There’s much to do on insta regarding this saying by some women. They claim “don’t bother you man with problems. Cook a meal, clean the house and suck his cock at least once a day and he will be happy”
I have to kindly agree on this. My girlfriend is the first woman I’m with who makes me cum whenever I want or need it. Be it mostly with her asshole, but that’s beside the point. The women before her didn’t do this often. Rather very rarely. Like first wife 5 times in 23 years together. Or second wife 2 times in 3 years together. Now I experience that my girlfriend loves my cock. She loves sucking it deeptroat and listen to me moan while she does. She’s a supurb blowjobqueen and also loves to do long blowjobs. Often combined with shoving it in her ass to do some ass to mouth on top.
I never been in a situation where my balls were emptied as much as they are in this relationship. She even makes me feel like making me cum is very important to her. Everytime I cum in her ass, she gets all cheery and happy. She lives up to the final moment with me, where I shoot my load and release it all. And she usually licks my cocks clean after too.
So out of experience, I can honestly say it’s amazing having a life like this with a woman like her. It makes me love her more then I’ve ever loved a woman before. It makes me protect her like I never felth for any woman (besides my daughter) before. She’s way up there, top of the list.
Since I see that most men here - due to anal only - have good active sexlives. How do you men feel about this subject ?
I love sucking my boyfriend’s cock although my tongue is the main protagonist when it comes to giving pleasure. We have a rule that he is not allowed to cum until we meet our friends on the weekend. That rule is the same for the other 2 guys also! Don’t get me wrong, he fucks my ass most evenings but he does not cum. When he’s getting close I will take him out and gently lick his cock and enjoy playing with his precum. I drives him wild but a cold shower soon returns him to normal. When I have 2 cocks in my ass, I squeeze the 2 into my mouth for a few seconds then intently suck and lick them individually. I may get the treat of 2 loads in my mouth or there may be another ass waiting for them. Sucking a cock out of one of the other girls’ asses is something I love to taste. I don’t like cum in my ass so my mouth is my preferred means of enjoying the delicious elixir.
That quote sounds quite a bit like it’s coming from trad-wives or people with a similar mindset.
I prefer an approach to romance where the individual and their individual needs are front and center. “Don’t bother your men with problems, cook his meals and suck his cock” isn’t exactly treating him or yourself as a person, more like a simplistic gender role.
I enjoy a very active sex life, and feel better with regular orgasms, sure, but to achieve that my woman/girlfriend/whatever doesn’t need to limit her interactions with me / take care of me like a second mother.
This in response to aNewFrivolity only. Backdoorlover has been a long time contributor to the old site and that is how I know him. It seems his girlfriend is now his fiance’ so congratulations on that and his love for her seems very apparent and I will not question his intentions. Not trying to start an argument but your comment questions that. How a couple expresses love and appreciation is very personal and intimate and I for one, would love to receive love like he describes. Not because I need a mommy, but because that is how some women expresses love and some men appreciate it. Frankly, I am very independent and so is my lady, but in areas of love, doing things for each other is a way to show it.
I can’t have good sex without connection. I’ve written this in another thread. So it’s not about the origin of the quote, I couldn’t care less. It’s about the “empty his balls” part.
Because I never experienced a woman like this in the past, back then I would have dismissed this quote as women unfriendly. But now I have a woman who loves emptying my balls, I get it.
Don’t get me wrong. We often have long ass to mouth sessions, without me cumming, because the act of fucking feels so amazing I feel like me cumming ends the intense feeling of connection we have during the assfuck.
My boyfriend says there is nothing like having his balls fully drained and prefers if its me (of course he would say that). Saturday night is normally fun because we will have made our men cum at least 4 of 5 times in 24 hours. The colour is gone from their faces and they are fully drained. We make them work hard for their ‘release’. That way everyone is happy in the end! We also have our intimate, tender moments but they tend to happen Monday to Thursday!
Re-read your initial post. Yes, I definitely feel a deeper connection with my lady and sex is more fun and frequent because of anal.
Normally I’m a “glass half full” guy, but I do regret not learning about the intimacy and connection of anal, until late in life.
