# Advice **URL:** https://www.analonlylife.com/c/advice/7.md [Latest](https://www.analonlylife.com/latest.md) · [Categories](https://www.analonlylife.com/categories.md) · [Tags](https://www.analonlylife.com/tags.md) --- ## [About the Advice category](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/about-the-advice-category/10)
**Author:** [@aol](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/aol)\ **Replies:** 0\ **Last updated:** [July 16, 2024, 6:06pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/about-the-advice-category/10 "2024-07-16T18:06:27Z")
Have questions or concerns about the anal-only lifestyle or anal sex in general? This is the place to seek advice, share tips, and get answers from the community. --- ## [How to do Anal Conditioning](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-do-anal-conditioning/1212)
**Author:** [@Deid\_Mann](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Deid_Mann)\ **Replies:** 5\ **Last updated:** [October 29, 2026, 7:28pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-do-anal-conditioning/1212 "2026-10-29T19:28:46Z")
My fiancee and I are anal only\*, and over time we are enjoying it more and more; for us “sex” now just means “anal”. However, it could still be more. Even with how much she loves it, we do anal primarily because vaginal … --- ## [Favourite position](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/favourite-position/363)
**Author:** [@analena](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/analena)\ **Replies:** 40\ **Last updated:** [October 28, 2026, 2:34pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/favourite-position/363 "2026-10-28T14:34:53Z")
Hi, what’s everyone’s favourite position for anal? personally, I’m quite undecided: Spoon: It’s the least required effort, will always fit, allows to touch all over, but is a bit, well, anticlimatic? pretzel/oyster: … --- ## [Anal at a Distance](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-at-a-distance/1042)
**Author:** [@Jennanymph](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Jennanymph)\ **Replies:** 23\ **Last updated:** [October 9, 2026, 1:48pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-at-a-distance/1042 "2026-10-09T13:48:23Z")
As a bunch of you know, my partner and I are long distance rn while I’m still in school. We FaceTime a lot. When things get spicy, it’s pretty much just us touching ourselves at the same time, which is totally fine but…… --- ## [How do you help a shy conservative partner genuinely want to explore rather than just go along with things?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-do-you-help-a-shy-conservative-partner-genuinely-want-to-explore-rather-than-just-go-along-with-things/1195)
**Author:** [@kurima121](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/kurima121)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [September 28, 2026, 6:32pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-do-you-help-a-shy-conservative-partner-genuinely-want-to-explore-rather-than-just-go-along-with-things/1195 "2026-09-28T18:32:57Z")
Hey, lurker here finally posting because I genuinely need perspectives from people who’ve been through this. My wife and I have been together over 4 years and just got married recently. She grew up pretty conservative w… --- ## [Relationship advice](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/relationship-advice/1186)
**Author:** [@Danuas](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Danuas)\ **Replies:** 10\ **Last updated:** [August 6, 2026, 9:40am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/relationship-advice/1186 "2026-08-06T09:40:38Z")
Hello everyone, I am sorry about the rant and long story you are about to read but I feel this is the only place to go about this. If it is too long and doesn’t belong here, then just remove it. I don’t write on forums … --- ## [No IUD= Anal Only Month?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/no-iud-anal-only-month/1094)
**Author:** [@Jennanymph](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Jennanymph)\ **Replies:** 27\ **Last updated:** [July 4, 2026, 5:38pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/no-iud-anal-only-month/1094 "2026-07-04T17:38:45Z")
So I’ve recently been dealing with some weird health stuff. I get dizzy at random times, I get headaches, my blood pressure drops. I even passed out on the airplane back from LA, which was super embarrassing. After an fM… --- ## [Any online material about anal only lifestyle](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/any-online-material-about-anal-only-lifestyle/1124)
