christian. When she dies and there’s no god then no biggie, she won’t know anything about it however if there is an almighty, all powerful being then she believes that her devotion and faith will stand her in good stead on the last day. I asked her if it was a sin to enjoy anal or oral sex, she said that her teachings taught her that sex is sacred and should be used to unify a man and a woman with the hope that it produces life. I told her that she does not know what she is missing and played ‘Every Sperm is Sacred’ from Monty Python. That made her laugh!
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Jesus was friends with the outcasts of society, prostitutes, lepers, sinners. And he had very harsh words towards the religious men of his time. You just have to read the gospels. The thing is, Jesus was a “woke” left winger not a conservative right winger. When I realized this things got easier to deal with regarding religion.
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Brother your views are your views and as a Christian I get some of them I had a lot of hang ups about things in my youth it wasn’t till I really dug into the actual translation of the Bible that I shed them the “Church” especially years ago preached a lot of things that were assumptions at best I left that BS a long time ago. The concrete rules and guidance of the Bible I have not because it make me a better person and a better society as a whole and I believe in it most importantly. Jesus came to tear down the bullshit that was going on in the “Church” because how corrupt it was. You do you brother and rock on!
You’re so blessed AbbiT05 especially at your age and what you have experienced. Dale sounds like a real keeper 
Heck, I wish I was 19 again with the knowledge that I have in my head now.
Cate and I saw the hidden beauty that the masses miss to do with sex and with each other. Anal is 110% ok & shouldn’t be taboo.
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I feel very lucky having an amazing boyfriend and friends who think alike, respect and protect each other
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My wife and I have often wondered the same thing. She is certainly one of them. In her group of church-going friends, she’d probably be voted ‘least likely to have anal sex.’ Little do they know we have been having anal sex for more than 30 years. For the first 10 of those, we pretty much always ended in her ass, so she was having anal every time we had sex. For nearly the past 20 years, it’s been anal only. None of them would ever think my sweet wife was having her ass plowed at least once a day (yes we have a lot of sex) and pretty much always has a load of cum in her ass.
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Pretty much as you said. Anal sex topic in protestantism varies. In my country the greaaat majority of thoughts would be negative. The biggest denominations are pentecostals, some pentecostals will condemn the “sodomites” to death. And people in churches like that would have a lot of fear or even disgust to commit something like that. But, at the same time, the churches where pastors will not talk about it, for whatever reason, will probably have a lot of young ladies and married mature woman doing anal than a calvinist conservative middle class reformed church, even if those calvinist (baptist/presbyterian) churches tend to not consider anal sex sodomy sin (but they can consider it other type of sin, or inconvenient but not sin, or just will recuse to talk about it to avoid polemical topics). I think the reason is that pentecostals, as they are the majority of the protestant population here, and their churches tend to require way less theological training and knowledge of douctrine for someone being able to be preacher, it makes that they tend to vary more between different churches, even from one church from the downtown city and another from the same denomination at the ghettos. And depending of the region of the country, the ghetto can have total different realities. In the favelas of Rio de Janeiro, anal sex culture really exists, so christian girls that grows in that environment maybe will feel some influence from this “funk” culture. I think the section of protestantism most likely to view anal sex as a normal thing is the progressists, those churches with black wall, alternative christian singers, very emotional drive, or the ones that simply don’t consider homossexuality, divorce, abortion, as sins.
This topic is very interesting, there is a whole sociology about anal sex and culture.
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The concept of anal sex taking a girl’s virginity appears to be very contemporary for me. The way old peoples or even medieval and modern civilization used to see sex was very different. First, the word sex is very odd, due the fact that its origin “sexus”, from latin, litterally means the differenciation between man and woman. Coitus would be the word for formal carnal union, that leads to procreation. Before Christianity romans would use the verb “pedico” that means “to perform anal penetrative libidinous pleasure with someone”. So of course they would understand both pedicatus or coitus as libidinous or luxurious acts, but they were not the same. Pedico is for pleasure, coitus is for reproductive duty, it’s the formal act, the good act of the roman civilian. The use of “vaginal, anal, oral, auto” sex seems odd to me in the nowadays language. We use latin words, but the words that latin would use to describe would be totally different. So today we use a word that can at the same time mean biological reproductive configurations determined by male and female, the genders, the activity that leds to the union of male and female gametes (it can be penetrative or not depending on the species), or simply libidinous activity. For me it’s the definition of linguistical poverty.
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Much of our vocabulary for sex is taken from clinical language. We speak of love as doctors would. It’s a sad and poor state indeed.
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Words are a poor substitute for the real, lived experience. Climax cannot be described by words. Rather than words of a scientific context, I will use words like “spiritual” or “ecstasy” to describe our anal experience. Even then, there is room for widely varying interpretation.
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We sometimes have fun with role play. I’m the worried lady and Dale is my Proctologist. He has memorised some of the best phrases and is disgustingly clinical while carrying out his own unique investigations!!
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I’m also Mrs Colt’s proctologist, although I’m not sure the proctologist licks his fingers after they’ve been in his patient’s ass. I’ll tell her I have the ability to diagnose by taste.
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If my girlfriend feels under the weather, I do a rectal exam with my cock, checking her temp and injecting medicine. It always makes her feel better.
I do this altruïsticly 
It is! And it drives my love for older poetry… 
Hehe, how old are we talking? 200 years old or 2000?
Yes. 
I’m a fan of Frost through Chaucer through King David.