So, it’s about the pleasure of give control of your body for your man? And if he wants anal sex?
I’m not psychic or a prophet, so I don’t know if I’ll be anal only for life, but I’m always amused at the assertion that receiving anal is submissive, or just receiving in general. When I’m on top of my husband, melting his brains out with pleasure and then lowering myself onto him, I’m definitely the one calling the shots in that moment, not him. I’ve always been the one in charge of which hole gets what and what happens and just out of how things naturally worked out. I let him do whatever he wishes whenever he wishes, but it’s by and large been me in charge.
Also, side note on “Christian submission” - it’s not just wives to husbands, it’s also husband’s to wives and Christians to each other (the latter being the actual point). It’s mutual. The entire book of Ephesians is talking about unity and oneness and Paul is actually telling husbands to look at their wives if they want to see how they should submit to their wives and each other and uses the head-body/ bride-bridegroom metaphor to show oneness. (Because “kalaphē” means head 
, not authority, not even a little bit in first century koine Greek.)
Anyway, anal for a woman only has submissive overtones if the couple wants it to. Sex only has Dom/sub overtones if the couple wants it to. It’s not inherently conqueror and conquered. Not by a long shot. In my marriage it’s been a means of expressing our love and building closeness and knowing and trust.
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Those are very good points! Both from the perspective of a dominant man and concerning theology; citing one’s sources is always good.
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This interpretarion of the word head and submission isn’t adequate, the word in greek “Kephalé” ( You wrote it different) indeed means literally head, but it figurativally represents “the first”, “the boss” or “the leader”. It’s the same word used to describe Jesus as the leader of the church. The leader and led, the servant and lord, the father and the sibling really have to serve one another in Christianity, but one continues to be the authority, and other continues to be the subordinate. The vision of the great leader in christianity is Jesus, who has all the power, but diminished himself infinitely, the one that through him the universe was formed, but he washes the feet of his disciple. However, all authority is his.
I would like to say that it’s my vision, and the predominant vision through christianity, but when I wrote about it in the last comment, I didn’t wrote biased, I was literally speaking about a historical fact. The historical fact is undenieble, in Christianity through the ages, the husband is the authority above the wife, as god is the authority above the husband. If you interpret the scriptures in other way, and think the church was wrong at most of its extension, it’s up to you. But it’s undenieble that the major interpretation had major impact in the concept of wedding and, consequently in sex in western society.
Well, I decided at age 13 that religion was a lie and stopped caring. It’s simply a clever, man made, contruct to gather people in communities.
So I’m an atheïst I guess.
To get back on topic. My girlfriend answered a question I asked her about my worry if she gets horny on random occasions, like me.
Not only did she confirm she gets randomly horny, she also stated she can really feel the need to get my cock up her asshole. But the sweetest part of her reply, was her telling me she loves being used by me, she loves giving me pleasure with her mouth and asshole. She’s the only woman who has been in my life with this mindset. The previous were more occupied with their own pleasure and mine was just colateral damage.
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I’m not into this kind of dynamic, BDSM and such - which the OP implicitly affirms. To each their own, but for me, it’s just not my cup of tea. Sure, things may get heated in the bedroom, but aside from this, I don’t want to sexualize my everyday life. I’m a gentleman.
Not every BDSM-relationship is a 24/7 thing. Many are happy to only live the lifestyle in their bedroom.
I would also add that BDSM relationships that are not abusive by nature are consensual, meaning: Both partners want what’s happening and draw pleasure from it. Hence: Being a gentleman is basically a prerequisite for being a dom. And not all men are dominant, and not all women submissive.
That being said, of course you don’t have to be into it. There are many misconceptions about BDSM, and the latest “work” of “literature” to deal with it that was widely received, Fifty Shades of Grey, did little else but show us an abusive, manipulative man with an insecure partner.
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It doesn’t have connotations of anything remotely like authority until 300- 400 years after Paul was writing and then mostly in religious dictionaries. Contemporary Greek texts and dictionaries to Paul use it as head on a body or head as a source of a river. For a much better and more through explanation, I’ll direct you to Philip Barton Payne’s books.
If you look back at earlier chapters, you see the entire book is calling for unity in the church. Chapter 4 also has the head-body language, and the point is very clearly unity. Chapter five continues that theme and if you can ignore the uninspired verse breaks and headers, you’ll see that Paul’s talk about marriage is merely continuing that theme. Honestly though, if you start inserting “authority” (which isn’t there) into that text, you quickly run into problems with not only the rest of the book but also other Pauline epistles where themes of equality, all being one in Christ, and unity exist. To say absolutely nothing of what Jesus said to the disciples when they started asking about who will be greatest in the kingdom. It creates a mountain of exegetical problems.
If you’d like to look into this further, I recommend Philip Barton Payne, Teren Williams, and Beth Allison Barr.
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Of course, this theme will be in my mind in the future. Right after we discussed about it I discussed a lot about the theme with a friend of mine. A good topic
I assume it’s to me.
yes, giving control and being used in every way is the most exciting thing to me, and me being anal only is a very important rule between my husband and me. and of course, he enjoys my anal very much too.