**Author:** [@09caseyj](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/09caseyj)\ **Replies:** 5\ **Last updated:** [June 24, 2026, 3:23am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/any-online-material-about-anal-only-lifestyle/1124 "2026-06-24T03:23:08Z")
Just like the title says. I’m just over a month into anal only lifestyle and I’m loving it and so is my gf. I’m just looking to see if anyone knows of any articles, blogs, etc, that dive into pros/cons and or benefits or… --- ## [Colonoscopy](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/colonoscopy/1115)
**Author:** [@Canassman](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Canassman)\ **Replies:** 11\ **Last updated:** [June 19, 2026, 7:06pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/colonoscopy/1115 "2026-06-19T19:06:50Z")
Well, my wife and I had a curious conversation last night. She is scheduled for her first colonoscopy. I’ve had a couple myself already. The colonoscopy itself is a breeze… it’s the diet a week ahead and the “clean out… --- ## [How to start your anal only adventure?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-start-your-anal-only-adventure/1102)
**Author:** [@Backdoorlover](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Backdoorlover)\ **Replies:** 11\ **Last updated:** [June 15, 2026, 4:22pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-start-your-anal-only-adventure/1102 "2026-06-15T16:22:33Z")
I notice this is the main question, asked by new comers. Most already have anal sex but need to know how to convince the partner to go fully anal only. I think the best possible way to get there is doing an anal only mo… --- ## [Anal Soreness (building a tolerance?)](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-soreness-building-a-tolerance/1111)
**Author:** [@Deid\_Mann](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Deid_Mann)\ **Replies:** 3\ **Last updated:** [June 1, 2026, 5:10am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-soreness-building-a-tolerance/1111 "2026-06-01T05:10:00Z")
My girlfriend and I are primarily anal at this point, but our biggest issue is that it is a real strain on her asshole. We have sex, and it’s incredible, she loves it every time, and there’s no pain while doing it. Howe… --- ## [Concerns About Odor During Anal](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/concerns-about-odor-during-anal/1083)
**Author:** [@AnalOnlyCutie](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/AnalOnlyCutie)\ **Replies:** 9\ **Last updated:** [May 16, 2026, 9:35pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/concerns-about-odor-during-anal/1083 "2026-05-16T21:35:20Z")
So you know that anal is known as the stink and poopchute/poophole which is true. :sweat\_smile: So, do I have to have well-consistent diet and be worry about how it smells every time I play with my ass? It’s been on my m… --- ## [Some questions (sizes, pain, commitment, and love)](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/some-questions-sizes-pain-commitment-and-love/1067)
**Author:** [@Ness](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Ness)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [May 1, 2026, 6:42pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/some-questions-sizes-pain-commitment-and-love/1067 "2026-05-01T18:42:19Z")
This is going to be a fairly long and autobiographical post. I hope it’s not boring, but I think it was necessary to provide some context before asking the questions. A few months ago, I started dating a woman 15 years … --- ## [Navigating Vagina Stimulation During Anal Sex](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/navigating-vagina-stimulation-during-anal-sex/1078)
**Author:** [@urushel2001](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/urushel2001)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [April 26, 2026, 8:14am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/navigating-vagina-stimulation-during-anal-sex/1078 "2026-04-26T08:14:07Z")
For many couples, the “anal trend” isn’t about replacing the vagina, but about creating a more complex, high-voltage sensory map. When you move the focus to the back, the vagina doesn’t just “shut off”—it becomes a secon… --- ## [Valentine’s Day Panic!](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/valentine-s-day-panic/1008)
**Author:** [@Jennanymph](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Jennanymph)\ **Replies:** 24\ **Last updated:** [February 19, 2026, 6:26pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/valentine-s-day-panic/1008 "2026-02-19T18:26:59Z")
So my partner is coming to visit in TWO DAYS for Valentine’s Day and I’m low-key starting to panic. We haven’t seen each other since New Year’s so I want to make it super special. But now I’m second guessing, l feel like… --- ## [Looking for a toy](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/looking-for-a-toy/1007)
