Intro, queer anal only and clit denial

hello there!

Intro post, any other queer or wlw here who are anal only?

I have been a lover of anal forever but I am only now 3 months into anal only and clit denial and I love it! How many people here do clit denial?

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As a Belgian guy, I often don’t get the abbrevations here. What is WLW ?

And queer so you’re into women ? Or is queer something else then lesbian ?

WLW is Women who love women. Queer just means not straight and lesbian is a women who is romantically or sexually attracted to other women.

Personally I identify as queer as I am attracted to people of any gender but I often use the word lesbian to describe my relationship as I am in a long term relationship with another women.

Thanks, this is new info to me cause I go back to days that we had straight, gay and bi.

In my old knowledge I would say you’re bi with more tendency to women.

Yeah I wouldn’t necessarily disagree with any of those terms either and I don’t reject them. For years called myself bi but I use queer as some people perceive bi to be trans exclusive which I dislike, though I have no bad feelings about any terms other people use.

Normally I wouldn’t be specific but online some people in fetish and kink spaces are homophobic and queer women are in my opinion less fetishised in these communities as bi women can be.

Nothing personal and I also agree back in my day it was gay straight or bi too! I just opt for vaguer labels out of preference but like anything other than straight fits me really but that’s just me!
What would you categorise yourself as? Out of curiosity if you don’t mind sharing of course!

I would call myself straight.

The only sidetrack I even thought about is how it would be to have anal sex with a pretty trans woman whi still has her penis. But in my imagination her penis needed to be small and limp. Cause in porn I often say trans women with bigger cocks then mine, fully erect while she was assfucked. I had trouble with that image.

Anyway, now that I am with a woman who loves being anal only, I really am where I wanted to be for a long time and all curiosity I have left is focussed on new things I can tey with her.

Cause since she’s with me she’s really into trying some more pervy stuff then before. Her old sexlife, besides having anal sex, was pretty boring before I was in her life. We lift eachothers sexdrive up to unknown heights.

My wife used to identify as bisexual, but as our knowledge base has grown, she feels pansexual is a better descriptor.
I grew up in an era with a lot of homophobia, and I have worked to try and remove that socialization I grew up with from my life. Reading Savage Love, and listening to Savage Lovecast have both been key to expanding my knowledge base and helping me. I still identify as boringly straight but now try and support LGBTQ causes and speak out against hatred that I hear.
I hope you enjoy the forum.

I generally say that I’m queer as well, or sometimes bi (though that still feels somewhat dishonest, since I’ve never done much with other men). I prefer the wide umbrella that the term queer offers - I don’t want to go into detail of how my poly and BDSM lifestyle exactly work, and am happy to keep it at “not straight, not hetero- or mononormative”, in one word, queer.

It’s a good thing, though, to know about all these terms, and if you’re moving in queer spaces, you’ll quickly find that there’s no one correct way to use them. It’s often about what people are comfortable with.