Ever since marriage went sexless, and soon 70 years old, I’ve had the darnedest transformation of fantasies. Having always been very possessive and jealous, the idea of cuckoldry has always been nightmarish, still disturbingly titillating.
For several years, a persistent fantasy of mine is the thought of my wife bringing home guys attracted to her, but only to have them bang me instead.. well, primarily me, but maybe even her (anally) as well.
From a psychological aspect, I look at it as a closet desire to resolve my lifelong possessiveness by experiencing her past sex with other partners from her point of view, and also to give bandwidth to my own sexual frustration.
It’s a very niche kink, it seems, but AOL is a great place to learn and explore, right?
I have never been in a threesome and probably never will if I’m honest. But the fantasy of a MMF threesome is one I’ve used in my own private anal masturbation many times. I sit on the toilet facing the tank and stick my thrusting dildo on top while I hold my big plug down on the seat (bummer it doesn’t have a suction cup). But that allows me to take the dildo in my mouth while I bounce on my plug and imagine I’m being used in both ends. Super hot for me!
As for your specific fantasy, I don’t think it sounds odd. Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but I totally get feeling like you want to be in control at all times, I’m the same way. And that leads me to feel anxiety and to get all up in my own head, including when I’m having sex.
One of the great things about anal, for me, is that it lets me escape those feelings I don’t like when I’m having sex. But it’s not always in the same way. Sometimes, I get anxious because I’m worried about the things outside of my control that might go wrong. Anal allows me to see myself in complete control. “This is my body, and I’m not letting you use my vagina. You’re only getting to use my ass because I’m letting you. You can’t overstimulate my clit if I only let you use my butt.” That sort of thing.
Other times, though, I get worried that I’m the one that’s supposed to be in control and I’m going to screw it up. The, “What if I do it wrong? what if he doesn’t enjoy it?” kind of thoughts. Anal allows me to see myself as completely giving up control. “He’s using whatever hole he wants, and he wants my ass.” That sort of thing.
But there is a kind of mental tension that comes with this flexibility. Sometimes I want to be vulnerable and submissive, but I know that I’m the one that suggested we try anal in the first place, so it’s hard to stay in the “He’s picking whichever hole he wants” headspace. So it makes sense to me that someone could fantasize about being cuckolded (completing giving up control) but also be terrified of the idea (giving up control is scary!) lol, if you read some of my other posts here, I spend a lot of time in that kind of mental anguish. But folks here are really supportive and can help escape these mental spirals.
Sorry, this turned into kind of a long rambling post. Uh, MMF threesome sounds like a hot fantasy!
Having these concepts elucidated from a woman’s perspective is a real balm.
Earlier in marriage, I had thought it possible to explore shared sexual pysche with my wife. What a powerful journey of discovery that might have been. However, I’ve come to totally avoid the reactive armor that now adorns the battle tank of her sexual identity.
Had one a few days ago, two bi men and an anal obsessed woman who is my partner. Both fucked her ass but didn’t quite get to fucking eachother, that’ll change next time, and next time we’re both going in her ass at the same time.