**Author:** [@Firefly](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Firefly)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [February 17, 2026, 1:54pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/looking-for-a-toy/1007 "2026-02-17T13:54:25Z")
Okay, maybe you all can help me out. I’m looking for a specific toy shop, I think it’s a maker like Squarepeg, that does platinum silicone toys and somewhat novelty/fantasy dildos. I’m shopping around for a couple differ… --- ## [Using the "Slink Stretch" Toy as a Plug?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/using-the-slink-stretch-toy-as-a-plug/944)
**Author:** [@AnalLover](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/AnalLover)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [January 27, 2026, 9:13pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/using-the-slink-stretch-toy-as-a-plug/944 "2026-01-27T21:13:18Z")
SquarePegToys has a great product (in multiple sizes) called the “Slink”. (Link below.) I have their XXL of the Slink line and I like it very much but I don’t use it very often because getting the “full benefit” (stretch… --- ## [How much testosteone for use by a woman?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-much-testosteone-for-use-by-a-woman/939)
**Author:** [@AnalLover](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/AnalLover)\ **Replies:** 1\ **Last updated:** [November 12, 2025, 6:18pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-much-testosteone-for-use-by-a-woman/939 "2025-11-12T18:18:29Z")
Colt1911 Community Member has mentioned testosterone for women (to increase libido after menopause) a couple of times, for example most recently: The hormone that controls a woman’s libido is testosterone. My 67 ye… --- ## [Anal Only "Training"](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-only-training/910)
**Author:** [@Deid\_Mann](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Deid_Mann)\ **Replies:** 5\ **Last updated:** [October 6, 2025, 10:59pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-only-training/910 "2025-10-06T22:59:25Z")
My girlfriend and I enjoy anal; I prefer it and love the idea of being anal only, she loves it and likes the idea of being anal only for periods of time, but doesn’t think that it’s a long term dynamic would work for her… --- ## [On ass to pussy penetration](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/on-ass-to-pussy-penetration/849)
**Author:** [@Backdoorlover](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Backdoorlover)\ **Replies:** 23\ **Last updated:** [October 1, 2025, 11:19am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/on-ass-to-pussy-penetration/849 "2025-10-01T11:19:09Z")
Well, in that case. If you’re really clean, like clean enough to do ass to mouth, you could try some ass to pussy sex. It’s different and feels really good too. --- ## [Anal Play for Straight Men?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-play-for-straight-men/881)
**Author:** [@Jennanymph](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Jennanymph)\ **Replies:** 12\ **Last updated:** [September 12, 2025, 1:30am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-play-for-straight-men/881 "2025-09-12T01:30:21Z")
I’ll start with my question: how do the straight men here feel about being anally stimulated? I’m thinking about telling my current partner that I want to add anal play into the bedroom. Previously, a boyfriend dragged … --- ## [Since the beginning](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/since-the-beginning/147)
**Author:** [@iAmTheGunman](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/iAmTheGunman)\ **Replies:** 26\ **Last updated:** [July 31, 2025, 8:34pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/since-the-beginning/147 "2025-07-31T20:34:10Z")
As many of you already have (and maybe be tired of hearing from me), but I’m still virgin since I’ve never engaged in any sexual activity besides masturbation of my penis, but I assume many other future couples (not in o… --- ## [Is there a difference in meaning between anal sex or sodomy?](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/is-there-a-difference-in-meaning-between-anal-sex-or-sodomy/260)
**Author:** [@Backdoorlover](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Backdoorlover)\ **Replies:** 20\ **Last updated:** [July 15, 2025, 2:12pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/is-there-a-difference-in-meaning-between-anal-sex-or-sodomy/260 "2025-07-15T14:12:15Z")
In the old days, when looking for anal sex, the term “sodomy” was often used. I know it originates from Sodom and Gomorra tales, where anal sex was the norm. But seems to me the term “sodomy” is more negatively charged.… --- ## [Lube Recipes](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/lube-recipes/721)