Well, that got out of hand. I should’ve phrased my answer more carefully.
I didn’t mean to criticize how backdoorlover’s relationship is set up, on the contrary. Like I said, I like frequent orgasms with my partners as well, and would never again enter into a relationship in which my partner doesn’t love sucking me off.
I wanted to express my distaste for this part:
Backdoorlover doesn’t talk about the “cook and clean and keep your mouth shut”-part in his post, and I seem to recall from earlier posts that his fiancé works with him to run a small company. And even if she was a stay at home women, that’d be fine with me as well. I just find simple solutions to dating mostly inaccurate and counterproductive, especially if you spread them on social media as gospel. People should talk to each other, not listen to influencers to find out what they can do to make their relationship work.
Not every women will like the model outlined in the quote, and not every men, either. Telling impressionable people “just do this and your relationship will thrive” is just plain wrong. People are too different for that. And saying ALL men will be happy with a woman doing all the housework and only using her mouth for fellatio, well, that’s a bit sexist, isn’t it?
Having said that, I think it’s really, really, really important to have a sex life that satisfies all parties involved in a relationship. That can mean a hundred different things, though. We’ve got a lot of happy, monogamous couples here. We’ve got pure anal slaves. Abbie’s poly-type situation. They all seem happy, and I bet it’s not because of daily blow jobs. That doesn’t invalidate anyone’s experience of daily blowjobs saving their marriage / making their relationship better. But the woman acting demure and mute and performing housework and fellatio is no panacea.
As I’ve said, I didn’t want to criticize your experience at all. I just objected to the quote. Your sex life sounds amazing for the two of you, and I’m happy you found someone so perfect for you!
In fact, the “empty his balls”-part is honestly the part I like most as well …
I used to be more than happy giving daily blowjobs. I loved everything about them, the feel, the taste, the satisfaction of giving pleasure gives me so much pleasure also. I never really enjoyed vaginal sex however since becoming AO my enjoyment of sex has gone through the roof. My libido is sky high and last Friday I was delighted to get 4 loads in my mouth at the same time. A big mouthful and my as stuffed is heaven
I used to be more than happy giving daily blowjobs. I loved everything about them, the feel, the taste, the satisfaction of giving pleasure gives me so much pleasure also. I never really enjoyed vaginal sex however since exploring anal sex my libido has gone sky high and my craving to drain balls is continuous lol
I’m tracking with you on this one, anewfrivolity, and thoroughly agree. Ironically as a wife who cooks meals, cleans the house, and will suck him balls deep. This is definitely sexist, misogynistic, and straight up patriarchal bullshit.
Oh the horror stories I could tell that have resulted from this mindset…
The rest of you though, you keep having your consensual sex and make sure all parties are happy at the end! I’m pretty sure no one who commented on this is in a relationship that’s toxic like that quote is. You all seem way too concerned with trust, consent, and everybody being satisfied to be this particular brand of messed up.
Dale and I are very much in love and he is normally careful and caring when its just the 2 of us however when we are with ‘company’ he seems to get some extra vigour and often pounds my ass harder than the others. Maybe he’s just marking his territory lol. There are times when I enjoy being fucked hard and deep (thank you Cory) but we all know how far we can push each other I guess. For me that is the secret of good group sex.
Mission accomplished. We emptied the balls of our 3 guys and will be doing it again this evening. Plus I got to look after their contributions. Happy Abbi!!
“Men are very easy to please”, all my female friends agree with that. and besides sex and meal, even letting them being along with their toys is a very efficient way.
my husband doesn’t want to cum everyday, but he has his own way to enjoy my blow or other jobs.
This is actually a real phenomenon. Men get more aroused during sex if there’s a competing cock, they get bigger erections, produce more cum, are more sexually vigorous and have more powerful orgasms.
This is so their sperm has a greater chance of reproductive success.
/end of lesson.
If he really wants to “mark his territory” he should give you a golden shower.
Not sure I agree. Guess I’m lucky that it does not take a lot to give me vaginal or clitoral orgasms. I’ve not had a vaginal orgasm in a long time but when enjoying double anal I can feel my vagina being aroused which is a bonus!