**Author:** [@Handsfree4me](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Handsfree4me)\ **Replies:** 4\ **Last updated:** [June 20, 2025, 2:21pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/lube-recipes/721 "2025-06-20T14:21:22Z")
Hey all, I just wanted to share a quick recipe for lube that I do. I found some small ice cube pellet style trays on amazon. I purchased several with different shapes to them. Once they arrived, I washed them of course a… --- ## [I feel like I messed up. I panicked!](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/i-feel-like-i-messed-up-i-panicked/718)
**Author:** [@AspiringAnal-sub](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/AspiringAnal-sub)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [May 23, 2025, 8:10pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/i-feel-like-i-messed-up-i-panicked/718 "2025-05-23T20:10:07Z")
So, hi! I’m kinda new here. Stalked the old page a bit for a few months or maybe the last year. I won’t get into my intro again, you can read that there. The last 10 days have been absolutely mind-blowing. I have been … --- ## [Use a significant amount of the correct type of lubricant is paramount for safe, comfortable, and pleasurable anal sex, minimizing the risk of injury, pain, and other complications](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/use-a-significant-amount-of-the-correct-type-of-lubricant-is-paramount-for-safe-comfortable-and-pleasurable-anal-sex-minimizing-the-risk-of-injury-pain-and-other-complications/709)
**Author:** [@urushel2001](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/urushel2001)\ **Replies:** 2\ **Last updated:** [May 19, 2025, 8:38pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/use-a-significant-amount-of-the-correct-type-of-lubricant-is-paramount-for-safe-comfortable-and-pleasurable-anal-sex-minimizing-the-risk-of-injury-pain-and-other-complications/709 "2025-05-19T20:38:59Z")
(+) Reduces Friction: The primary benefit of lube is to minimize friction between the penis, fingers, toys, or other objects and the delicate tissues of the anus and rectum. The anus does not naturally lubricate itself … --- ## [Here's an odd question](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/heres-an-odd-question/555)
**Author:** [@Firefly](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Firefly)\ **Replies:** 9\ **Last updated:** [May 17, 2025, 8:55pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/heres-an-odd-question/555 "2025-05-17T20:55:46Z")
Got a little bit of an odd question - what might make anal sex feel kind of gritty? As Mr. Firefly and I were having fun yesterday, I kept getting distracted by a gritty feeling as he went in and out. (And yes, we were u… --- ## [Anal sex frequency](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-sex-frequency/638)
**Author:** [@Sonja](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Sonja)\ **Replies:** 6\ **Last updated:** [March 25, 2025, 9:29am UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/anal-sex-frequency/638 "2025-03-25T09:29:31Z")
How often can you safely have anal sex? Can frequency increase as you get more experienced with it? I know that in the beginning, you need to go slow and take a couple days off every now and then, but does the asshole ge… --- ## [How to do a shave](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-do-a-shave/330)
**Author:** [@iAmTheGunman](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/iAmTheGunman)\ **Replies:** 13\ **Last updated:** [March 17, 2025, 9:32pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/how-to-do-a-shave/330 "2025-03-17T21:32:26Z")
I started shaving my groin area since I got my first own rake, and I must say that it’s hard. I once tried at least trimming my anal region, but I was scared of cutting myself (I spend most of my day sitting). So I was… --- ## [Double penetration](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/double-penetration/570)
**Author:** [@Firefly](https://www.analonlylife.com/u/Firefly)\ **Replies:** 8\ **Last updated:** [February 18, 2025, 1:15pm UTC](https://www.analonlylife.com/t/double-penetration/570 "2025-02-18T13:15:57Z")
So, Mr. Firefly blurted out the other day that he wants to do double anal penetration with me. That surprised me a bit, but I’m not opposed, so I told him I’d contemplate it. So… How does one go about stretching out for… [Next page](https://www.analonlylife.com/c/advice/7.md?page=1)